How do I move on and Put the Past behind me?

Question

I have not talked to my mother in 10 yrs almost and i want to know what was going on, that it has taken 10 yrs for her to talk to me what with out being to pushy.

Answer 1

Unfortunately, the only real way to find out the information you seek is to ask. I would call her, and ask her if you can come over and talk, or if you have not spoken in a long time, just call her a few times a week to re-establish the lines of communication, and slowly work up to a meeting where you can tell her you would like to have a talk, and when you get to that point, you can try to ask her what you want to ask her, but bear in mind that it does not mean that she has to provide you with an answer.

Hope this helps!

Answer 2

It's difficult to say without knowing more about what has happened. Something must have happend to create this space between the two of you, what was it? First to answer your first question, how do you move on and put the past behind me? Focus on the future. The Scriptures say to "forget what is behind, and press on to what lies ahead." What's in the past is in the past. It sounds like you are growing up and having some maturity! That's a good thing! You are desiring to have a relationship with your mom, that's fantastic! Just do it.
I'm a Mom and sometimes we get stubborn, and set in our ways(not me of course, but others) and sometimes it takes my daughter to make a move if I've been really hurt. Just a little inch and then I give a little, and we are back together again. It's all about forgiveness from your heart. Somebody has to make a move, and it sounds like your heart is ready. When I was younger I once did'nt talk to my parents for 6 years. I finally started talking with them again, and it's as if I had never left.
She's your Mom, she loves you, just call her if you're more comfortable on the phone at first, keep it light, and be funny, be happy, make it a fun thing. If you start the communication going and keep it light, then things will get talked out eventually. What you don't want to do is call and start right into "you" this or "you" that. Just say hi, let her know how you are, ask how she is, be happy, and then call again, how does that sound? Not too hard huh!

Answer 3

This shows one of you maintained unwanted distance and made your relationship one way. This is also because unwanted ego. Everybody on this earth should know one thing, that: "THE LIFE IS SHORT & MAKE IT SWEET". This also shows that we human beings in large amount, lack common sense and logic in our day to day life.
One thing is that "somebody should put the ball into motion". otherwise this shows how much stupidity we are having in our thinking. You are younger than your mother. Why can't you start talking to her. Show that you love her from your heart, in words and deeds. Just showing it in words means you are a hypocrite and artificial in your behaviour and manners. Instead of commenting on your mother, take lead and drag her to conversation and show her that you really love her. Shed your ego forthwith. Everything will come to normal. Good luck dear! No mom is too bad to hate her own offspring. They will forget whatever wrong things you have done, they will forgive you for having understood your mistakes. When you become mother, you will know what is motherhood. Learn by mistakes and try to make yourself perfect, stop commenting on others including your mother.

Answer 4

As I just lost my mother [cancer] I have a feeling to urge you to get whatever bad vib has come between the two of you; and fix it up: life is too short: and, even though you would think you have `forever' ~ time has this awful habit of running out . . . .don't be left with a broken heart . . .and don't let this happen to your mother either! Find a way to patch things up! My mother and I were so very close; it was a wonderful thing; and a great comfort to me, since she passed.

Answer 5

think about how she gave birth to you
and she's the only mother you have
that is something special if you think about it
and she's going to be gone one day for good
so no matter how annoy she is or unreasonable or whateva
spend some time with her
maybe you will realize that... the past is nothing. you will feel better if yall talk it out and get over the issues




hey ma how you doing
come over i'm cooking (i would fall for that cuz i love food)
or let's go out for dinner

Answer 6

dont delay, go talk AND listen
quietly
sometimes there are no reasons
only seasons of pain
you can make the winters go away
by not being the continuing rain
like a sunbeam
seemingly feeble
be that patch of sun and become a warmth to everyone

Answer 7

Had this problem.Only my mother hasent seen me for 15 yrs.About 2 yrs ago i contacted her forgiving her for leaving me at 14,due to family problems.I feel better now that im not holding anger against her,although she has never wrote me back,i feel peace knowing i did my part.and someday maybe she will be able to have peace to.Good luck God bless:O)

Answer 8

The only way to know what happen for those long years is to pray,swallow your pride and follow your heart desire.she still your mother whatever misunderstanding happen between the two of you,i believed shes keep thingking about you just happen .sometimes our mother keep telling us which one is better for us without knowing they hurting us....look on other side she wants the best for us...go,tell your mother that u miss her.....

Answer 9

You'll never know until you talk to her. She is your mom you have a right it is not being pushy.

Answer 10

Stop living in the past. That's how you move on and think bout the present and the future