I don't think he knows how to be a boyfriend. He doesn't seem to be familiar with the proper etiquettes in dating. He doesn't open the car door for me, he always goes inside places before I do, orders his meals first, and doesn't walk me to my door after a date. He doesn't do these things deliberately. He just doesn't know that a guy should do these things. I know everything I described is considered to be old fashioned, but I think it's still important to do these things for a girl. Should I tell him that girls appreciate these kinds of things?
2006-07-07 20:40:43 · 21 answers · asked by pureessence 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not saying guy should do this all the time, but at least do it on the first date. I wouldn't want a guy to do all that everytime if he and I were dating for a while. But this guy that I'm seeing right now, we've only been seeing each other for 2 weeks.
2006-07-07 20:54:52 · update #1
I know it's old fashioned, but if he doesn't do one of these things for you, doesn't that say a lot about his personality? It's not about opening doors or paying for dinner, but if he doesn't do these simple things, how can you depend on him to do other things?
2006-07-07 20:58:04 · update #2
He seems very inconsiderate of you and, yes, you should tell him (maybe he wasn't taught these manners) and if he doesn't get it or wish to do it, then run, because it's possible that he's all into himself and wants you to follow him like a puppy. Tell him in a kind way that we do appreciate this kind of attention and that the man who gives us this attention and respect gets more back from us in attention for them. If he's willing to learn give him time to do so. He won't catch on overnight if it's something he's not used to doing.
2006-07-07 20:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by save_up_your_tears 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell him. I walk to the door first and stand there till my man opens it. It never fails and he doesn't even realize he's doing it! Do the same thing for the car door. If you feel you deserve to be treated like a lady, make him treat you like one. Its just polite. Im not talking about making him pay for everything when you go out, just showing some manners!
2006-07-08 03:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by skigod377 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if he doesn't know to do these things, then tell him in a kind way that you would like for him to do these things for you and that a boy that does do these things is a real gentleman. I think if he really likes you he will be glad that you told him what you like in a man. It may be old fashion but still today women love being treated with respect and treated like the lady they are.
2006-07-08 03:45:12 · answer #3 · answered by Glenda G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wake up, this is the 2000. The female rules of dating stopped that in the 80's The females in the 80's where for the female right and they said that way a sexiest thing to do for a female. And females whated to take control of the relationship. So you females need to stop flip flopping. if that is what you want
The girls that state he doen't have manners are clueless of what happen in the 80's with women lib, and most female dislike that action taken and find the guys weak that does that. Females are the ones that changed that rule. That prove that even female can't agree on this one, even they are mixed up on this one. lol
2006-07-08 03:46:33 · answer #4 · answered by houtexknights330 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is important for you, educate him, without getting angry or pushy, just tell him how those things are done. I was like him and had the good fortune of being taught by my best friend (a girl who likes all that like you) and it has stayed with me through the years, I got in a couple of arguments with her of how old fashioned I thought it was and all that, but I got used to it, and I don't regret it, a lot of girls like that.
2006-07-08 03:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by rykkardo8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be he wasn't brought up to be mannerable. However I do think if a person is thoughtful and considerate he would do these things for you. Especially walking in before you to a restaurant or whatever. I would pick a couple of things that really bother you and tell him, then see how he responds.
2006-07-08 16:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by Dreamer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that would be fine if you tell him. lots of girls today are feminist and has the poor guys mixed up.
I like the old fashioned kind of guy myself.
2006-07-08 03:43:27 · answer #7 · answered by cheeky chic 379 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes tell him, ask him if he is shy at all and then ask him if he did those kinds of things with other girls if he ever did, but if your his first then maybe cut him some slack and kind of give out hints that you like things like that! first date I ever went on wasnt great, but then I changed the second time and saw what she liked and didn't like and went on from there! good luck :)
2006-07-08 03:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by ninjadude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, more and more guys just are not familiar with proper etiquette. They are not being taught by their parents.
2006-07-08 03:48:15 · answer #9 · answered by hpisfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course tell him how you want to be treated. Why put up with his careless manner? You deserve good treatment don't you? If he doesn't treat you how you want to be treated after that, find someone else.
2006-07-08 03:50:36 · answer #10 · answered by cricket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋