2006-07-07 18:55:43 · 22 answers · asked by al c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
XXXXXXXXXXXXXX Now that, I would not let go on any further. The **** stops now. If she has respect for you and your relationship, she would discontinue this negative behavior. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-07 18:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It bothers you because it's a mystery -- you don't know what happened, what is happening, or what's going to happen.
Personally, I find it odd to date such a woman. She must know that it bothers you and probably does. Otherwise, she wouldn't be very bright, and I certainly wouldn't date her. Some women use this as a method of controlling the male. (Hanging out with past relationships as a deliberate threat) Emotionally unstable women do this. If she's really intelligent and emotionally stable, she may want to maintain friendships and closeness because she isn't finding those things elsewhere.
Without knowing her, I couldn't really tell you which way it is. You have to make that decision for yourself.
2006-07-08 02:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by kevrob8008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people don't want to imagine their significant others having sex with other people.. a lot of times people wish that their boyfriends or girlfriends had only been with them.. but many times that isn't the case nowadays. This bothers you because you probably feel insecure in your relationship... you obviously don't trust your girlfriend and are worried she'll cheat on you. Trust is key in relationships... you need it if you want your relationship to continue..
2006-07-08 02:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it bothers you just like any other thing that may threaten you very low/poor self-esteem or self worth. if you had good self esteem and self worth, your GF's behavior either wouldn't bother you or you'd have the tools and knowledge to confront it and work towards a less troublesome situation. IMO, your own self worth is the problem and, if you do not fix yourself, this problem will come up again and again no matter who you partner up with. get some couseling or some books, etc. about improving your self-respect and self worth.
jim
2006-07-08 02:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you have morals and integrity and believe a certain way as well you SHOULD! Thats why it bothers you. Let her know in a loving way but if she doesn't stop hanging out with the other guys.. move on...
2006-07-08 01:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would make you squirm a bit. Ask her to stop hanging out with them
I believe in trust but since you used the word them , I would have a big problem if I was you.
2006-07-08 01:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by cheeky chic 379 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you need another girlfriend who hasn't slept with all her friends. Sometimes the best perdiction of the future is the past.
You are right to be bothered.
2006-07-08 02:00:04 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It bothers you b/c she might slip back to one of them for a "quickie", or might dump you for one of them or cheat on you entirely. Unless you trust her completely, tell her about how you feel and ASK her to avoid them only if it REALLY REALLY bothers you.
Girls (and guys) do have the right to hang out with anyone they want to, you know. Tell her how you feel, and she might voluntarily leave them alone.
Good luck!
2006-07-08 02:13:37 · answer #8 · answered by c90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With enough time and enough opportunities it will happen. If you broke up with her and kept running in to her don't you think you could eventually catch her at a time when you were both horny and hook up. If the two of you could rekindle a flame why couldn't one of them do the same?
2006-07-08 02:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by thenuge426 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you haven't grow up, she is with you and if she would want to be with them then she would. But she picked you so shut up and enjoy the time you have with her. Because you never know when you or her will die, life is too short to worry about something that doesnt matter to no one and a waste of time.
2006-07-08 02:00:32 · answer #10 · answered by houtexknights330 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BECAUSE YOU JUST DONT TRUST HER AT ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DID YOUR (GF) HAD A BAD BAD BAD PAST BEFORE YOU WENT OUT WITH HER............. IF THAT THE CASE YOU NEED TO PUT THAT BEHIND YOU, IF YOU CAN'T DO THAT THERE IS A THEORY AND GO LIKE THIS " YOU CAN'T CHANGE HOE TO A HOUSEWIFE"
2006-07-08 02:02:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋