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a really close family member died like 2 days ago and i dunno what to do, i cant make it to thier funeral so im stuck

2006-07-07 15:16:50 · 7 answers · asked by a7xkindagirl 2 in Family & Relationships Family

7 answers

Sorry to hear about your lose, but why can't you make it to the funeral, is it to far away or what? I don't understand, you need to give some more info here to help you out better.

I can also understand how you feel about your lose as I lost my grandma and brother in less than 30 days a part not long ago.

2006-07-07 15:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 5 2

First, my sympathies. It's always difficult to lose someone close to you and very hard to not be there for the funeral or memorial service, partly because it helps everyone who shares the loss, partly because you lose that particular closure even if you think you can do without it, and also because it's a sign of respect and love.

So, you can't go but you can do something else. Take the time to somehow honor this person's passing whether it's by going to church or to a park or doing some type of activity you might have shared with them while they were alive. Gather with friends who are close to you and get them to help you celebrate the life that was lived. Or do something on your own in private, but do it mindfully and with the kind of reverence you would if you were able to attend the funeral.

Let the people know who will be there why you can't and that you'll be with them in spirit. Share your feelings and help them share theirs. This is a time for everyone to reach out and comfort one another and remind each other of what matters, especially connections of family and heart.

2006-07-07 15:32:32 · answer #2 · answered by AngelsRUs 1 · 0 0

I would do whatever I could to MAKE IT TO THE FUNERAL. If not, all you can do is call, send flowers, have a mass said for that person, make a donation.... Not much else if you can't find a way to be there. Once you are able to be around the other grieving loved ones, be there to talk about your feelings, share memories, and listen to theirs. God Bless

2006-07-07 15:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by blue_id_baby05 2 · 0 0

Send flowers, make a charitable donation in the deceased's name, or send some kind of food basket to the immediate family. Maybe all three. Call the family, tell them how sorry you are that you can't be there in person, and try to get there as soon as you're able.

They'll appreciate any sympathetic gesture, even if you're not there to give it in person.

2006-07-07 15:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by oh kate! 6 · 0 0

Take it straight forward, diverse people cope with lack of existence in a lot of procedures. this gained't be an proper habit for you, yet that is how he deals with it. even as my granmother gave up the ghost, her spirit become with me and each and each and every of the undesirable such issues as me getting grounded deteriated purely to leave purely good concepts- how we laughed and performed, listened to music, watch television, and traveled nonetheless continues to be in my concepts, continually i imagine of something she once stated and chuckle about it; I did an same element even as some my classmates died, even if we did not get alongside, I appeared on the brighter facet of the area. There are useful motives for each occassion. we are meant to cry even as a start comes because the existence ahead is crammed with soreness; we morn, yet celebrate at funerals because the existence ahead is crammed with convenience and the soreness isn't any extra. " seem To The Hill which Cometh My help."

2016-10-14 05:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

im sorry for your loss!!!

dont feel to bad ,ive had the same situation-when both my grandparents died-i was unable to make it.

send some flowers if you can and make sure to speak with family members who are going to be there and let them know that you fell really bad about not making it!!

2006-07-07 15:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

After the funeral, when you are free, go to their grave and leave some flowers. Or you can try to reschedule so you can go

2006-07-07 15:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by sissyj 6 · 0 0

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