I am 14 Yrs Old And I Think I Have Depression But I Can't Talk To Anyone, Who Can I Talk To?

Question

I cannot talk to my parents and i have tried to talk to my friends/teachers/school counsellors but they are no help to me,... i cant open up to anyone and i can't stop Self-harming... please help me! Who can i talk to.... i am scared!!

Answer 1

First - before anything, let me tell you it IS scary to be depressed; people who don't have it don't realize it. You can get panicked and feel like the world is going to end, your heart starts racing, you want to crawl out of your skin? and to avoid those feelings you just become unfeeling about everything. Anxiety and depression go hand in hand and they are both scary things that make you feel separate from other people especially at your age. So don't feel alone. If anything write to me anytime. I literally wrote the book on depression, anxiety and all other "crazy" things that people won't talk about. This is going to sound weird, but do you have friends? With Mothers? If you can't talk to your mom, who s the coolest Mom you know? Or who is the craziest Mom you know? They will know what you're talking about. The counselors at school aren't neccessarily trained in recognizing this; do you have a student advocate at school? This is someone who may not even get paid, but works to show kids like you how to get the help they need. How to get through the system. If you are truly depressed, and I'm guessing that with self harm you are - you need professional help, and do not be ashamed or weirded out by asking a Dr for help. There is no sense at all, AT ALL, in living a life of depression, fear, self mutilation, and the constant unknown when you can get help. There are support groups for people your age, and it could be that just identifying the underlying problem solves it! But you won't know unless the right people get involved. PLease write if want help....thru Answers I won't know you, so it wouldn't embarrass you at all...

Answer 2

It is interesting that you say you can't open up to anyone, yet you readily express your fears in an open forum.

The self harm is the most concerning

It sounds like what we now call borderline personality disorder.

type that into a search engine and read up on it.

It is obvious that you are very intelligent, as your writing shows much more intellect and maturity than a usual 14 yo.

After reading some about the problem you will have a better idea about what you are dealing with and you can approach a professional counseling agency with some ideas.......in many states the local mental health agency operates on a sliding scale for payment which means if you have no income, you will not be charged, and also in many states a teen in crisis can seek help without parental consent, especially if there is self harm.

Also you may wish to seek the parental closeness and support from other sources, such as Big Brother where the people are screened. Use that obvious intelligence to know what sources will work for you and don't be afraid to be tenacious in finding what will work for you.

Answer 3

Try this:

http://www.teenforce.net/

Listen, if you are not comfortable talking with your parents, don't force it. Its generallly something you would do to increase the connectivity between you, but that is something that needs to happen at your faith and at your appropriate time.

Try the above link. There may be people on-staff willing to take you through the first steps of what you are going through.

If you have thoughts of hurting yourself, please call a hotline or emergency room:
http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html

When the time comes for you to talk to your parents, let it happen. You won't regret it, but you need to have someone on your side that you can lean on should your trust in opening up becomes violated in some way. If you don't have someone close by you can talk to, you will be further depressed.

If you think you are being plauged by bad spirit, and believe me I don't doubt the existance of it, see if an organization like this can help, but first try the other links I gave _first_. You'll be served better and more in-depth by them.
LAST resort: http://www.revivalhill.org/tkg.html

Answer 4

Self infliction is a way that a lot of people express their emotion and some say it is the only way they can "feel" emotion. It sorta releases a lot of anger or depression, and even stress. Some even feel "unworthy" and feel this is a way to punish themselves. Please don't believe that you need punishing. This is not a healthy way to get in touch with your emotions. It can cost you so much. I have a friend that used to self-inflict. She has the scars today to show it. Finally she got in contact with a therapist that was able to break through the reasons she was doing this. She now expresses her anger, frustrations and stress in a healthier way. She talks long walks, she screams into a pillow and she is on the appropriate medication. She went from being a very sad, angry young lady to being a more positive and secure young woman. The teen years are sooo difficult. I remember. You are going through what your peers are going through. They just probably don't let others know it. Please don't feel your a freak because you feel this way. Your not. You are probably more normal than you think. Just hang on it will get better! Please find someone you trust and be completely honest with them. There are self help books out there. Ones on depression and other mood disorders. I purchased one at Barnes and Nobles on self infliction. It has a lot of information that helps one to identify their emotions and why they feel the way they do. Also you may find related articles on the web.

You have so much ahead of you in life. Believe me you can find happiness. Just hang in there it will happen.

Answer 5

I am presuming you are in USA? do you have a phone service like we do here in Australia called Lifeline, where you can talk to someone, you can stay anonymous, and they will help you in the short term, and guide you to where you go or what you do next for further help. Do you have a doctor you can talk to? even a different one from your usual, if you are concerned about privacy.
I am really concerned for you, and wish there was something I could do. PLEASE give some sort of counsellor another chance, maybe you have to build up a sense of trust first.

God bless you, you will be in my prayers tonight

Answer 6

Surely there is someone who will listen to you. A grandparent, an aunt or uncle...one of your friend's parents who seem to be very loving and caring. If all else fails and you are in the US I would call the crisis center hotline...they do care...are trained for just this type of thing and will get you help.

Answer 7

in my opinion i think what you should do is try and stay calm. There is some medications you can take in order to stop being so depressed. think about the positive part of the world. i understand how you feel. my father here can sometimes get so annoying and when i least expect it i end up locked in my room crying. get up go outside and take a walk meanwhile you think about the hardest parts of life that are coming your way. stay in school so you can get a life and get out of the sad part of the world

Answer 8

You can talk to us. Also, visit my webpage, Antidepressant That Works:

http://www.geocities.com/seabulls69/AntidepressantThatWorks.html

In it, I recommend a book that helps you deal with all kinds of mood disorders. At the bottom is a link to mixed nuts. There are lots of people there to talk to. Stay busy... it helps.

Answer 9

Look in your local phone book for counselling services. Hopefully you can find the right person to talk to. Good luck and keep trying.

Answer 10

Okay Dude Firstly of all Write a letter to ur parents...secondly do you have any other reletives or a girlfriend/Boy friend/ best friend? if so tell them and they might ask someone like their older brothers/sisters for advice...Personally i think you should see your Uncle or Aunty o(¬_¬)o