my bf's dad recently bought his brother a brand new Civic. my bf is the older child. in the past, my bf has had messed up cars because the dad didn't want to buy him expensive cars due to financial issues or so he claim. the cars my bf had have transmission probs and the car won't even work anymore. my bf had to pay for one of the cars he had but the parents even took back all the $ when they resold the car. however... just recently because the younger bro crashed his own car (it was his fault), the dad decided to buy him the new Civic. my bf feels like crap. he feels like it's unfair. he has more experience with driving too. all the old cars that broke down on him wasn't his fault. it was because the car was too old. and now just because the bro crashed his own he gets a new one. the dad even tried lying to my bf at the beginning that he didn't pay for it. btw my bf and the bro are over 18. do you think that the dad's decision to buy the younger son a new car was a fair/wrong choice?
2006-07-07 21:38:03 · 17 answers · asked by dorkydork 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
to people that intend to talk nonsense/trash: first of all you don't have to answer to my ? and if you are, try giving me some respect. i'm simply asking for ONE answer and some people here think they're mr/mrs know it all saying "stay out of it" etc. i'm NOT part of it and not intending to. just that i need to know what others think so i can comfort my bf. i stated here that my bf feels like crap... didn't i? i need to know first if his dad has acted unfair/wrong in order to say more to him. i just needed 2nd opinions and people here criticizing here and there. why don't whoever claim my bf need a life get a life? i'm sure you at one point depended on your parents for stuff. don't even dare callin my bf a low life. he has a job. just that he feels that when the situation was at him his dad didn't help out the way he did with his bro. w t f is some of you guy's prob? thank you tho... for the ones that answered my question. i appreciate it! dis is directed to haters
2006-07-07 21:54:21 · update #1
to the haters: lets say your friend (in my bf's situation) came up to you with the same situation as his. y don't you guys dare to repeat the same thing you said to me to your friends? lets see how they would feel. n lets see if you would dare to say it face to face... you're only hating because it's online huh?
2006-07-07 22:31:10 · update #2
From what you said, YES, I THINK IT IS UNFAIR ! It looks to me that your boyfriend isn't too loved by his father, especially compared to his brother... What really bothers me is that father tried to lie about who bought the car... He KNOWS he did wrong ! Plus, Honda CIVIC (and brand new -- probably full option, no doubt) sounds like a pretty expensive car... With the same money, TWO more modest cars, but reliable, could have been bought, for both brothers, right? After not wanting to help your boyfriend, invoking financial issues, "dad" suddenly raise the cash for "junior's wheels" !... Why didn't he help his older son by at least giving part of the money for a car, or getting him a better deal?... That was totally impossible too, wasn't it!! I'm sorry, but such things really happen... One child being loved more than the other... I know it won't help you telling it's not the only case... Of course your boyfried feels let down, who wouldn't?! But you can help by being there for him... Sometimes this kind of affection does miracles... Do not let him to get vengeful towards either father or younger brother... They did him wrong, but this does not need to turn into blood hatred... Although he may choose never to call upon their support ever again, out of pride (I know I would)... Take care both of you and believe things will get better in time !
P.S. About what you said to the haters out there... You must understand Internet is a pretty big place, and a lot of people take advantage of their "hidden" identity to manifest in this undignified way... Nobody can stop this from happening, so the best would be to ignore those poor, pathetic, sorry-excuses for a human being... There's no point in getting angry at them, it will only hurt you more... Trust me on that. Take care now and bye-bye !
2006-07-07 23:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by Restless 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is such a joke. If your bf wants a new civic then tell him to buy it himself. The fact the the father bought him a car in the first place was generous. Most kids are not so lucky. And rather than being a spoiled brat you should just be happy he's your bf. Unless your idea of bf is one having a car. What his father does with his money is his business. Just be thankful your bf gets a some share. And by the way, if your bf is driving then he's old enough to show responsibility and get a job and buy his own car. And what's this got to do with you anyway.
2006-07-08 04:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by TBor ROCKS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the younger son actually belongs to the dad and the other one your BF is adopted. So one is treated better then the other. Seriously speaking it is unfair when each child should be treated the same. Your BF needs to get a good job and buy himself a new car and not worry about dad
2006-07-08 04:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds unfair but do you have all the details down. correctly? You might not know all of the facts. sounds like the way you tell it that it is not fair but it is the Dads problem. You should tell your b/f to fix his car or get another used one. Then he will know it is his and he earned it on his own with out having to suck up to Daddy or the bother.??? No one can take the car away if it is his. Just learn to live with out the Dads help or approval. It will make his life easier in the long run.
2006-07-08 05:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it sucks but what are you going to do. My husband's family does the same with my husband and his younger brother. His brother has gotten everything he has ever wanted weather he has needed it or not. My advise is to tell your bf that he should be proud of himself and have him save up and buy a car with out daddy's help. it is the best self esteem booster.
2006-07-08 05:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by tommyslili 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to be kidding. They are both over 18 and he's whining about daddy not buying him a car? Get over it. If he were 16 I might say he needs to learn that life isn't fair. But he's an adult. He needs to grow up and get a job/life/car on his own.
2006-07-08 04:47:06 · answer #6 · answered by dogstarz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a family issue. You are his girl friend, not part of the family. I am sure your boy friends Father had his reasons why he bought the car for his younger son. My opinion; stay out of it. It is simply not your place or your business to get wrapped up in this.
2006-07-08 04:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by Heidi Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say your bf messed up cars, not one car, but several. Perhaps that is why. It could be, too, that the dad had better ins. on the bro's car that he'd wrecked and didn't when your bf wrecked all of his. I think the dad did what he could afford.
2006-07-08 04:45:30 · answer #8 · answered by jerkygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are both over 18 they should be buying their own cars
2006-07-08 04:55:06 · answer #9 · answered by beer_pharts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could say it's unfair, or perhaps the dad's financial situation has gotten better since your b/f was his brother's age, or maybe he feels your b/f is a man who can get the things he wants himself
2006-07-08 05:09:05 · answer #10 · answered by Velociraptor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋