y are guys?

Question

why are guys so cluless about who likes them and when they find out they ttly crush the girl who is crushing on them?

Answer 1

I believe it comes from the sense of pride and not only that; women seem to have a gift to look at someone and decipher the reasoning of their actions, unfortunately men (most that I know) don't. Most men rarely look at ones actions and try to make sense of it. Another thing I would like to point out is that females form together and have extremely strong bonds between one another, again most men don't do this. These bonds let you connect with each other, and over time females gain this sixth sense that clues them in on things and related subject's about relationships (and everything the follows).

I hope this gives you a little more insight on the matter.

Answer 2

Sometimes we aren't as clueless as you think. It's just a way of avoiding a situation, one of our many, many faults. I've had many girls with a crush on me at a point in life where I was not dating or involved in any kind of relationship. Those women probably thought I didn't know, when actually I did. I just wasn't interested in them. It's easier to just let the woman think you a moron or the rear end of a lower life form than to turn her down and hurt her. The path of least resistance.

And honestly, if a man finds out and does something deliberately to hurt you out of his own selfishness or insanity, then honestly he isn't someone you really want to be with -- if he treats you like that when you are NOT involved, then how will he treat you if you were?

I've learned never to jump into a relationship too fast. There are a lot of qualities to look for in a potential mate, short-term or long. Loyalty, intelligence, moral fiber, work ethic, and many other qualities cannot be overlooked unless your just looking for short-term sex. If it's that, then call a spade a spade. But if you are looking for a husband, take your time and really get to know what's in the package. Sometimes that's all we are doing -- just making up our minds about you women. Sometimes you know right away, sometimes it takes time to find out about a person.

But sometimes you do have to tell us. Who knows why -- work problems, financial situations, or other women trying to get our attention who might be working at it a little more adeptly than others. But somehow -- get the guy's attention for you own sake if you don't want to be left in a mystery -- even if it means getting turned down.

Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Because we are not mind readers. The things that go unsaid will never be anything but, because if it was important enough to say you would do it. If you want a guy to know what you are thinking, tell him, because it is too much for some people to read between the lines. And on something like crushes, you don't want to misread because that is worse than not even reading at all sometimes.

Maybe he is totally crushing on you and you are oblivious to it too, or your signals aren't strong enough.

Answer 4

We can be insensitive jerks at times....
In all fairness though, a guy may pretend not to notice a gurl to avoid the crushing part.
Maybe not the brightest way to deal with it but not intending to hurt them either.

I think we can all be ignorant sometimes too, many things going through such small minds at once!

Answer 5

For the first question, I wish I knew.

For the second, we're flattered and excited (specially if we liked you all along) and with all those emotions raging, it's not difficult to fall for some girl showing her affections. Hell, guys would go to great lengths to take good care of a dog who's shown some loyalty and affection, why shouldn't it apply to some sweet girl?

Answer 6

we tend to be one-track minded people and dont notice the BIG OBVIOUS things that the girls we dont like do, but notice the SMALLEST of things that may have even been done just out of accident that our own crushes do.

But then again, thats not just guys. That's everybody. Love sucks.

Answer 7

Honestly, most guys don't want to risk their confidence in chasing a girl, and when they find out someone they already think might be cool likes them, it's worth looking in to. Guys like being liked, too. It doesn't hurt a bit.

Answer 8

It's ego. We seem to think that we should always know what is going on and the we are always on top of it. Definitely not the case in real life.

Answer 9

Nearly everyone is clueless, honey. Guys don't corner the market. They just generally have other things on their minds.

Answer 10

because we are normally too scared of rejection to think that a girl actually likes us. thats why guys like the attention that they get from slutty types. because it is open affection