What exactly is wrong with women?

Question

Ok, I'm a fairly successful, early 30ish guy, Master's Degree from a major University. I married a woman that I met in college...then got divorced a few years after marrying. No kids, no drama in my life and have honestly never been turned down for a date. So, I know it's not my looks or anything like that, but here are the problems:

1. My sense of humor and personality draws females and is geared to the flirtatious side.
2. Why is it that women past 25, all of sudden develop an insecurity about women who are 18-21? This has ended two straight relationships with the women saying, I do #1 too much and they think I want a younger woman.
3. Why is it that women say they want a good-looking guy, who has a great personality, sense of humor and is intelligent...then when they get a guy with these things, they can't handle it? They think that since he has these things, he will go to someone else and become insecure?

Come on ladies, what is up with the sudden insecurity?

Thanks for the replies so far. I just want to say to a few of you that have decided I am too high on myself, please look and see that I am posting this on the internet at 1:30 in the morning. That hardly gives the image of someone who is high on themselves. I am confident and will stay confident.

This comment was interesting, if I hurt my ex without knowing it. Ok, say what you all will, but it's not my job in life to be able to know when I hurt someone else. That alone shows insecurity in the woman, if she can't even tell the man when they are hurt.

Onto the full of myself part and sense of humor part. I am a full-time Psychologist and a part-time standup comedian. My job, really both of them requires a sense of humor. Up until now, I hadn't mentioned a job nor had I said one thing that I said about myself and why did someone take a jab at my degree meaning nothing? That was used to show that I'm not some broke loser living at home. For the rest, thanks for your answers.

Answer 1

Maybe your just attracting insecure ladies as girlfriends...either that or they were unsure about your affection for them.....I wouldn't care if i had a good man if he joked around with other women..unless they think your going to take one home with ya or something???I don't kow what there(your exgirlfriends problem is)I'm actually kind of like that too...Where i'll joke and flirt with guys..and i know if i had a jealous or insecure man he wouldn't last!!!Cause i wouldn't change..thats just the way i am.....
I understand about the insecurity thing though really......my best friends kind of like that...because i joke w/her b/f she thinks i want her man!!!I don't get it?????I just like joking and having fun and flirting....oh well!

Answer 2

it sounds like they are afraid that you will find something better and leave them. I know that I deal with a lot of insecurities in my relationships and it not because I'm ugly or a bad personality, i also have never been turned down and have been asked to model on many occasions. but yet I still have these insecurities, for me its because of my first love, he cheated on me and my trust hasn't been the same since. I have never been dumped by a man in my life but I am still worried about the one I love hurting me again....


also the whole 18-21 year old thing... have you ever heard that famous line" that's what I love about 18 years old I keep getting older and they stay the same age." it because these wornen are in their most attractive years and older when feel like they can't compete with them.

Answer 3

some women may bet intimidated by all the grear attributes that you have to offer. They could possibly think that since you are so great, you will move on easily and they end the relationship because they do not want ot get hurt later on, if that makes any sense at all. The right women will come around. With all of the things that you have to offer her, you will know that she has confidence because she has stuck with you

Answer 4

Maybe these woman over 25 see their bf's checkin out woman between the ages you've mentioned and it makes them feel that they are not good enough and they dont feel attractive enough thats why so many woman are insecure.
you say you're the flirtatious type well....
you probably flirted with younger girls when you were married why should she have to put up with that?
if a guy has found the woman of his dreams whys the need to be staring at other woman and thinking bout other woman they should be putting their attention on the one they love.
sorry about your marriage : (

Answer 5

Well alot of times the insecurity was always there but women hide things well. once the relationship gets serious or their feelings grow they start to worry about losing you. The more they care about their lover the more they go "well this is not prefect.. she has a better one.. " those types of things. Many women find it easier to end it then and deal with it rather than driving themselves nuts or possibly being right. As far as getting everything they could ask for then not being able to handle it.. Alot of times women think they wont somthing then realise its to much for them. Alot of times to women are easily aggitated and everything and anythign will overwhelm them. My best advice is find another women who is as active as you and then they will not think you need a women who has more energy than they do (a younger one. )

Answer 6

It isn't our insecurity, it's yours. If you have a lady with you that means anything to you, you will not flirt with other women! It's rude and it's a put down to the woman you're with. What the women can't handle is your ego and your flirting. Don't date exclusively until you can keep your eyes, hands, and mouth on only one woman. Your degree means nothing if your ego overrides it.

Answer 7

well..there's nothing wrong with us..maybe its just because your marriage doen't work..ask these questions to yourself...#1: How many months/years have you two been involved in a relationship?#2: Is that enough to know more about our inner selves? #3: what are your personalities that you have to improve?#4:have you hurt her without knowing it?#5: are you disregarding her?#6:do you focus too much in your work and leave no time to her at all?wll..that's all i can say..i rest my case..

Answer 8

it sort of feels that you do not understand THAT WORSHIPING AND HATING at the instantaneous are not the in ordinary words thoughts, WORSHIPING AND HATING ARE 2 EXTREMES - both AS undesirable. sure, there's a center floor, once you've a common body of thoughts in the route of girls(OR the different crew), once you could locate ALL THEIR VIRTUES AND FLAWS without BIAS. HATING IS undesirable, i imagine this does no longer want a extra clarification. WORSHIPING is likewise undesirable, because it signifies that you provide a lady larger INTRINSIC cost THEN TO your self(OR the different guy) - do not you spot HOW ABSURD it extremely is. that is WHY religious human beings SAY THAT THEY WORSHIP GOD, they trust GOD IS ABOVE THEM, extra effective, a larger BEING, something worth OF WORSHIP - women(AND adult men) at the instantaneous are not.

Answer 9

Maybe your making her feel insecure? admit it, you love yourself so much you wish all women loved to be just around you! It show's when you boast about yourself so well. Grow up some, quit patting yourself on the back and learn to not be such a flirt!

Answer 10

Sometimes things hav to jus click together...n not all woman can accept their guy being attracted to others n not feel insecure abt it..
So jus wait for the right one to come abt..