My first girlfriend: 2 years. We started dating at 17 almost immediately after a previous two year relationship she had. She broke up with this guy not to be with me, but because she found that with him she wasn't who she wanted to be, and he was too clingy.
She was everything I could have wanted in a person. She was my best friend, and around her, I was truly happy. Sadly, we ended up going to different colleges. Half way through the first year, she tells me that she needs time and space, mostly because she hasn't had time to be single since she was 15, before she had even really wanted a relationship. Even though it hurt, I loved her right up to this summer. But now Im supposed to act like we are just friends, when I want so much more. She wrote a letter saying we shouldnt talk for a while because I wasn't letting her go. Yesterday I texted her goodbye, because it feels like things have changed and she doesn't feel the same way, even though I really still love her. What should I do?
2006-07-07 19:41:52 · 4 answers · asked by sfinn72 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give her the space she needs but maintain contact. Guess she is searching her identity and direction. Support her -- she will be happy.
Love cannot be tied to side. Yes she may not come back to you. But when she does, you know it is a more solid decision.
2006-07-07 19:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through a similar situation. My ex and I were together for 3 years and he decided that he wanted some time to think things through and basically be single for awhile to make sure the relationship was what he wanted. So I know somewhat of how you are feeling. Anyways, I know it hurts right now, but you need to give her the space she wants. I mean, if I were you, I'd try the whole friends thing out. I wouldn't want to lose her completely. My ex couldn't let go of me and it caused me to drive him further out of my life. I really wanted him in my life as a friend, but he couldn't handle it. If you respect her wishes and try to let go a bit, she may come around eventually. See, I've figured it out that people always want things they can't have... or they want whats not so easy to have anymore. If you respect that she wants to remain friends for now, maybe she'll realize how much you care and how great you two are for each other. Maybe try writing to her and telling her that you're sorry if it seemed like you couldn't let her go and that you want to remain friends. Good luck with all of that, though! I hope I helped a little...
2006-07-07 19:52:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to move on, because she certainly has. I know it hurts, but you are going to have to accept that you love her but you just can't be with her. Go out and meet new people, do new and fun things. Over time it won't hurt so much now that the two of you aren't together anymore. Good Luck.
2006-07-07 19:46:50 · answer #3 · answered by moma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're doing the right thing. Why torture yourself? Good luck:)
2006-07-07 19:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋