Where in the Bible...?

Question

does it say we must wait until we are maried before we can have sex? I looked for it before, but all I found was about not having sex with someone who is married to someone else, or hot having sex with animals or relatives. I don't think it does say you have to wait.

I lost my virginity to the man that I plan to marry, do you think that's alright?

Answer 1

I believe it does say sex outside of marriage is not right, but I think you will find that the heart of this is the casual sexual relations the world is using. If you are about to marry someone then I don't think God will mind too much that you had relations already. Marriage is made in the heart not in pieces of paper and rituals. If you think about it, the no sex before marriage rule is there to protect God's people from becoming so hooked on the sex aspect that they forget God. You see, the adversary uses sex as a lure to trick people into letting their senses overrule their heart for God. He uses pleasure and pressure as his tools to control others. God is a God of need and love. He doesn't want us to be tricked by the enemy so he has set guidelines to help us be wise to the tricks. They are not there to trap us or tie us up into bondage. You say you will marry this person. My heart for both of you is that you have all God's blessings on your relationship and marriage. You obviously love each other, and that is what God wants.

Answer 2

First that flaws of the bible not been explicit is quite evident. Second, if you do find any, you'd find many that explains it away. Like a father having sex with his daughters in the bible. Third, the issue of moral is borrowed in xty and not evidenced. If you ever find a clearer evidence, the church or the pastors will give it a far different meaning.
Unlike in Islam anyway.
On the second issue, having it with your husband to be is not allowed and a sin. Despite it all, though one of the sanction is that you get to marry each other as fornicators, yet you too must seek forgiveness from God.
Please do that so that you may be saved the consequence[s] of fornication.

Answer 3

It is interesting how the word "fornication" comes up in modern interpretations of biblical law. BACK when the books of the Bible were written, "fornication" actually meant sexual activity in a vault shaped chamber, usually beneath or within a temple called a "fornix" or "fornicatio" although the exact words "fornix" and "fornicatio" also refer to the archways, or doorways in which prostitutes (usually temple prostitutes) lurked about (much like today) soliciting clients.

Pre-Christian/Jewish law forbids sexual congress between unmarried individuals not becuse it's particularly bad to do so, but because such actions indicated non-Jewish (or at least non pre-Christian) social and spiritual mores. So today when Christians go around discussing fornication as a sin, they're making unconscious reference to the old laws about religious segregation.

As to whether or not I see this as wrong, bad, or just intellectually lazy isn't the point. I'm just one of those guys who likes reading history books and even learning what groups of people (especially ancient people) have to say about themselves, rather than what a bunch of Christians/pre-Christians have to say ABOUT them.

As to the whole sex before marriage thing. Well that's a funny can of worms to, because in some ancient instances sex WAS marriage, so if you lost your virginity to your fiancee, I guess that just means that you get to marry him twice, or heck...every time you are intimate. Of course that's a stupid literalist way of looking at it, and no one can really tell you whether or not something like that is okay. Ultimately, you have t make your own informed choices, and do what best works for you. Some people actually NEED lots of sexual contact, others don't. Those who need it, tend to get it from multiple partners, for whatever reasons, and I am not gonna sit up here on my high horse and say that it's a good thing or a bad thing.

However many timesyou have sex BEFORE marriage isn't going to change sex after marraige. In some cases it's been shown to IMPROVE sex after marriage, but this isn't something that works for everyone. Sex is as much emotional as it is physical, and if sex BEFORE marriage means one thing to you, then just make sure that sex AFTER marriage means a whole lot MORE!

Answer 4

Where does it say that kiddie porn is immoral? The Bible speaks many times about fornication and adultery. How can there be fornication and adultery if human sex is just another recreational activity such as bowling?

What good comes from someone who jumps from bed to bed? What are its fruits? If it only fulfills a selfish desire, it is a sin and not of God.

Answer 5

How can U have been faithful & pure awaiting marriage 2 UR husband/wife on UR wedding day, if U've slept around?
Common Sense!

Mary & Joseph were engaged when Mary with Divine Intervention became pregnant.
UR engaged, U intend 2 marry, I'm not God but I'm sure he'd 4give U.

Answer 6

First of all, this is a moral type law of sins-against-nature from the old testament. These 'natural' laws are carried thru from the old testament. There's plenty of other rules and laws from the old testament that aren't carried thru, - like customs, eating habits, and ceremonial laws.

First Timothy is one example
1:10 ...for the sexually immoral, for homosexuals, for slave-traders, for liars, for perjurers, and for any other thing contrary to the sound doctrine;

-since it's so blunt and obvious, but there's a few more. After all, if you were the writer and you wanted to tell people what they needed to KNOW, you don't re-hash old stuff like "don't run with scissors". Folks already know that !!

Marriage is also a big deal, fornicators are pre-marriage violators, adultery is post marriage violators.

Answer 7

Try St Paul's first letter to the Corinthians Chapter 7 verses 8 and 9.

Answer 8

Sex before marriage is called fornication, which the Bible equals to sexual immorality which is a sin. But like you we are all sinners and ALL fall short fo the glory of God..we are saved by his grace alone.

Answer 9

i had a friend when i was growing up whose fahter was translating one of the oldest bibles known. although i never knew what it said, apparently it was very different to the modern bibles.
he used to get very excited when he was working on it.

personally i think the bible is flawed, because you can repent and be forgiven, and go to heaven.
i think it should be an average of your life.
if you have been a good person you should go to heaven.

i dont think sex before marige is bad, after all we are just mamals, and all mamals have sex, some because they enjoy it ( dolphins and chimpanzees) does this mean that they are going to hell?

i dont mean to upset anyone so please dont flame me.
every one has their own beliefs.

i am undecided i want to believe

Answer 10

Matthew 5:27-29 (New King James Version)
New King James Version (NKJV)
Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc.



Adultery in the Heart

27 “You have heard that it was said to those of old,[a] ‘You shall not commit adultery.’[b] 28 But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.

I would say if your haveing sex with someone it would be safe to say at one point in time you lusted after them. If your lusting for someone other than your husband/ wife your committing adultery