going through years of constant phone calls (maybe not from mysteryman but), being on the net, and proceeds to tell her husband that he isnt spending enough time with eachother, communicate, and irresponsible
2006-07-07 16:38:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
that is a difficult one. Some people can love more than one man or woman, but it creates major problems as they are not all in agreement on this. Besides, you say she is planning a new life elsewhere so she can not really love her husband if she wants to get away from him. Not a cool situation all around. She should have left the husband before messing around, internet or otherwise.
2006-07-07 16:42:01 · answer #1 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the wife is seeking distraction, praise and affection somewhere, be it indulging in her work, finding love and flirting on the net, then clearly she is not content with her marriage. they call it falling inl ove becuase it's easy you put no effort into falling, and it's called building a relationship becuase you have to work on it to maintain it. strong relationships take time, a lot of effort and a good foundation of trust. the wife clearly isn't building her relationship but pointing fingers at her husband because she's found that she is now desired elsewhere. she shouldn't complain about what her husband isn't doing for the relationship, but should try to realise why he isn't communicating with her in the first place. is it because when he does talk, she nags him? or is it because he really isn't interested in her anymore? maybe he isn't communicating with his wife because she spends too much time on the phone or on the net with mysterymen and other people who only want to talk dirty and who make her laugh, and feel desired, or make her feel voiced out, but it's all talk and these men are probably superficial anyway.
the flame in her relationship has just dimmed, to make it work, someone should make the initiative to talk it out and take some action. its more so important to make a move than to lecture, so take the innitiative to relight the flame. if both husband and wife feel that they are just bored with each other, if they are seriously having marital problems, then they should definitely talk it through and try and choose the best route. Be fair to each other, when you try and find satisfaction and desirability outside your marriage it's considered an extramarital affair. start working on your relationship. work on loving him again, most importantly, love yourself - stop settling for men who want you becuase you make yourself sound cheap. you deserve better.
2006-07-07 18:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by chance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some women its not about the sex that keeps her mind and heart at home. Some ladies appreciate some adventure or just someone to listen and understand her. If you feel that you are having a problem with your wife, maybe its time to re evaluate what you've been doing to keep her attention focused on you. Have you asked her what you can do for her lately? In ALL areas of the relationship...And actually listen, care and do it.
2006-07-07 16:56:42 · answer #3 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's hard to explain but it happens, i had a internet fling and it almost ended my marriage, i had to give it up, but it was really never a threat on my part, it was the excitement of the secret, also i got more attention to my needs by the internet fling, my husband and i had to work through it but he is now always sure i am satisfied in our love making and has been successful in being more attentive to our relationship, listen to your wife without being offensive, she is crying out to you, listen
2006-07-21 15:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by judy j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
D I V O R C E, It may make one of you happier if not both. Just throw the word out there and see her face. If she loves you, you will see it in her expression.
Good Luck
2006-07-18 17:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really sounds like its a battle of if and when she will leave. i think the love in yr life had gone sometime back. sometimes you can respark the flame but its so hard to do that if there is no interest from one or the other.
2006-07-07 16:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by yumm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's time for you to move on! Let her go ahead with her plans, time for you to make some plans of your own. Best of luck!
2006-07-19 04:20:29 · answer #7 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously the wife isnt in love w/ the husband then
2006-07-07 16:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by [carly] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its your time on the net and the name you choose
2006-07-07 16:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by juggy_man2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes not in love with her husband obviously.
2006-07-07 16:48:16 · answer #10 · answered by TK #11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋