i guess i want an apology and acknowledgement of what he did and how much it hurts but i feel like im just acting pathetic at this point...but i cant stop....everytime i think of something else he did to me i call or text to remind him of what he did....i guess im trying to make him feel like crap but i have no self control! 2 days before we broke up we were with his family talking about getting married....i dont know what to do. Actually i do....just STOP....but i just break down and contact him.
2006-07-07 18:27:16 · 12 answers · asked by lbcgrl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Did it ever occur to you that if you were to stop text messaging him constantly, he might actually start to miss you. Right now, by doing what you're doing, you're only making matters worse. STOP NOW.......give it a few days and see what happens. Right now, he knows you're still around for him. Let him believe that you are truly gone. Break off all contact with him!!! If he tries to get in touch with you, avoid him for awhile. Then, if you feel you still want to be with him, insist on an apology!! If he's not willing to give you that....FORGET ABOUT HIM!!!
2006-07-07 18:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Toughen up. Stop contacting him. What your doing is really turning him off. I would have already put a restraining order on you.
Read your own question. Thats why he broke up with you. I'd be afaid to marry anyone with no self control, and constantly trying to drive things home. Stop trying to make him feel guilty. you should feel guilty, if this is how you operated the whole time yall were together. Sorry.
2006-07-07 18:36:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done this one! Did it occur to you , how deep you have been hurt. You want him to know, But he avoids you right or won`t talk about it and acts as if nothing happens while hes haveing his fun which upsets you more eh? Keep in mind he prolly just dont care and what alls hes done, If you stay away it may give him time to think now that you told him everything. I was getting married to one, I sent him lots of money, we had things planned, next thing you know a girls calling me saying they were living together!!! I stopped my calling him, he moved to his mothers, he called me..plans are on again...(Ill give him 3 strikes) I now have my self asteem back and backbone!
2006-07-07 18:43:27 · answer #3 · answered by Weeny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how it feels. Ur mind says chuck him… but how do you explain ur heart.
It happened to 2 of my best friend and I have seen her going through it... U are not alone sweetheart.
The best way is to write your feelings.....
But dont let him know how badly u r suffering.....
If he knows it, he may feel guilty, but just feeling guilty about it will comfort him that he is a good human, he feels your pain. It will clear him of his guilt conscience and will start feeling irritated with your every call and will insult you.
Sounds like a story, but its true.....
Baby, control yourself, u are a strong girl. Hold your chin high and let him know that he is not the end of the world for you, just a passerby and you are happy without me.
Sometimes it hurts more to know that u were so insignificant to the other that they got over you so easily.....
Keeps your self respect high too...
2006-07-07 19:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are ruining any chance of ever getting back together. He doesn't care if you are hurt. Write your feelings in a journal. Every time you want to call or text him, write in your journal what you want to say to him. LEAVE HIM ALONE. If you love him, don't show him how crazy and uncontrolled you are.
Write, write, write. Do NOT call. Do NOT text.
Give him some breathing room. Don't make him glad he broke up with you.
Write it all in your journal.
2006-07-07 18:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you need an apolgy and he can't give it to you, realize that he is not a big enough man to do so. Keep you head held high. The hurting will stop in time. Good luck!
2006-07-07 18:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by serenitynow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh please! So your telling me that for the finest 25 years you've in simple terms been going through existence wanting & longing for this guy? quit playing teenage video games, & that is what that is about, you're searching back into the previous even as issues were so sparkling & new & even as love become so diverse & you're performing on sheer impulse & imaturity, & do not take this as a insult because I dont propose it as one Im purely declaring this out of my own own adventure, as I to had contact with a old boyfriend from earlier, & i do not ignore that in case you dont pay interest your emotions & old emotions can get interior the way of actuality, so i tips that you enable this one bypass, placed this guy back on your back pocket & bypass on with existence, quit wanting what you dont have & relish what you do have!
2016-10-14 05:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about him all the time-it is not wrong, contacting him to remind him of what he did to you-making yourself look stupid..I know it hard...You're having a bad time..I had the same experience and I stop contacting him after we broke up and few months later my ex is married with one of my friend...so, stay away from him, stay out of contact before he hurts you even more..you'll get over it..
2006-07-07 18:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by golituk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i think the case is, be probably broke up b/c he is afraid of something and is pushing you away, i did the same thing but see, my ex and i always get back together, u do that b/c you are sitll trying to get his attention and sooner or later he'll break 2....
now i don't have to do that b/c he's the one textin and callin me, just stop and if he cares he'll do what u are doin...
2006-07-07 18:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Denial, is usually the first stage, like "Why did you break up with me, no you didn't" and you start hitting him, the fall into his arms, just like the movies, just forget about him, have some dignity and self respect
2006-07-07 18:33:24 · answer #10 · answered by greatkid809 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋