I just keep wondering for those long years that my father left us.. why?we kept thinking about him.We supposed to hate him,but theres no room for my heart to do it.Did he thinked about us.I wish where ever he is...he will not forgot his children.
2006-07-07 23:23:39 · 19 answers · asked by ed0425 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
IM SURE HE THINKS OF YOU, AND IT DOESNT HELP TO FEEL ANGRY OR TO HATE HIM, ITS NOT EASY TO FORGIVE PEOPLE WHO HAVE HURT YOU BUT IT MAKES LIFE EASIER TO LET GO OF PAST AND MOVE ON IN THE FUTURE. JUST REMEMBER HOW IT MADE YOU FEEL WHEN HE LEFT SO WHEN YOU HAVE KIDS YOU WONT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE
2006-07-07 23:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by sweetie1995 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is nothing but your heart speaking about your father. You cannot forget him as he is your part and parcel. Whatever he has done, there must be some obvious reason. He will not forget his own offsprings, if he is a real human being. I can understand your pain. I can understand his absence in your life. I can understand your craving for his love. This is what every child wants till they become independent and start producing their offsprings. This is called circle of life. Please give out a call through papers and TV Shows, if you want to get him back. Try everything to get him back. He may be too thinking in the same way. Something untold is keeping him from all of you. I am with you in your painful moments. May the unseen God help you in bringing him to you. Let your call through telepathy reach him. Good luck!
2006-07-08 06:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times the answer is yes, the children receive considerable thought when fathers or mothers leave. However, leaving is sometimes better than staying for the sake of the children. A childs life can be utterly miserable if the parent that wants to leave stays in these circumstances. When someone is not happy, they tend to want to make others around them unhappy. Misery loves company. The reason why your father left was because either he or your mother was unhappy about something very seriously important to them. I'm sure it wasn't because of you. I'm sure that he regrets not being able to see you and that it causes him pain everyday.
2006-07-08 06:32:27 · answer #3 · answered by Revelator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of people think they are living happily (which your father may be doing) but really they are not truly happy because of the voids in their lives and on the inside there will always be something missing.
I'm really sorry about your situation.
I'm sure he hasn't forgotten you. I think that sometimes when a father (or mother) left his family a long time ago, he really regrets it and wishes he could have relationships with his kids, but then shame and guilt keep him away.
i wish in situations like this the father would be the man and despite shame and guilt re-unite with his kids and do his best to at least try to be a supportive and encouraging voice in their lives (even if he would never truly be a father). unfortunately, I've never heard of it working this way...
I'm really sorry....
-Meg
2006-07-08 06:34:26 · answer #4 · answered by Meg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can safely imagine he was a very unhappy man. No man can really give up his child/children without it telling on him [even if he pretends deep down he's fibbing to himself] You know, people are really pretty decent under the emotional roller-coaster that they get stuck on in relationships. They never actually INTEND that this happens: it's just that's the way life goes sometimes. Even the real naughty ones feel bad on some level, I'm sure of it! Perhaps you can leave a small section of your heart, reserved for the man who helped bring you into this world! If he could know your feelings, it would comfort him.
2006-07-08 06:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by Tash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Guilt is always there in his heart and mind, especially, if left without reason or because of a third person. Anyway, you've done the right thing by not hating him. Leave it in the hands of the Lord, and pray that he will one day knock on your door.
2006-07-08 07:11:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sam X9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a parent leaves the truth is very seldom told completely about why. He is no doubt living his separate life and doing the day to day things we all do, but no-one can totally erase their memory. I'm sure he thinks about you too but like you he has to get on with living in the day.
*Stacy R, alcoholism is a terminal illness, not a choice.
2006-07-08 06:30:59 · answer #7 · answered by cymbalita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man can have many reasons for doin so ans there is no point in guessing. You are right about not hating him. That would only cause you misery. Just leave your heart open and pray that one day God answers your question and HE will.
2006-07-08 07:02:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father left me ages ago. I really miss him. He had a child before me and now he has more kids. He doesnt care about me. Or the other kids before me. My mom told me he probly doesnt even care if hes dead. I think my mom is trying to make me hate him but all i can think about is hes my dad and i have to love him even though hes done mean things in the past.
Just belive what you want to belive and love who you want to love really. x
2006-07-08 06:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by ..joanne.. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope not. I hope they suffer for life. My son's father left 10 years ago and has not contacted us since. He has liver problems, from drinking too much, and he is not supposed to live past xmas. Still, no call no letter, no nothing. I hope he rots in hell.
2006-07-08 06:27:55 · answer #10 · answered by Stacy R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋