do you have to love your family???

Question

i really want to knwo what people think about this!!!!

i have a horrible family-on both my mom and dads side.im not going into to details but one thing i can say is that i would never let my daughter be around any of them,even my parents!!is it wrong to feel like this!!!!!!!!

>>>and please no bible stuff-about loving thy mother and father stuff!!they werent talking about my parents-im sure of that!!!lol!!!

Answer 1

no!!!!who says you have to-i think you should get as far away from your family as you can once you turn 18

familys will ruin your life,especially extended familys(aunts,uncles cousins...)

always keep your daughter close to you if you can!!!!

Answer 2

No, I don't think it's wrong at all for you to feel the way you do. You, as a mother, have the huge responsibility of protecting your daughter (among a million other responsibilities!). And if that means your own family, then unfortunately, that's the way it needs to be. Now, if you're just at odds with your family temporarily...had an argument or whatever...then this is not what I'm saying. If this is the case, and you're parents are generally good, responsible, loving and caring parents, then you're cheating your daughter out of having a relationship with them. Go with your maternal instinct...nothing beats it.

Answer 3

No it isn't. Our families are here to teach us stuff and to bring us up. Once we are all adults it is time for us all to decide if we want to be friends or not. If not, you see them at family functions (or not even then). There are lots of people who do not associate at all with their family for strong personal differences. And it is absolutely our responsibility to break the cycle of madness and protect our kids from crazy or hateful people.

When you love your family, you give them every benefit of the doubt and you want to stand up for them - but even with strong love, there comes a time when you have to say enough already. I don't deserve this and I won't stand for it in my life! My mother's beloved twin brother turned to alcohol and violence - we tried many many times to help, get him into a program only to have him go through and turn right back to the bottle and endanger us all. How much punishment should the family endure because of his choices?

I have a younger sister who makes everyone's life stressful and nerve wracking. We are all so luck just now because she has stopped speaking to us for no good reason. There was no fight even - but when I call or email i get a message that she is not accepting communications from my phone or address! Yipee! Now I don't have to deal with her and her drama and I am not angry and I didn't do anything wrong! I am thrilled - best case scenario.

Peace!

Answer 4

if there is no love in your family it is because it was never shown by the parents.. its not always your fault.. so dont feel bad just cause you have a tough family.. its not really something you can control.. sure it sounds a little harsh saying that you wouldnt want your daughter around them.. but if you honestly think they will do some damage to your daughter the way they did to you then by all means dont do something you dont want to.. dont feel obligated to love your family just cause its the right thing to do.. they say blood is thicker than water but sometimes family can bring you down harder than strangers

Answer 5

My parents are so incredibly critical and judgemental that I dread being around them. I think when we get older, we stop seeing our parents as role models,and start to judge them as we do others on whether or not we want those people to be influences in our daily lives.

If you feel that strongly about your parents being destructive role models, you should talk to them. If they are not the type that you can do with, then your good intentions should be followed.
-Just because they are your parents, it doesn't mean they are exempt from being bad people.

Good Luck.

Answer 6

Families @ best are wonderful but more often than not, they are toxic whirlpools that existed once to give you life but if you let them will kill you and pee on your grave. Life is TOOOOOO short to put up with any ones' dysfunction. Move away / stay away and create your own family from others who know this truth too. ('About A Boy" illustrates this rather well)

Answer 7

No it's not wrong. We all wish we had family's that we were close to, but it is often the opposite. While it is sad, just know there are other people in this world who will give you the love, comfort, and support that your own family doesn't. Good luck:)

Answer 8

Well, cutekari, you can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family.
If your family are that bad, just be nice and tolerate them, until you can safely get away (if you're still living with them), then avoid them as much as possible, if they're a bad influence. Fortunately, it's not mandatory for one to live with one's parents forever. There is a way to love people, but not give in, to their evil.

Answer 9

well that sucks....I am puerto rican and growing up in a culture where family is most important, I can say i am sad for you. But you cant completely ignore your family though...if things are really bad you must have atleast some realtives that are good influence..

i hope things work out

Answer 10

you don't get to pick your family... they are given to you. you cant change them ,but you should -love them... you didn't give any details about your real problem with them , but i have known a couple family's that were so terrible that i thank god they are not mine ,because i would have had to abandon them myself...so depending on the situation .....i would have to have more detail to decide if i agree with you...hard to call. sad i must say... i love my family and i would do any-thing for them.

Answer 11

no it is not wrong if u don't like something they do or something they did u do not have to think as them as a part of your family and u don't have to let them see ur daughter