he said it was this girl who used to rent a room from him there and she was fighting with her boyfriend and he told her she could stay over and didnt want to let me in because he was afraid i would fight her. We have been together almost 2 years and have talked about getting married. He has not apologized or anything. We are broken up now but i dont know how to get over this....he tells all our friends it was innocent and im freaking out over nothing....but i think he chose her over our relationship.....help
2006-07-07 17:48:58 · 23 answers · asked by lbcgrl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that is definitely a guy you don't need to be involved with. if he really did love you, he would have checked with you first before inviting a girl to sleep over at this place. and if he was afraid you were going to fight this other girl, obviously there was something going on because it was just him giving her a place to stay, there would be no reason for him to be afraid of a fight. even if he does apologize, don't take him back. chances are, he is just going to do it again. obviously your relationship doesn't mean that much to him if he is telling people you are freaking out over nothing. it is time to move on.
2006-07-07 17:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by cutelea 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust your instincts. I had a similar situation to yours and my bf at the time wouldn't let me in his house. Well, I felt in my gut that he had a girl there and whenI confronted him about it he said that there was but (once again) it was totally innocent. Even after he told me it was innocent I still had that nagging feeling in my gut and wouldn't you know the very next night he called me and told me what they had done. Needless to say I"m no longer with him. But the point of it is trust your gut and be the bigger person. Yes it would be nice if he apologized but you probably won't get one. He is telling your friends that you are freaking out over nothing so he can save face. Sweetie you are better off without him. Good luck.
2006-07-07 17:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by Julie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plain and simple, he was cheating on you. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Be glad you found out when you did. He is with her now and wants to make you out to be the bad guy in the break-up.
You should stay away from this man. It will hurt for a while, but it will hurt less as time goes by. One day you will ask yourself, "What did I ever see in him? How could I possibly have thought I loved him?" And you will be free to find a man who has enough respect for you not to cheat on you.
Oh Girl, do not contact this loser. Stay away.
2006-07-07 19:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. You caught him in the act.
I have to be honest. I did something very similar to what your bf was doing. I did it years ago..I was two-timing. I did it because I met someone I liked but I didnt have the guts to let the first one go. He was doing this because he was looking for something other than you..thats ok. Better to know that now than later.
Honestly, see past the hurt you feel right now and consider it a blessing. Learn from it and find a better fit
2006-07-07 18:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he chose her over you. It's over and he's trying to let you down easy.
What on earth were you doing when you went to his home at midnight???? That action was probably read by him as desperate and easy. Also possessive.
You need to think more highly of yourself and tell him you're so much better than him that you're going to find someone worthy of YOU!
2006-07-07 18:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you drunk? Have you gotten into fights with other girls before? Were they over him?
Your attitude at the time may be why he didn't let you in - look at yourself first to make sure. Many relationship problems can be "solved" by looking at your own behaviour first.
OTH, he may be a sleazeball, and you found out before you got married.
2006-07-07 17:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by Chris H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was probably boinking her and you are better off broken up then getting married to a cheater. If anything, go ask the "other woman" what was going on. Not that you can believe her either, but is worth a shot.
2006-07-07 17:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by turtle33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take this from me..............I am a guy and have been there done that. He was doing her........ no dought about it. he was doing her, doing her, doing her, doing her, doing her, doing her, doing her......... get the point ?.
Breaking up was the right thing to do and you did it. feel proud of yourself and move on. Loosers like him are not worth crying or feeling sad over. He is telling lies not because he noe "cant have his cake and eat it to". or maybe he was telling her the same story that you both were not doing it anymore and when you showed up, she may have broken up with him so now his back to playing with himself and by himself. Go enjoy the freedom and fine a nice guy and have fun in your life. ...........later
2006-07-07 17:58:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right to be upset, I mean think about it what if the tables were turned how would he feel, he is telling your friends that lie because he knows he is as guilty at sin. If you think your relationship is worth it then try and work things out with him but make it clear he was wrong and you respect youself enough not to put up with his crap.
2006-07-07 17:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by jazzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was screwing her and that's why he didn't let you in! You know that and that's why you're broke up! What a dog. I mean, if after two years together his "friend" needed a place to stay, then you would understand that. Find yourself a real man girl. Good luck.
2006-07-07 17:50:52 · answer #10 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋