my soon to be husband and i are running away to las vegas to get married and we are not inviting our parents and we are not telling them when we are getting married they think we are having a big wedding but we do not want one is wrong of us to do that
2006-07-07 16:23:17 · 12 answers · asked by nicks girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I don't really think it is wrong. Do what you and your guy want t odo. When you get back, you could have a big reception for family and friends. That might make up for your parents not being at the wedding. i think it's better to have a small wedding and concentrate on the marriage, and not just the one day that is the ceremony. (Congratulations!)
2006-07-08 11:31:10 · answer #1 · answered by jen 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Friends of our eloped and their families were wicked pissed. They got married in Red Rock Canyon, right outside of Vegas. It's still one of the most beautiful weddings I've ever been to. There were 8 of us in this awesome canyon. You can get married in the Valley of Fire, Lake Mead. I had to hear about it though from both of their sisters and I'm not even part of their family. They're still hearing about years later. You have to decide how upset your families will be and if they'll never forget that you didn't give them a wedding.
Another course of action you might want to consider is a destination wedding on a cruise or at an all inclusive resort. You get your wedding and honeymoon all in one, plus you can invite whoever you want but you don't have to pay for a reception because it's all inclusive. Friends of ours did this in December and it was fun. We got a 4 day vacation and a great wedding on a beautiful island. I don't remember how much it cost us, but it wasn't bad, since we got a vacation out of it. Not everyone will come if you do this, but I'll bet the people who would complain the most (parents and siblings) will come. Good luck
2006-07-09 04:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's what you and your future husband want to do, that's fine, but don't run away and get married, without telling your parents, you will regret it later.
Why can't you explain to your parents that you and him decided not to have a big wedding. Explain your reasons why. It is your wedding and you have a right to do whatever you want. There is no rule about having a big wedding. They might be disappointed but at least they know upfront whats going on.
At least give them a choice to attend your wedding. If they decide that they don't want to go, that would be sad, but at least you can go to Vegas with a clear conscience knowing that you invited them and they chose not to go.
2006-07-07 23:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by allyp51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Expect your parents to be very disappointed and hurt that you don't want to include them in your wedding, especially since they think you'll have this huge wedding later on. If you don't want a big wedding just tell your parents you don't want it and that you would prefer to get married your way. You have the right to decide how you want your wedding to be. Invite your parents to your wedding in Vegas and leave it up to them to decide if they would be willing to go.
2006-07-07 23:31:12 · answer #4 · answered by moma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be wrong to lead your parents on into thinking you are having a big wedding. If you have told them you are going to do that and then run off, that is wrong. Had you not told them anything, you could run off with out a problem. Doing it this way will do nothing but cause hard feelings between them and you.
2006-07-07 23:55:42 · answer #5 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it sounds exciting and romantic, it is not responsible. Both your families and friends are taking time out of their lives to join you in celebration of your big day. You run the risk of upsetting those who love you both and disappointing those you both love. If the Las Vegas thing is what you want, thats all good, but have someone in charge of cancelling plans for you in advance to allow those who committed to come to your wedding some courtesy.
2006-07-08 00:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not have your wedding in Vegas for you two and after have the big one in which you can invite your family and friends?
2006-07-07 23:28:25 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Stacy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hun.....this is your wedding day and YOU should be the one to decide the way you wont it to turn out....i would tell your parents what you wont before you elope so you keep there trust in tact...granted it may cause hurt feelings but it would still show them that you can be trusted....if you tell them what you have planned for your wedding day and stand by it all they can do is either love you enough to show up and get over their diffrences or not show up at all....i hope this helps ...love daisy
2006-07-07 23:37:07 · answer #8 · answered by crazy_daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have whatever kind of wedding you want, but to do it without even telling your parents ahead of time, I feel is disrespectful to them. But that's just my opinion.
2006-07-07 23:54:45 · answer #9 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no...you only live once so do what makes you happy. sometimes its easier to just run off and marry. then you dont have to deal with your family and their reactions. your the one who has to be happy with your decision...not them. best wishes!
2006-07-08 10:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋