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Question

my mom won't let me have a driver's permit !! plz help me?
my mom says that if i really want to drive i should first get a job and make enuff money so thn i can learn to drive and can easily afford a car..

she doesn't want me to be barrowing her jeep because she thinks i'll take away the car from her!!....this is making me soo angry and i stay in the house 24/7 get gud grades and i won't be doing wot she thinks..

can any1 plz give me good advice about this... all my friends are driving and close to owning their own vehicles!! this is soooooooo not fair =[

thnx for ur help in adavance

lol..very funny thanks for making fun at the way I type...

and yes i do have a dad but he isnt always there

for those of you who really helped[ which is almost everyone] i really appricate it..i wish i could give all of you 10 points but i can't..

Answer 1

get a new mom.

Answer 2

Somebody please, call the "Wahm-bulance"! You think you are entitled to a car and to driving privileges, don't you? I worked 20 hours a week in high school, got straight A's, never EVER got in trouble, and I paid my mother rent from the time I turned 16--and she never let me get my license either! So, when I was 20, I had saved enough money, I hired a driving instructor, got my license and bought a car. Was this fair? Of course not! But instead of whining, why not come up with a plan of how you can pay for things.

Open up a spreadsheet and figure out how much lessons, insurance, gas, etc., would cost if you used Mom's car. Then, figure out how much you can make working at a store or something; go so far as to fill out on-line applications. Prove that if you get a job, you will be able to afford driving lessons, insurance and gas.

Tell your mom that if you accomplish all that, she could set a schedule for your car use--NO EXCEPTIONS! Trust me, take the mature route. I now have 2 daughters of my own, and any time they present a plan to me for something they want, I usually go along with it. Stop the whining, eye rolling & dirty looks, and I bet you will get what you want.

Good luck!

Answer 3

A driver's permit and a driver's license are two different things. You might try asking your mom for a good time to discuss it with her and set up a time when she isn't stressed or busy.
When you sit down to talk to her, ask her if you can get the permit just to practice driving with her. Tell her that you know a driver's license is a privilige, and that you would like to prepare yourself with experience behind the wheel. Mention that it will probably take at least 6 to 7 months for you to practice driving and studying the rules and laws before you are even ready to take the driver's license exam.
Then mention to her that at that time you will begin looking for part-time work.
Most important to you at this stage of your life is doing well in school. It is my opinion that a kid's job during their teens is school, not out working for someone else to pay for a car to drive to school and work. (doesn't make sense, does it?)
Also, it really doesn't matter what all your friends are doing- their circumstances and their parents are all different from yours. In a way, it is good for you that all your friends will have licenses and cars, then you won't have to worry so much about a ride!
Good luck, and remember to show maturity and respect for your mom. She has probably worked hard to have something nice, and she just wants you to understand the concept!

Answer 4

Really and truly, you don't need your mother's consent to get a driving permit. You are approaching an age were you will take on the responsibilities and gain the priveledges of being an adult. That means that you have to learn to take initiative and settle things on your own. You can probobly take a driver's ed class at your school, and then take the driving test on your own.

Now whether or not your mother chooses to let you drive the jeep is a different issue. You might gain her good graces by taking a part-time job and learning to manage your money. Of course, I don't know you or your mothers, so you'll have to find your own way to settle this, but I hope this helps!

Answer 5

This won't get me the best answer but I'm going to say it anyway: Your Mom may be trying to instill you with a good work ethic so that you can learn the value of money and how important it is to save for something you want.

So what if your friends are driving and close to owning their own vehicles? Are they close to paying their own insurance premiums, buying their own gas and paying for their own maintenance and repairs? You simply don't know their situations.

Is your Dad in the picture or is your Mom a single Mom? If so, it may be killing her that she can't do this for you and yet, there's a more important lesson here.

Try to see past the material and appreciate what you have. You may have the coolest Mom around.

Tell her you love her. And mean it.

Answer 6

well without knowing the details it is really hard to say.
It sounds like your mom is being selfish but is there a reason she can't or shouldn't trust you?
Start off asking her if you can borrow the car for an hour and bring it back in an hour!!! not one minute late.
Next time say two hours and stick with it. If you prove true to your word, she may trust you more with the car.
I do agree though that earning some money is important. Gas is really expensive and you can't expect your mom to pay for your gas.
Good luck!

Answer 7

Well...your mom might be tight but you have no idea of the cost of running a vehiicle but despite her complaints of you needing a ride here and there ..Just a question but all your friends ..are their parents paying for everything? and If they are how is your own family on money? And it does sound as if you could use a wake up call about taking responsibility...but in answer to your question try meeting your mom half way and I bet she'll change her tune!

Answer 8

I think you should get your own car as long as your grades are up. When i was in highschool (i graduated 02) and i went to Kinkaid Prep Academy, which enrolls teens from some of the county's most affluent neighborhoods, are usually loaded with upscale cars and SUVs such as BMWs and Range Rovers. Some teen drivers say their parents reward good grades with expensive vehicles. Around here cars like this really aren't that big of a deal .of course, It's all about good grades.

Answer 9

First of all, to really impress your mother, try speaking with proper English to show how responsible you are and able to own your own car. I agree with your mother that you need to get a job to understand the reality of handling a car. My best advice would be to get a low paying job to start off. It is fair that your mother is not spoiling you and giving in to what you want. You need to understand that you have to work for what you want and getting "gud grades" does not always cut it.

Answer 10

First, get a job. Then tell you mom you need the car to go to your job. Then you'll HAVE TO HAVE a permit so you can drive to your job. Don't tell your mom this plan. Just start looking for work... your mom will see you are serious. Tell her the day you get hired that you "might need to get a permit so you can drive to work." Remember, you MUST KEEP THE JOB to KEEP DRIVING. Once you establish the responsibility of getting a job, then you'll gain the responsibility of driving to work. Then, you'll gain car privileges to parties, friends house, etc. Stick to this plan and you'll get that permit. Solid.

Answer 11

Maybe try talking to her about this. I know it's hard, but just try. Tell her why you think you should be able to borrow her car. Make her trust you and believe you when you say that you won't be doing the things she thinks that you will be doing. If this doesn't work, then maybe try getting a job and so forth. Parents want what's best for their kids, and sometimes they go a bit overboard in the process. But the way I have gotten many things to go my way is by sitting down with my parents and talking to them, telling how I feel about it, and helping to make them trust me.