how do i convince my mom that she needs to be taken care of now?

Question

she's 61 years old and her health isnt alll that good .she'sbeen at my house now for two weeks and has caused a fire cuz she was smoking in bed .she's addicted to her medications ,and now she's going back to new york.she says she needs her other childrens advice .im studying to be a cna, and then i hope to become a nurse.i love her to death and i cant keep making the trip from nc. to ny. help me please

Answer 1

You have to get with your siblings and cook up a way to put her in a rest home (as a "vacation" for a "couple of weeks") where she can be watched constantly and visited by family frequently.

This is gonna take a conspiracy for it to work!

Answer 2

That's a hard one. Most interventions that would address her ability to care for herself would probably include a doctor administering more meds rather than less. But it is possible the particular meds could be changed or cycled to alleviate some of the addiction issues.

If you can get her to go to an emergency room for an emergency psychological or medical evaluation they could temporarily commit her and try and help her stabalize and then release her at a later date for a less restricted treatment setting (like a hospital day treatment center).

You can call Social Services, or an ER for more info. Also can do a search (i prefer google) for crisis hotline and your geographic area.

Most residential phone books have a section inside front cover with emergency numbers that may prove helpful to you.

Some areas have psychiatric crisis response teams or crisis counselors that can send licensed social workers to your location for emergency evaluations. They can help talk loved ones into agreeing voluntarily to get care.

Also any older relatives whose judgement she trusts or other authority figures in her life (minister, supervisor, doctor, lawyer) can help but you have to consider confidentiality issues.

good luck!

Answer 3

if she is addicted to her medication, whatever those drugs are, you haven't given the details, she needs to stay in an old age home, where there wil be some vigilence. she doesn't seem to care about what's happening around her, and lost in her own world. due to her insecurity, she smokes. if she is not inclined to stay with you, don't show your overenthusiasm, let her consult her other children as she says, but consult for what? though you love her deeply, your career is equally important. tell her without mincing words, that she can not adopt in and out method in your life. plan her being with children, or an old age home, it should be systematic, not hapazard! in case she goes to n.y., let her. write to her, and be in touch. go occasionally, if invited. once she goes, she can decide for herself what's good for her. obviously, your mom is not at peace in her mind. actually as i said, she needs supervision, regularity, consultation.let an expert do it, because you will be emotionally involved, and wil not be objective.

Answer 4

You cannot change your Mom.She needs to get off the drugs and she at 61 can take care of herself.www.floridadetox.com is a wonderful place to start.They can detox someone in 3 days!Cost about 12,000.00 insurance may pay.But is well worth it to get your mom on the right track!!Good-Luck,God bless you and your [e-mail] 411

Answer 5

it still sounds as if she is of "sound mind" smoking in bed is dangerous no matter how old. if she is suffering from dementia or other things that could be dangerous, it is possible for you or someone else to get power of attorney.

Answer 6

Become a nurse in N.Y. and take care of your mother yourself. She took care of you for eighteen years no its your turn. Do not say you cannot do it. It will require sacrifices but she is your mother.

Answer 7

S.O.S.