Well he says he loves me, I love him and I am almost 4 months pregnant but he says he has doubts about the baby being his therefore he doesn't treat me right and he is not really as concerned as he should be considering this is his first child. He puts me through alot makes me cry and keep saying that it is only a 50/50 chance because he says I cheated but I really didn't and I want us to be together and be a family. Should I leave or should I stay? I really feel like once he finds out the truth he will be a great dad.
2006-07-07 15:23:48 · 18 answers · asked by blaquegirlmahoghany 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sure don't need all this stress right now that's for sure. Tell him that, and that he will find out soon enough that it does belong to him.
2006-07-07 15:26:51 · answer #1 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What woman don't understand is that a man pretty much has to take a woman's word on whether or not a child is his? I'm not saying its cool for him to have you crying during your pregnancy. Stress is not good for the baby. I read somewhere that like 1 in 10 children are being raised by a father that's not theirs (that doesn't include adoption just men who believe their kids are acutually theirs). If this is the only problem with him then I say stick it out.
Another thing women don't understand is the damage done to a kid when they don't have their father in their lives. I know that a father can still be a father and not live with his child but does take a toll on a child in some way. So, you should only consider leaving as a last resort.
BTW, I went through this and my daughter came out looking just like me and I felt like **** for putting my kid's mother through that.
2006-07-07 15:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by beast80 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did not cheat on him, then you have nothing to worry about. Ignore is accusations because you know the truth.
The only person that will treat you the way you want is YOU!!
Do you really want to be with someone that accuses you of things you did not do?
Sounds like he is afraid of the thought of being a father. Why not go to parenting classes together to lessen his fears of becoming a father. If he refuses, then go alone.
Also, if you go through this pregnancy alone, without any support from him, then you can also care for your child alone.
2006-07-07 15:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by menndebi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A "great dad" is a man who LOVES the woman unconditionally. Open your eyes... this is abusive, its tearing you apart and you need to be free of stress and negative garbage when your making a baby! IF he loved you, he wouldnt care who the child was genetically. But, if you want factual proof, get an invitro dna test. I wouldnt tho, I dump him now, before he abuses you and baby more.
2006-07-07 15:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by seamonkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave..
maybe he just don't want the responsibility of being a father. The ways he's treating you now is not good for your pregnancy. It might affect your baby.
2006-07-07 15:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have him to do a DNA test to prove that it is his baby and then if he still keeps acting like a jerk when he finds out that it is his, kick him to the curb. And what makes him think that you have been cheating?
2006-07-07 15:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I love a woman and she's pregnant, in reality, I wouldn't care who the sperm donor is, I would be the best dad I could to the child that my loved one bore.
That's me. You judge if you want to be with someone who's love is conditional on the fact that he was the sperm donor.
Toodles.
2006-07-07 15:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by MarQus1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your stress is hurting the baby. You may need to leave him.
He is trying to get out of the responsibility.
Prove it when the baby is born, then make sure he pays for his child.
2006-07-07 15:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by Phrosty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your doctor at your next visit if they can do a blood test on the baby or have to wait till its born? ask your dr.
and have your husband take a blood test, just to prove him wrong. get the question over with as soon as possible,
so you can start enjoying your pregnancy and quit worrying.
2006-07-07 15:28:04 · answer #9 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how great of a guy/father can he be if he doubts you?
if he truly worries about this, then tell him to pay for a test.
he should trust you and he doesn't and puts you through all that, is it really worth it?
2006-07-07 15:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by jenzen25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋