My husband is in Irak?

Question

Like many of our young brave men wanting to serve their county, my then boyfriend now husband, joined the Army hoping the benefits would bring us a better life. Originally I was against him joining the Army, but I saw that he wanted to do this and I supported his decision.

I've seen him for a combination of 2 months time since we got married.

Now he is in Irak (sorry, I spell it the way it's meant to be spelled, not the American spelling). I do not support Bush or this war. So my question is, how do I support my soldier without supporting this war? Various personal experiences are welcome.

Answer 1

i dont like war. never did. even if it was necessary, its still bad.
i have a neighbor who just left July 4th for Kuwait (leaving a wife and a 7 month old), and another neighbor who left for Iraq for 2 years (leaving a wife and 2 kids, 9 and 6).

do i support bush? nobody is perfect, and while he has made some (too many) stupid moves, i dont hate him. so at times i do, at times i dont.

the war...i support the middle east conflict. Afghanistan more than Iraq. think about it, we went into Afghanistan and ousted the Taliban. then we got rid of Saddam (a possible safe haven for al Quida.) i think Iraq is a little for oil, but over all i support the war effort.

just support your husband. send him things, books, magazines, gum, candy, etc. send a lot if possible....not everyone in his platoon or company may have someone back home and little actions like that go a long way. remind him of home and mostly how you are proud of what he is doing. thats the best support you can give.

good luck to you and your husband...btw, you said "the American way of spelling"...does that mean your not American?

Answer 2

By not supporting "the war" you are supporting failure of the United States. You can not truly support the troops and not support the war (By this I mean openly speak out against the war by pointing out failure's and hoping for another soldier misconduct story so you can use it against Bush.)

You should support the military, our country and our victory no mater how long it takes. You should support politicians that will set Isolationist policy's that keep troops at home and only deploy them when we or our economic interests are threatened or attacked. This way you will be keeping us from getting into other wars.

oh and Iraq is spelled squiggle squiggle dot dot in Arabic it is spelled phonetically. 'Irak' is not the way it is "meant" to be spelled, but Iraq is not either. Just by making a point to throw in an 'anti American statement in your Iraq spelling explanation I can tell you are against the war and our victory. Maybe you should just be a tool of the anti war movement and tell your husband to get out of the Army so you can smoke weed together and bad mouth the country.

Personally I do not want the support of the people who do not want us to win the war and love to talk about how bad America is and how we should lose.

I'm sorry that turned in to a rant but I got carried away on your 'Irak' thing.

Answer 3

Oh Boo Hoo
Here's a Tissue

Yes it is Spelled IRAQ. My son did two tours in Iraq with the Marines. It's a Job you get paid to what you are trained to do. Stop being so damn selfish and your husband is a moron. If he joined the service just because he wanted a better life.

Military gets paid squat and work long hours. The only benefits they get are housing and medical.

If he didn't want to fight he should have joined the navy or air force.

People like you make me sick. When 9/11 happened you all cried for blood now that things are being done you're crying for it to stop. It's a process it takes time.

I bet if North Korea drops a nuke on Ca you morons will cry to nuke em then cry when it takes too long to end it.

This is life not a damn TV show or a Video game.

Join the military death is a strong possibility.

Answer 4

Support your husband (soldier) by keeping him happy. When he calls let him know you love him and miss him. Take care of your household concerns aka bills, cars, etc, etc, so he doesn't have to worry about them. He's probably already stressed out enough. He doesn't need to hear about all the drama going on at home (if there is any). Stay faithful and true. If any issues arise just wait until after he gets home to deal with them. Tell him your proud of him, let him know you think about him, and that you think hes doing a great job. You don't support the war but he really doesn't need to hear that, it could make him feel like hes disappointing you. You two can discuss this when hes home.
Basically, make it so he has no worries about you here at home. We, here at home, worry enough about our soldiers.

Answer 5

From my experience with friends that are still in Iraq, and others whom have gone to Iraq and Gitmo and have come back, the worst thing you can do is tell them over and over how much you disagree with the war. You can support them by keeping in touch by email,phone, or snail mail as much as possible. A lot of soldiers feel like they are forgotten once they leave. Keep your husband up to date with what you and your family are doing while he is gone. Send him care packages with things that are personal to him that would make him still feel close to you. Many bases in Iraq have media tents where the soldiers have internet access, so email him lots of pictures. Keep your political beliefs to yourself. I am sure it's difficult, but a lot of the soldiers are proud of trying to help the Iraqi people. They need to feel like they are doing something meaningful!

As a side note, where did the Irak spelling come from? It is spelled Iraq all over the world, even media outlets like Al-Jazeera and the BBC. Just curious.

Answer 6

There is no way to support a soldier without supporting the war. I will support your husband for you and will pray that he serves America bravely and returns safely.
Be brave for your husband so he won't burdened with your feelings. Your job is to lighten his load right now.

PS It does sadden me though to know that your husband only joined the forces for benefits.

Answer 7

It sucks honey, I know, my husband is a marine, i averaged up and in like 3 years we'll be together for like a year and a half, I know it really stinks because I'm about to go through the same thing. My heart goes out to you./ No one has any idea how hard it is for a military wife. They think its all fun and games but its hard to be us. so I'm with you, and I'll be thinking of you and praying for you, just as I hope everyone does the same for me.

Answer 8

Obviously Boomer enjoys her right of freedom of speech. Too bad she doesn't remember what gave her that right. May God have mercy on her soul. And may her son forgive her for not supporting him.

My husband is also deployed. He left 2 weeks after we got married. So I can understand your pain. Love him and tell him that every way you can think of. E-mails, letters, care packages - these are all great ideas. Forget your feelings about the war, think about him. He isn't thinking about himself. He's doing this for you and the future of your family. Be proud of him for that. He is doing this because he loves you.

Answer 9

You can hate bush all you want i do and my husband is doing a second tour next month. all i can say is write to him send pictures. send things that remind him why he needs to stay safe and why he's doing what he's doing, for you and your future kids. So he can earn a living and help you both have more. If you need to talk to someone who's been there and going to be doing it again contact me
screw that BOOMER Bit@h..... she obviously doesn't love her son and the military offers more to you both than KFC or Taco Bell would.....

Answer 10

Love him, and make sure he knows it. Make sure he knows you'll be there when he come home. He needs your love not your disliking towards the war. He probably wants to be at home with you more than you could possibly imagine. Simply Love him and write him as much as possible.. God bless and may you and your husband have a wonderfull life together........