Parents exercise too much control over teenagers.Why?

Question

what should i do in that case?They don't allow me to attend any parties,no function nothing.they don't even allow me to wear my
choice's dress.

Answer 1

Let's see ...
They are responsible for your health and safety, for teaching you the right ways, to be law-abiding, for guiding you in appropriate behaviour, for making sur eyou are developing good habits and learning the skills and decision making abilities to become independent. And they provide you everything you have, food, shelter, clothing, computer, etc.

Hmm ... they are supposed to exercise control ... until and if it is proven that you are able to make wise independent choices.

That is the responsibility of parents.
And your responsibility is for all this teaching to "take" and to be able to show trustworthiness ... and you have to prove you can be trusted before you are let loose on the world.

Answer 2

In response to your question, I have a question for you. But, you have to really do some serious inquiries before you answer it, OK?
Take a week, and I challenge you to ask this question to everyone you possibly can, friends, strangers, friends parents, man/woman behind the counter, the checker at the grocery store, anywhere and everywhere you can where the person is over the age of 25ish. In order to be complety honest with YOURSELF, you have to keep track. There will be only two answers that are important; YES, or NO. Here's the question:

Do you know more ABOUT LIFE now than you did when you were 15-16? I am not talking about work, laws, rules, money, business, nothing but LIFE counts.
That's the question.
Tally up all the YES answers and all the NO answers.
When you get the total, then ask the question you asked now again. I bet you won't need to, you will have answered this question yourself.
Heres something to ponder: You spend 19 years as a teenager.
You spend 65+ years as an adult. From a teenage perspective, you stop "growing" at 19. I pray you don't believe that...

Answer 3

Have you ever done anything major that would cause your parents to feel that they can not trust you to make these decisions? If not, then sit down with them and say I really feel that I am old enough to do such and such and explain to them that you have always made good choices.
As far as the dress code goes if you are not choosing anything they feel is sexually provocative then I would let you wear it personally. Remember that your folks were also kids once and can be judging you on their past behaviors. I have a teenage son and I pray that he does not pull the same stuff that I tried growing up. I am very open with him about the stupidity of some of the choices I made concerning drugs and alcohol so hopefully he can be open with me in return.

Answer 4

You may think that they have too much control over you now but when you become an adult you will thank them for it. I read somewhere that kids today get away with more than what there parents did when they were there kids age.

To all the KIDS out there enjoy being a kid/teenager while you can cause once you become an adult you can not go back and you will wish you could to redue the messups that you did.

Have you tried to sit down with your parents and talk to them in a calm tone of voice about these issues you have? Buy talk in mean like you talk to your friends. Not a yelling match and stomping out of the room to either your room our out the front door.

Answer 5

Parent's are actually easier on kids today than what their parents were on them. Your parents actually know what is better for you because they have had the chance to live through the things that you are only beginning to experience now. The actual problem is that children feel that they can do anything that they want to do, and then refuse to take responsibility for their actions. Children and teens today don't recognize what the consequences are for the actions that they take. Responsibility is a quality that many people don't tech their children, and it sounds like your parents are trying to teach it to you. You actually should appreciate that they don't want you to live some of the horrors in life that they may have had to live.

Answer 6

They just don't want something to happen to you cuz maybe they trust you but not the people around you.And the last thing they want is to get a phone call from a hospital that your there and not so good.Or if they get a call from the police station,they don't want to risk.They care bout you too much to lose you or for somthing bad to happen to you.Think about that at least they actually care about you and what u do.I know somtimes u do wish they wouldn't but if they didn't you wouldn't be the way you are today.

Answer 7

Actually, parents do not exercise enough control over their teenagers. The fact that you have access to a computer and are allowed to spend time on blogs such as this one proves that your parents are not at all that strict.

If you are not allowed to attend parties, then you are obviously too young to be going to parties unchapperoned.

If you are not allowed to choose the clothing you want to wear, you are obviously too young and too immature to know what is appropriate for children your age to wear. The important word in that sentence is "appropriate." I'm sure you can look like the tramp of the month, but your parents want you to respect yourself and not be a billboard for every "hoochy coochy" girl in rock music today.

If your parents require you to bring you friends to the house and for them to know every one of you friends----then they are awesome parents!

If your parents require you to have a curfew and put consequences on your plate if you break those rules----you have awesome parents!

If your parents are having to "sit on you" almost 24 hours a day to make sure you are a responsible, honorable, and respectful teeanger----then your parents have chosen their most important priority-----YOU.

You are the child---you are not the center of the universe. What you want is not important. What you need and what is necessary for you to grow as a responsible human being is important.

Buckle up----and start using some manners. It sounds like to me you are one of the few children who have good parents!

Congratulations! You have a head start in this world.

Answer 8

There's two sides to this story.

First the teenager's side. Your parents have been taking care of you a very long time and it's hard for them to admit to themselves that you're becoming an adult and that they should loosen their grip on you.

Now the parents' side. Teenagers are in the uniquely bad position of being able to make the kinds of mistakes that can ruin their lives. On top of that they believe that they know everything but really lack the wisdom to make good choices. Parents can be rightly afraid to allow their kids to be in a situation where they could make one of those life altering mistakes.

Answer 9

Parents don't want their children to go through life scarred and broken like they had to.Parents know all that can happen to a young mind and they will do anything to try to eliminate the possibility of anything devastating to happen to that mind. A parent is a very hard thing to be, just wait until you are one and you will hopefully understand them and forgive them for their over controlling ways when you were young.

Answer 10

well maybe there is a reason they wont let you do anything. maybe the clothes that you want to wear are little tiny things or they dont like them .

im 16 and somtimes my mom gets this like power trip even though i didnt do anything for her to just say no and go do this instead. i think its because thay know that they cant control you all the way anymore and that you are getting older and will be leaving them soon