my aunt DIED from breastv cancer i cry all the time thinking about her what can i do to feel better?

Answer 1

Write your thoughts in a journal and cry your eyes out. Don't ignore the tears...let them come.

When you feel like it, find a local charity that benefits Breast Cancer, and get involved. You can let others know that you are doing this work in memory of your Aunt.

Answer 2

I know exactly how you feel my mother pass away from the same thing too when I was 14 yrs old, I'm 22 now I cry almost every single nite wishing that she was still alive and be here with me during my pregnancy sometime I forget what she looks like but the best thing that helped me so far is having her photo next to my bed and watching home video of her and the most important thing is talking about her and get together with the whole family now and then. Anyway hope everything goes well with you and sorry for your lost.

Answer 3

I am very sorry to hear about your aunt. My grandmother died 5 yrs ago of breast cancer. My father just passed away of lung and brain cancer 2 mo ago. I know it hurts. I took care of my father for a 1yr and a half, he died the day after my birthday. During that time, I seen him change from a strong, independant man to a very sick man who depended on us to simply walk. When I think of him now, I know that he is not in any more pain, and he was in alot of pain, you could see it. He taught me something, not one time did he complain about having cancer, the pain or dying at the age of 52..... Now I try everyday to not complain about the little things and be a stronger person, for me and not for anyone else.

Deep stuff huh?

Maybe try thinking of what your aunt taught you in life. Try to apply those things to your life. When you become aware of her in your everyday life, like something she would have said or thought was funny. Then you will know she is still very much with you. I know it sounds corny, but it does help. You dont feel so alone.......

Answer 4

How truly sorry I am regarding your aunt. Obviously you were very close to her. There are several things that come to mind to help you...Keep busy, when you're busy you don't have that time to dwell on those thoughts; remember the lesson here and always keep up-to-date with your OB/GYN appointments; and think about this...Do you really believe that your aunt would want you to be crying so much? I don't know what faith you believe in, but somehow I have a hard time thinking that your wonderful aunt would want you doing this. Each day will get a bit better, it's a very slow process - the closer you are, the slower it seems to go, but it goes, baby steps - until one day you realize you can smile when you think of her. I know of what I speak, I'm Christian and 40. In this amount of time - having very little family to begin with - I've lost my great-grandmother (69, at home suddenly), great-aunt (46, she was working, died suddenly in the bathroom), great-uncle (52, in the hospital, slowly to emphysema), both uncles (32, at home, to AIDS, which I was very close with this uncle and the other made it to 47, at home, until alcoholism finally took it's toll), my grandmothers (63, suddenly at home, which I was very close with and the other 87, in the hospital but slowly over years, little by little), and then I have my brother (33, at home, to alcoholism) - I'm the oldest of 3, with two younger brothers. Time stops for no one, life must go on. It takes time, but you will be o.k. one day, truly. Sorry for the rambling...

Answer 5

It's hard. Does it feel like there is a void, and nothing you do matters b/c you feel such a loss? It's a numbing feeling. The worst part is that there is a physical pain which hurts with breathing and in the heart area. I have felt it, it is very weird when you lose someone like that.

I guess, talk to people about it and cry. Sometimes it seems that trying to do something else is avoiding the pain and it doesn't help. Talk to someone. . . . . .

Answer 6

well, i noe this is wut alot of people say, but think of all the good times you had and look back at all the wonderful moments that u guys shared. Its gonna hurt, but if u look at it,its almost a good thing that u would feel hurt. Like look at it, really, arent u glad that u knew your aunt and u actually have a reason for for missing her, it just makes her all that more special, and u will never forget her and you will always have a special place in your heart for her. Its almost like the saying its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. Now i noe that she was your aunt but its kinda like the same thing ...dont u think so?.....arent u happy that u knew such a wonderful person and that she was apart of UR life.?

Answer 7

time heals all wounds. I suggest that you get involved in the fight against breast cancer. It will help you honor your aunts memory and make you proud. There are walks, runs, ribbons, stickers for your car etc. it is endless. Avon sells alot of items that $$ goes towards research. Find something you like to do, (like walk) get a group of your friends, have t-shirts make up in pink and white that say something like in memory of aunt Kim, fighting for aunt Kim anything that makes you think of her. Anything you decide to do will put you in touch with lots of other people going through the same thing, talking to others will help. I'm sorry for your loss, best of luck

Answer 8

Your pain will ease as time goes, remember your aunt will always be with you smiling down from heaven. She is out of pain and in a better place. Try and think of all the fun yall had together and dont think of the sadness. Remember that she will always be around you even when you think she aint.

Answer 9

I know that that is real hard... I lost my father in 1996 to heart disease. It took a year to really start functioning after that. One thing that can sometimes make the pain more bearable is to help the Breast Cancer Foundation to help find a cure. There are runs, Breast Cancer awareness groups, etc. that you can donate your time to. I know that that is easy to say, but it might take your sadness and re-focus it.

Answer 10

Keep crying. that what I did when My mom died of cancer. It was just their time.Now they are truly happy and at peace. Be very thankful you had the time with them that you did.Death is inevitable and dealing with it for a long time is natural. Keep strong. It WILL get easier.You will never forget her and that is a good thing.