I am a recently divorced mother of two, and though I love my children dearly - I have no choice but to work full-time to 'try' to support my family. I love my job, but I don't do it just for fun, I do it to provide for my children.
Which is better? To work hard and spend limited time with your children but secure a more stable future, or to work less hours and spend time with the children, but then likely be unable to put them through college or buy a home for them and I to live in?
2006-07-07 16:41:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Spend the time with the kids!!! I know how hard it is - I'm there too. I hate renting, and I have nothing in savings, and it doesn't look like I will EVER get anywhere, but my girls are happy and confident, and I know I am taking good care of them, and NOTHING is worth sacrificing them for - especially money you might need later. Let later worry about itself when it gets to you. You never know what can change in your life between now and then.
2006-07-07 16:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by Strange question... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A bit of advice, I think your kids in the end will see how hard you worked to give them a better life, it is difficult but at the end of the day you are the one they look up to and know that mommy is doing this for them, make sure that they know you love them "which I know they probably all ready do" and at the end of the day give your self a pat on the back because you are giving them what you need to, too provide a home and essitals for your family to survive!!! KUDOS TO YOU YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING, and like I said in the long run your children will know that it was all for them:)
From a single mom
Good luck!!
2006-07-08 00:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you should spend as much time as humanly possible with your children. No one that you pay will raise your kids like you would. You will do it with love, they are just getting a paycheck. Also, you have already taken the man out of their lives, you shouldn't take their mother out now as well. If you can work full time in the day and be home when they get home and their for the night, that would be good and they would see you all the time.
2006-07-07 23:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by Carl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a working mother and I've learned how to balance my motherly duties to my son and working in Corporate America. I recently changed jobs for this very reason. I was working an average of 60 hrs per week and now I've switched to a 3rd shift position for 40 hrs per week working 12 hr shifts in a hospital at a major university. This is the first year that I've been able to spend the summer with my son since he was born b/c I've always worked or went to college and it feels great to actually stop feeling guilty about leaving him at daycare and doing what makes both of us happy. You can always cut out unneccesary expenses to save money and have a secure future.
2006-07-08 03:51:28 · answer #4 · answered by rodaerc06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your kids are only little once. they are growing up too fast as it is. you are doing a fantastic job trying to provide for them by yourself, but there is only so much time left that they will actually want you to be around. my oldest one is seven, and there are times when she already says ok, mom, we're in public, do you have to stand so close? enjoy it now while you can. what's so bad about grown children paying their own way through college? (we did it?) and who says a two bedroom apartment can't be more of a home than a four bedroom house in the suburbs? a secure home and family is what you make of it-- not what the bank book says. do what you need to to provide for yourselves today and tomorrow. the rest will come in it's own time.
2006-07-08 00:54:37 · answer #5 · answered by ditzi_k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to make the most of the time you do have with them. When I am picking my son up from the daycare, I am looking forward to spending the time with him, and I make sure we have a quality time together. I know many stay-at-home moms, who spend their days trying to avoid the kids, because they are there all the time and end up spending little quality time with them. Sorry that you have no choice, but it does not have to be bad. Good luck!
2006-07-07 23:48:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that children come first. What do they remember more, the doll at Christmas or the day you spent with them at the park? But you have to do what you have to do, to provide for them. Don't feel guilty about it!!!
2006-07-08 00:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by clara_bell81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋