I have a guy friend that I like a lot. he found out through another friend, took it well. we're still friends but he doesn't think of me "that way" plus he's in this on again, off again relationship with another girl. is there any hope for me? I know probably not, and I wanna just stick around and be friends but every time I see him it's like getting my friggin heart ripped out... gotta know, is there any chance he will ever notice me? I am trying to move on but it's hard!
2006-07-07 21:23:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if there really is no hope for me, how do I get over him? can we still be friends? is there any way to get rid of the heart-ripping stuff but keep our friendship?
2006-07-07 21:37:51 · update #1
It's a big world, and your life can change in an instant, and there's an awful lot of instants every day.
Yes, it's entirely possible that he'll notice the sweet girl that's been under his nose the entire time.
More likely, in my opinion, however, he might continue the whole on again off again thing.
There's a rule of physics: objects at rest stay at rest.
So if you want him to notice you, get the object moving, yeah dig?
2006-07-07 21:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by thegreatdg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you're in the mood to be a booty-call, then no. From your brief description this guy sounds like a loser. He is probably seeing other girls besides the one you know of. The only time a guy says "he doesn't think of you that way" is when he finds you unattractive or truly cares enough about you to protect you from his loser self, the latter is unlikely. I suggest moving on. Find someone you really enjoy spending time with and who makes you feel happy and at home. Don't try to make him jealous cause you will only push him away. Play your cards right and a good guy will come for you. Just be patient, there are a few out there.
2006-07-08 04:32:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over the years you meet a lot of people who for one reason or another disappear out of your life.Then years later you meet them again and wonder what it was you liked about them. When you meet the right person,the difference is that they do "feel that way" and they don't disappear around the corner with someone else.When a break up comes,the best way to deal with it is to make it as clean a break as you can.They say absence makes the heart fonder,but it can also give it time to mend before the next encounter with Eros and his arrows.
2006-07-08 04:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by mystic_master3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Base on what you describe of him he seem to be a guy who will not be serious committing into any relationship. Its a natural feeling when you see someone you like. Things may change if you came to know exactly what character he is.
You may want to find out more about him and his background among friends. You can't judge a person by its looks such creation will not everlasting but what liaise in his heart about you that's point really crucial .
Jumping fast into a relationship may turn out to be bearing lots of hurts. There's always people coming in out of your life and there will be someone out there who will appreciate you even more. Let nature take it own way don't let your eye over rule your mind and heart. You may one fine day tell yourself its lucky that I didn't choose him as my life partner.
2006-07-08 04:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by Simple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok this is from experience. I have loved this guy since I was ten years old. I am now thirty one. He is the most wonderful man on earth. When I finally got over him I met the man of my dreams. If he doen't think of you that way he isn't going to think of you that way. Maybe moving on will get you over that. I am still really good friends with my dream crush. But my husband surpasses this other guy.
2006-07-08 04:29:05 · answer #5 · answered by tommyslili 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know. But in the meantime, dont wait around for something that may or may not happen. You should go out with friends, take a class in something you like, pottery, art, whatever. Something to keep you busy. He may come around he may not. Dont waste your precious time sitting around. Get out there! There is so much to see and do and time is so precious.
2006-07-08 04:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by SilverWolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, do yourself a favor and find somebody who does like you for more than a friend. Quit wasting your time...ya never know, maybe the other guy will turn around when he sees you looking in other places
2006-07-08 04:27:00 · answer #7 · answered by Velociraptor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time tells all .....But...keep your options open for other guys you might meet. By the way, dont let his relationship problems get to you, if he is out of it, then cool he is on the market. But if hes still running back to her, then there must be a reason why. And please DO NOT encourage him to cheat on her with you. Just be careful hon.
2006-07-08 04:33:32 · answer #8 · answered by LAkitten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wont notice you in that way as long as theres an on/off again relationship hes already in. Your best bet is to move forward and not allow him to pull at your heart like this.
2006-07-08 04:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by Stars-Moon-Sun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be his friend...maybe suggest going to lunch or just hanging out one day.....invite him to things that you know he would like.....maybe a concert or a movie...maybe if his favorite band or something is coming to town get tickets and tell him a friend cancelled and you have a extra ticket......get some "alone" time.
2006-07-08 04:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by lbcgrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋