my grandaughter has bad tatrums,any suggestions?

Answer 1

ignore her........that is the best thing you can do

Answer 2

any time my daughter start stomping her feet, by the second stomp i already have that look on my face that she knows she's in trouble and stops.
i got her to this point by punishing her the second she starts having her tantrum. sometimes it was a spanking, sometimes it was sending her too her room. i found a spanking did the best, but understand that some people don't want to spank their child so for those i would say give them a time out the second they start to act that way. if the tantrum is because she is being punished in the first place. punish her for the original reason. after that punishment is up make sure the child knows why he/she was punished by having him/her communicate what he/she did wrong. then say "very good. now you are going to have to be punished for throwing a fit." and have him/her serve a second term of the punishment. this may take a while to get threw that scull and may have to go thre several punishments in a row but that child will learn.

just wanted to add that like many here have pointed out. if this is in a public place you would have to at the most just say that they just won a punishment when they get home. and from that point act as if you don't have a child with you and ignore her. last thing you want to do is touch that child in a public place. even if just to pull her to follow you. there are many people that feel they know better then everyone else and would call child services on you for just looking at your child bad.

Answer 3

My 16 month old is beginning to have tantrums. Many times I found it is due to being tired, frustrated or over stimulated. The way my husband and I often deal with the tantrums is by distracting him by pointing out various things that he likes. He likes birds so we'll often ask ; "...Where's the bird, find the bird" and point up in the sky. It's kind of like a brief "time-out" without him knowing it.
At the same time we are acting as if the tantrum is not even taking place. We feel this is still giving him a sense of security that allows him to calm and deal with him frustration more easily. It's working for now. Good luck.

Answer 4

I am sure you went through this with your own child. Kids have really not changed and the same thing that worked then will work now too. Have confidence in your ability to train the child. Follow your instincts.

All kids need boundaries. When addressing negative behaviour they need to be spoken to direclty, clearly and firmly. Use phrases like: THAT is not acceptable behaviour: WE don't behave like that in our family: you WILL not speak to me like that: you are being disrespectful and THAT is NOT acceptable. When you can use your words then we can talk about this.

Often the tantrum comes as a result of frustration from a particular situation/events. You need to be able to read the signs leading up to the tantrum. Stopping it before it starts is always better! Get to know her triggers and come up with alternatives for her to choose - before the melt down begins.

Kids often feel that they have no control over their lives. The need to be able to make choices each day. What colour top to wear, which cereal to eat, what drink to have, to the park or a walk, etc, etc. Maybe she needs to feel some control in her own life! Try to loosen the reigns in some areas. It will be good for you both!

Lots of love, reassurance, belief in the child.
All children are a gift. Remembering that helps. She is NOT trying to make your life a living hell, she is just testing the boundaries, testing you, being a selfish kid, like most are. She is normal.

Love never fails!! Read some good books too, that may help.

BEST OF LUCK!!!

Answer 5

Don;t give in to her tantrums. Does she still take naps? A lot of tantrums happen because the child is over-tired. Make it a standing rule that she has a set naptime everyday. Spanking a child when they are already angry and upset will not work. Get the book "Super Nanny" written by Jo Frost. It is fron the ABC show. She has a lot of good tips on how to deal with children that so not involve striking a child.

Answer 6

There are a lot of reasons why children have temper tantrums, the main thing is to not acknowledge the tantrum till after it is over. Make sure the child is not near any hard surfaces where she could injure herself and let her have the tantrum. When the tantrum is over, talk to her about why she had the tantrum, let her know that having a tantrum is not going to get her what she wants and encourage her to talk about her feelings and most importantly, be consistent!

Answer 7

Ignore her. One of the reasons she has tantrums is to get the attention on her. Don't give her what she wants, because if you do that will set a pattern to where she'll have tantrum all the time in order to get her way. If you don't enable the problem it should disappear. Once she has calmed down then talk with her about her behavior.

Answer 8

as hard as it is walk away and ignore it.
Even in the store , let her drop to the floor and have a fit, embarrassing sometimes,but it the only thing that will work.

everyone in the family has to do it though.
If shes in the room by something she might get hurt on move it,
Then just ignore it.DONT SAY ANYTHING!

Later at a time when shes is being good and is happy explain to her that you know at times she is frustrated but you cant talk to her when shes having a fit.
She needs to say shes angry or frustrated or mad.

Also let her know she is allowed to give herself a time out.
If she is overwhelmed, mad etc. she can go to her room and take a break or do jumping jacks or pound play-do .

Answer 9

Don't ignore her, but under no cirumstances are you to just put up with it. When my daughter has a tantrum, I let her know that I don't want to hear it, and send her to her room. This has several effects. one, it allows her to express her emotions. Two, it continues to assert that I am the parent, and I am in control. Once the tantrum has passed, talk to her and let her know you love her, no matter what, and talk about why sh had the tantrum in the first place. hope that helps.

Answer 10

When she starts to throw a tantrum, don't give in. Let her cry it out. Unfortunately, this will only work if everyone treats her the same way. She will keep up with this behavior, if everyone keeps giving in to her. If you are in a public place, immediately leave and take her home. Let her know it is unacceptable and that you won't put up with.

Answer 11

The best way to deal with tantrum is NOT to deal with them. Immediately walk away and ignore. Of course for a few times you start doing this, they will get REAL bad as she tests to see what it will take to get her way or your attention, but stick with it!!! When she stops the tantrum, give her the attention then.