tips for mving on after a nasty brkup? No energy, no appetite, cry all the time...betrayed, lost.?

Answer 1

Well, what you are doing tonight (asking questions and keeping busy) is a good start. Keep yourself busy. Watch funny movies. Go dancing with your girl friends. Go shopping with your mom. Keep a journal. Do not call him, do not text him. Buy yourself a hot outfit.

They say that time heals all wounds. I say time wounds all heels. And he is most definitely one.

Recap: No calls, no texts, no contact. Keep a journal. Share all of your hurt and feelings with your journal. Do not give him the satisfaction of knowing how much he hurt you. Hold your head up. Smile at the world.

Answer 2

The passage of time.

Trust me, you won't EVEN remember it... and if you do, you will see that person as a jerk.

That pain is a biological bond that increases the probability that offspring will be cared for by parents.

Otherwise people would mate like fish and let the offspring fend for themselves from day one.

If you had thousands of eggs, there would be no need for a biological bond, but mammals that only have 3-6 young need parents to care for them, hence the need for a biological bond.

Trust me, much that goes on with our emotions has a lot of biological, instinctual urges that are really "hard-wired" in our genes and are millions of years old.

Answer 3

Take some time just to deal with it (maybe a week or week & a half). Allow yourself to feel bad, you're going to feel bad anyway. Use this time to get as much of the bad feelings out of your system as you can. After that, keep busy! Spend time with friends and family...learn new things! Think about the things you did and enjoyed before the two of you were together. I'm sure there are things you missed doing while you were together. If you find yourself thinking about him, think about the bad things and stay strong.

Answer 4

Go out with your friends. Get your mind off of your ex. The more you keep yourself busy, the less time you have to mope around and feel sorry for yourself. There is more things to do in your life. If that person doesn't want to be a part of the bigger and better things to come, then fine.

Answer 5

I hear you. Getting over one myself. You have you focus on yourself, and be extra nice. Do some "retail therapy" and go shopping. Get your hair done. Avoid songs that have memories attached to them. Stay busy, cry to girlfriends, or scream and call him/her bad names. Talk to a councilor, too, that's helpful. Make a new life plan, maybe career change, go back to school, join a group/club, take an awesome vacation. Time heals all wounds, blah, blah, blah. You will get through it, and it does get better. Hang in there.

Answer 6

and asking those "Ifs buts when were and why questions" we all been through this..even to hairpullin ,nail bitin, finger givin...namecallin...omg its a routine!!! Just look at the things you Need to do now, focus on youreself..."Hey take youreself out buy new clothes, spluge a bit...Then realise what all youre worth! ;) I bet ppl will soon crawl out of the woodwork for ya... once you get over seeing yurself as speck of dust. Just try to be youreself focus on youre day...Live for the day :)

Answer 7

Everyone posting is giving good advise. Not fast cures for a tender heart. Time is a bear, it growls a long time. Hope your feeling happy soon. Keep good people around you.

Answer 8

u have to take it one day at a time. it doesnt just go away. it sounds like u r really in love. it's goin to hurt for a while. u have to have supportive friends and family to help u get through it. ive had it happen, it just takes time.

Answer 9

So sorry. Pick your self up and put it behind you.
Moving to the angry stage helped me.

Answer 10

erase any memory of your bf/gf. acceptance is a big step in getting over it. many fish in the sea......before you know it bigger and better fish will float by