11 year old still wets the bed. What can I do to help her stop?

Question

My 11 year old daughter still has problems with bed wetting. We've taken her to the doctor and was told that it is not a bladder problem and to just "wait it out". We have tried stopping her fluid intake as early as 6:00 pm and waking her up 2 times a night to make her go to the bathroom. But nothing seems to work. She will use the bathroom both times she is woke up and still be soaking wet in the morning when I wake her up. And sometimes she is wet when we go to wake her in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom. Many midnights have been spent changing sheets and clothes in our house. She has been invited to sleep-overs and refuses to go because of her problem. And I am really starting to get tired of the whole thing. I know it's not her fault. I'd welcome any suggestions at this point. What can we do to help her?

To answer a few questions you guys posed... Yes she does have an adult bed which she picked out and at the time swore she would never wet. No she does not share her room/bed with anyone. No we do not make a big deal out of the problem to her although my husband and I have had many discussions about it. We reward her when she is dry in the morning but never get upset if she is not.

Answer 1

What ever you do, do NOT put her in pull ups or goodnights as you'll be taking a dozen steps backwards not helping her in the least. My daughter did the same thing until she was 8 and I did until I was 14. It's a weak bladder, nothing more.

Keep doing as you are doing already and don't punish her or belittle her. She'll grow out of it, trust me. It's trying times for sure, but your support is needed very much. I'm sure she's more embarrased than you are frustrated.

Love her and assure her this is a something she can and will grow out of. Well, worked for my daughter and for me.

Good luck!!!

Answer 2

I and family have had this problem. Truthfully...you may have to jsut wait it out. The best thing is to buy a package of night pants called goodnights or a store's knock-off brand. When i was young I did not stop til 13. my doctor had prescribed pills which helped also. Sometimes the bladder does not fully empty, this is not the child's fault, just how the body works. other times it can be caused by constipation. not using the bathroom one way can decrease the amount the body can hold in the baldder. Final suggestion is to practice hoding it during the day. If you have to go, wait until it is extremely bad. This strtches the bladder and overtime can clear up the problem...

Answer 3

My oldest sister wet the bed until she was 14 and we never figured out what the problem was but I advise you to not punish her because believe me she wants to stop just as much as you want her to stop but it could be something that is out of her control. Seek another opinion from a doctor that may specialize in bladder control issues and maybe they may be able to help. I don't remember where I heard it but I've heard that sometimes children have a muscle (I guess the one that controls the bladder) that doesn't fully develop for a while. I know that you are frustrated but try not to let your daughter see or experience your frustration because it will severely damage her self esteem and confidence level in other areas. I have had this problem with my 7 year old and I found out when he is stressed about something or has had a life changing event he digresses back to wetting the bed until the stress is relieved or he adjusts to the change. Hope this helps

Answer 4

Try to stop making it into a big deal. The more she thinks about it the worse it will be ... I know. Forget about it. Stop the liquids and have her go to the bathroom right before bed! It is something she will grow out of ... but she may have an occasional wetting long from now ... maybe twice a year. Let her handle it. Try to not make her feel bad about it.
Also try to have her sleep on the couch or in another persons bed. I bet she will not wet these areas. By having her sleep in another area it will help her to become more aware of her body when she is sleeping.

Answer 5

good day. because you've already seen a wellbeing care professional all you could truly do now is to get her holding underclothes and wait it out. i understand that's a procedures from acceptable even if the actuality is maximum youthful ones will quit by using 13 or so. perhaps evaluate a second opinion, that is critical to make positive not something extra aggravating is going on. in case your pleased with the first medical doctors opinion then waiting and assisting make it as painless as achievable is all you may do now. holding underclothes and a plastic lower than sheet can help lots. i'd save going with preventing her fluid intake early interior the nighttime and waking her as a lot as bypass to the lavatory. If issues do not strengthen by using the time she is 13 then head back to the wellbeing care professional. My sister moist the mattress oftentimes till she become 13 and a nil.5 even as she stopped a useless ringer for that. best of success i am hoping all of it works out quickly.

Answer 6

Does she share a room? Is her bed still a "little girl's bed"? Does she share the bed at all (with another sibling)?

Those could be factors. She may not feel proud or grown up. Why dont' you have her wearing Depends or something and letting her take responsibility for her actions. In a good way of course. Let her wear them (they have thin ones now), and when she wets the bed, she takes care of everything herself instead of feeling like a little baby "running to mommy". I would try that if you haven't already. She may be against it, but if you go about it right (like she could have sleepovers), it may just work out for her.

Answer 7

Had a similar experience, Your Dr is right best thing to do is to just wait it out. I truly believe it is a sleep disorder. People that do this seem to sleep so deeply that the need just does not register that they need to get up. Your right it is not her fault but for many kids it happens and there is nothing they can do about it. They go through the embarrassment and as parents we need to give them all the love and support possible. Their support system should never show signs of strain when helping them cope with problems they face. Being strong and supportive helps them grow into fine adults, gives them the tools to help their kids cope with their problems one day, and it also help us be better parents. One day it will just stop for no apparent reason. Best of luck.

Answer 8

Get a second opinion. It is most likely a medical problem. My neice had this and the doctor said she was having spasms in her bladder. So far there has been no treatment that I am aware of. Also, why not buy her some incontinence products? Why change all the sheets when you could just change a pad? Please don't shame her, I am sure she feels bad enough already.

Answer 9

It might be several causes that produces this behaviour of your dear daughter. One important requirement is the confidence in the people she is talking to. The phisicians (doctors) are competents, but not always very sensitive. At the age of 11 your daughter have to face puberty and she needs more help that the family can provide her with.
I think you must pay attention to her natural way of living, and give her some examples of women like her which are now mature and really were cured (healed) by scheduled medical treatment. Hoping that you have the financial means or the opportunity of some exchanges, I really reccomend for your daughter Vitamin B Complex, B1, B6, B12. Please have a meeting with a pediatric (for children) phisician (graduated and resident in your area), pherhaps one Mrs., for the dosage and the analise of your daughter special needs. Avoid refusal of your daughter by being yourselves (the ones who are still standing with her) optimistic and informed.
Vitamin B Complex can be available in many forms: fruits, vegetables (natural assimilation ways to provide the B for the human body) but in severer lacks (meaning minuses, under-normal apport or assimilation) there are medical products or alimentary supliments (presented different for various tastes and/or urgency degrees: syrups, biscuits, tablets, blisters, fiola - injections). I reccomend one of the following producers: Ozone,
WallMark, ProVita; ask for a RETARD effect medecine (like MagneB6 for example).
As a father of an young miss, I know that some intimate issues your daughter refuses to discuss about. Make strong appeal to her friends, but let her decide. Doing this you WILL gain her confidence and respect and she WILL be less vulnerable.
With best wishes, Alex Ganescu
Yahoo Messenger ID: ganescualexandru2003

Answer 10

Take her to a urologist if you haven't already. Just to make sure from a doctor who specializes in the bladder and other structures around the bladder that there is nothing wrong with her. The doctor should be able to help her with exercises for her bladder and maybe even medication. Good luck. It'll be okay!