2006-07-07 16:45:47 · 10 answers · asked by sweet411 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
my husband has been in country for 8 months now...he came home on his R&R....and he was different. I expected it, because who wouldn't change after something like that? He couldn't sit still, always a little nervous...and the dreams he had at night would keep me awake worrying about him.
Other than that, he was the same man i fell in love with. The tour didn't change his feelings for me...and if they did, it made them stronger. PTSD isn't a problem in our relationship so far, thank goodness...
2006-07-09 10:44:27 · answer #1 · answered by ashy_cowgirl83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he can home with a little PTSD but he doesn't really act differetn now it took a few months to get back to "normal". They are changed because of the things they have seem and the things they did but that part of their jobs. If your spouse comes back with PTSD there is couciling the military should provide "look into it now" but things go on and he'll eventually get over it. ( my husbands getting ready for a second tour ) Give him time and space when he needs it .
2006-07-07 19:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by manda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there will be changes. Regardless of what they've seen over there, they were gone for a long time, & people change in the time of a year or two years. When they have to do repeat tours then that's even more time apart, for both you to change.
But when you add into what they possibly saw or had to cope with while they were gone, then yeah you have to expect changes in them.
The best thing you can do is make sure the two of you try to talk with each other & that you each have someone you can turn to besides each other, who has been through it with you, or at least similiar to what you went through.
My husband & I always make sure to try to have lots of little get togethers with his soldiers and our other friends as well. You will learn a lot more that way, b/c they talk with each other differently than they do their spouses. Also, it gives you a social support and outlet. But I stress little, b/c a lot of the soldiers can't handle large crowds.
Hope that helps.
2006-07-10 06:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by Kristi C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not my spouse but my best friend came back very diffrent. We where like brothers when he left he even called me after a month and told me that it would be better if i was there. The calls and letters got less and less untill they just stoped i had to keep up with him through his wife. Now that he is back it is like when I make an effort then we are still friends, but he has been back for a year now and he has not called me even once. When I ask him about it he sayes that nothing has changed, but it truly has. I dont know wheather to let it go and hope to get my best friend back or keep pushing the issue.
2006-07-07 16:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by bwnbama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in Iraq back in 1991, and I still have dreams that I never left, or that the military has called me back to duty. I can't explain every one, but anger, fear, hopelessness, despair etc is an overwhelming feeling in those dreams. Sometimes I wake up crying or nervous.
I can say this, when you have utter confidence in the buddy next to you to watch your back, take a bullet etc, and you come back to the civilian world and you can't even trust your friends or g/f to do the simplest things, it is very angering. Where is the trust, where is the loyalty, where is the ethics and honor?
Yeah, people change a lot, you have to be very supportive and listen.
2006-07-07 16:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by deez3po2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I serverd in Iraq in Sadr city. Every single person I know (including my wife) says I'm a completely different person. Everyone I know changed aswell. I have been diagnosed with PTSD, and even the ones the weren't have it too but just never went to get checked for it. When you kill people, and almost get killed, it happens.
2006-07-07 17:04:11 · answer #6 · answered by odilious128 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay out of his/her way do NOT get into confrontations with them. Talk to them when they are calm, but you have to be calm as well. Let them come to you when they are ready. It will be hard my marriage almost ended because of this. This was my second tour in a combat zone. They will come out of the shell but it takes time and patience's on your side.
Seeing that much death and destruction day after day will change the strongest of people.
2006-07-07 17:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by wicked jester 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen folks, you are being naive if you think your spouse has gone to a foreign country to be part of a killing regime and at the same time in fear of being killed is going to come back home the same person. Oh perleeeeeeze!
2006-07-07 16:50:16 · answer #8 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Statistically 30% of people who go to war suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome at some point in their lives. What is the point of the question?
2006-07-07 16:48:43 · answer #9 · answered by question guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just feel blessed... Atleast your spouse came home. Many of us werent so lucky.
2006-07-07 16:50:31 · answer #10 · answered by kellbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋