Why did he steal my money without asking me?

Question

Ok, this guy and i have been messing around since forever. He spent last night with me and i got paid today. Well after he left I realized i was 20 dollars short. How do i confront him and why wouldn't he just ask me for the money? I understand that he's going through a bunch of stuff right now and I would've helped him out if he had just asked, I don't know how to handle this situation. I love him but i dunno...i'm just crazy.....

Answer 1

He probably was too embarrassed to ask and thought you wouldn't notice it.

Answer 2

This is really a tough call on your part, but you could calmly bring it up to him that you counted your money for a deposit slip to be put into your bank and you noticed that you were $20 short. Ask him, if it were him, would he confront his Boss because you are sure that you were shorted at work. Chances are that the guilt will play on him, and he'll admit to you that he took it. If he does admit it to you, may I further suggest that you thank him for his honestly and remind him that you've known each other for a long time and if he was in such dire straits that you would have been more than happy to help him out, but that you are very disappointed that he felt the need to steal from you. Hopefully this will never happen again.

Have a lovely rest of the evening.

Answer 3

He stole from you, and if you want any chance of a serious relationship, then it must be addressed, or her will see you as a milktoast pushover, who he can use at his will. If he denies it, or has no knowledge about it, just walk away from him, and don't look back. Don't, I repeat, don't give him a second chance if he lies to you, or claims no knowledge of the incident (which is what I suspect he will do. I have never stolen from a lady before, but, as a guy, lets just say I know how the manipulative mind can work).

If he does acknowledge that he stole the money, then he better have a good reason! If he said he needed to pay a bill, he better be able to produce the receipt!! If he says he gave in to a moment's temptation, tell him he has lost all credibility with you, and tell him you need a few days away from him to think about your relationship. If he gets defensive or starts pleading, get rid of him, especially if he gives the sob story of how he thought you were his friend who would understand!! I have been married for five years, and I, out of principle, do not get into my wife's purse without her permission, nor does she my wallet, unless it is an absolute emergency, and then we make sure to let the other one know ASAP! The fact that he took the money and ran tells me he has little, if any, respect for you, and, if you don't have enough respect for yourself to hold him to account, then don't expect him to give you the respect you deserve and need to make a relationship work!!

Sorry for the length of this response! Its just that I have seen many a shitbags do this sort of thing to women, and then give them the sweet talk story later! When you confront him, keep this old proverb in mind, "Fool me once, shame on you! Fool me twice, shame on me!" You seem like too nice a girl!! Don't let this shitbag fool you twice!!

Answer 4

Many people will take items when they feel down and out or at the bottom of the barrel.

Some people are just natural born thieves and will steal from anyone no matter who they are.

Just be happy you realized it after $20. Personally I wouldn't let the person back over or near my stuff as this just allows him to take more.

To confront him will cause an arguement and most likely he will deny it to the end. Best bet is just chuck it up to a learning experience and ditch the friend.

A friend who is a thief is no friend to begin with.

Answer 5

Hate to be repetitive, but if he asked you it wouldn't be stealing. It sounds like you got a HUGE wake up call though. I would cut him loose and fast. If you've been hanging out for awhile and now he's stealing,what else is he doing or will he do? If you can't trust him(and obviously you can't) you shouldn't be together. RUN while you can. And consider this a huge gift. It doesn't matter how "messed up" he is, if the roles were reversed would you steal or lie to someone you loved? NO. Get out sweetie. Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

Get out now. Run. I'm sure he was probably just embarassed to ask you for the money, which is understandable, but you have to ask this: Do you see yourself spending the rest of your life with a man who just messes around with you and steals your money? Wouldn't you rather be with one who takes care of YOU and tells the world he loves you?

Answer 7

That ain't cool! He stole from u!! Ask really nicely like, almost in a jokingly way. If he admits to it ,tell him that's it's not cool to steal from u and let him know that u would have given it to him if he just asked, but if i were u, i wouldn't be to sure about this guy. that's dopefeind type stuff.

Answer 8

It's wrong but if they each have equal amounts saved and only one third was taken out, the other brother can consider it as if the brother took out his own portion. If there's a lack of trust, he can take out the remaining 2/3 and put it in another account.

Answer 9

Someone steals from you and you love them? You are crazy and nobody asks can they steal money from you. You need to be more careful about who you spend the night with.

Answer 10

Well he probably figures you owe him for the service he provided. Consider your self lucky that all he took was $20. Be thankful he is gone. Don't let him back in or you may not have anything left next time.

Answer 11

You say he is going through something, he probably thought you wouldn't miss it. I assure you he wasn't thinking about you (only his situation) But you should confront him. You don't want him to think that it is ok to do that to you.