right before my 11th month anniversary my bf dumped me and for no reason...it really came out of no where ...i dont know how to get over him everything reminds me of him and i still really like him but he claims he doesnt want a relationship right now and i dont understand it because we were soo good together and got along really good too .. i still have a lot of his clothes too and i dont what to do with them i want to give them back but i cant bear to even see him right now...any advice and encouragement would be greatly apprciated
2006-07-07 15:34:42 · 6 answers · asked by Lo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You must give him time, and yourself, time to heal. There is a reason for the break up.. sometimes it is as small as, "You never made breakfast for me. I can't live like that." My husband left me early in our relationship because he wanted to move back to his home state, and I asked his brother what it was like living in that town, ( I already knew how my husband felt about it, that is why I did not ask him.) Well this upset him, only I did not know it at the time. The next thing I knew, there was a man and a pick-up that I had never seen before, backed up to our door and Husband was leaving! many months later we got back together. Some men just shut down in the wake of emotional pain. You know what I'm saying..
You got to get his stuff out of your home (out of sight out of mind.) Pack it all up.. in black trash bags if you have to. Just grab and stuff - do not spend time reminiscing! Call him, or send a note telling him he can come by and get his stuff, that you will not be home, because it would just be too hard for you. Then do not be there!
I won't tell you there are more fish in the sea.. That is a silly expression. I will tell you, that if something does not work out, there is a better plan, guy, job waiting for you. Do, keep yourself busy, surround self with lots of people that can keep your mind occupied. I know it hurts.. a break up hurts even when it's what you want. This is the most I can give with out fully knowing the situation. Take care...
2006-07-07 16:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by 4mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mail him his clothes.
Find someone else -- just to have fun with. find a friend, get to know him and he may just end up becoming a boyfriend. Even if he doesn't, you'll have a great time and make a new friend.
Besides, the quickest way to pay back someone who hurts you needlessly is to show them how OK and wonderful you are without them.
GO HAVE SOME FUN!!! Pretty soon you won't even remember why you ever liked that jerk who didn't appreciate you!
2006-07-07 22:38:34 · answer #2 · answered by tubby77379 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One breath at a time.
If you find an answer to heal a shattered heart faster contact me. We have been broken up for 38 days and it still hurts to breath!
2006-07-07 22:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by Cricket 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make yourself sexy and find someone eles possibly. :) as soon as too many guys come to you, you will suddenly forget your ex.
2006-07-07 22:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by Rachell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new one.
2006-07-07 22:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must find a new one asap.
2006-07-07 22:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by nolyad69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋