...About finding my dad, me and my mom had a long talk about him. She said "If you want to try and find him i will help you find him and maybe build a relastionship with him but please dont get your hopes up"
I dont know wheather i should try and find him because its highly unlikley i will as he has changed his name a number of time.
Please give me some advice weather you think its worth a try!?
2006-07-07 23:18:08 · 4 answers · asked by ..joanne.. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That depends on how much of a need you have to meet him. Ask yourself if 10 or 20 years from now will you regret not finding him? If you think this will always be an issue then I think you should try and find him and put it behind you. What is the worst that can happen? Its not like you have a relationship with him now so if it doesn't turn out that way fine you've lost nothing. But it may turn out to be a good experience and you may develop some sort of relationship. Either way you cant loose unless you never try.
2006-07-07 23:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by micron816 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always worth a shot. I found my father when I was 23. We have an okay relationship now, but not really close. This was more closure for me. I needed to know why he left, as I am sure you do. I had so many questions, I am sure you do as well. If you contact him and he's a jerk, then you know you did everything you could to establish contact with this man. This may not be pretty. It may no go the way you'd like. He may not want to see you or to respond to you. At least you'll know where you stand with this person. Then you can take it from there.
2006-07-08 06:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I (a total stranger) think of that is utterly irrelevant... What truly matters is what YOU want, deep inside... So, you must ask the same question to yourself, and you must also answer to it... There's little help I can offer... I'll say just this: don't think of the chances you have, this is not about playing the lottery... just think about the emotional impact this decision might have or lead to. Think that you may find him, and think of the important part -- the relationship... Things like the odds of finding him seem insignificant... Of course, there is the question of how much you want to invest in your quest (time, money, hope, feelings...). But, again, you must answer, as it depends of how much you desire to be reunited with your father... It's good you have your mother's support, I suggest you use it... Hope is the key. Keep that in mind, OK? Good bye and good luck in your quest !...
2006-07-08 06:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by Restless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to have closure,or maybe to develop a relationship,i believe its worth it.I also agree with your mother,take things slow when you meet him and dont set high expectations.Good luck God bless:O)
2006-07-08 08:15:06 · answer #4 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋