my husband does not believe in god, what would be the best way for me to talk to him about my beliefs?

Answer 1

Before you are married, would be the best way.

Answer 2

You didn't say how old you were, which makes quite a big difference. Maybe it is the word god that bothers him, as it does many people who have had less than wonderful experiences with organized monotheistic religions.

Ask him questions about what he honors, what the most important things are in life, what he lives for, what he would die for. When you get him talking about what he does believe in or how he sees the world (the fancy word is ontology) then you can jump in. When you do begin to assert your own religious convictions, be sure to first respond to what he says in an affirmative way, such as, "I think I understand what you are saying. It might be similar to my belief in god being responsible for the creation of the universe (or something like that).

Also, why is it so important to you that your husband converse with you about your religious beliefs? That area of our lives is the most personal (and independent) aspect of our lives on this planet. If you need him to agree with you (as a part of your religious beliefs) you are likely in serious trouble. Make sure you are able to share your beliefs without any expectations of his approval or agreement before you even bring up the subject. It is also interesting that you didn't have this conversation before you got married -- was it in a church? You could also start there, i.e., marriage vows...
dr. barbara

Answer 3

My husband is similar. He has never said he does not believe in God. As for church goes, he will not attend. He used to tell me that his children were not going either, well that changed after a lot of prayer. We have been together for 11 years and he recently within I'd say about that last 2 years began allowing me to take the children with me. While that was going on I wasnt attending because i did not want the hassle and argument from him. He stopped arguing after I had a serious accident.

So what I am suggesting is that you need to pray about it first. Then, you need to write down what you plan on saying to him. After you do that, re read what you have written and then just go with it. Hopefully all will be well.

Answer 4

The Bible states that the husband can be won {converted} throught the conversation{lifestyle} of the wife. You live your Christian life in such a way as that when he sees you, he yearns and feels convicted for what you have{salvation} Pray for him, ask other believers to pray for him as well. Have a good Christian testimony that you live before him. Be patient, and let God work. You cannot nag him into salvation. That will only drive him away. Be a good Christian influence for him. Let him see, firsthand how a Christian should live. Also ask youself this question, "If I were unsaved, do I have the kind of testimony that I live that would compel others to be saved" Pray consistantly. Trust in God, and know that no prayer goes unanswered. I'll be praying for you and your husband. God bless.

Answer 5

Most christians approach non christians as if the nonchristians are familar with the Bible. Adolf Hitler used the same approach to sell Mein Kemp. I feel John gives a person the best reason to become a christian. The first thing created is the word and a defilnition of the word. It later goes on in later chapter talking about the lie and how the lie is attemptilng to destroy the word. We deal everyday with what we believe is the truth and also struggle with the lie everyday. The Bible gives us christians a way to cope with that.

Answer 6

Maybe you should invite God, ha, to dinner at your house. That would be very convincing. Write him an invitation with invisible ink. Why don't you both just compromise and believe in Cinderella or Snow White, they're a lot more fun. Do your husband a favor. Buy him a high quality set of ear plugs, because a person can only take so much of that Christian malarkey before they gag and toss their cookies.

Answer 7

First of all, get clear about your own beliefs. You have to be able to give an account of your beliefs that makes sense to an unbeliever, that is really persuasive. Can you do this? You have to be able to appeal to his experience of life in a way that really makes sense to him. You should realize also that there are no drop-dead arguments which "prove" God's existence. The best you can do is explain what in your experience leads you in the direction of faith, and what positive effect faith has had in your life. Ultimately, if he sees that your faith helps you live, and helps you be a joyful, loving person in all circumstances, that will be the best argument of all.

You might want to take a look at a book by C.S. Lewis called "Mere Christianity." It's one of the best persuaders for the half-convinced.

Answer 8

The best way is to show your love for God in the way you lead your life...
28 years ago, my husband truly did not believe in God. He believed that we came from monkeys. I tried to talk about my faith and all's that did was get both of us frustrated.... God got me to a place where I just lived the love of God and Christ.... Then, one day he went to a bible study with me and one week later, he received Christ and became a changed man...Thank YOU GOD... It was nothing I did, but all the Lord....

Answer 9

If you want to talk to your husband about something that is important to you, I think you should ask him to sit and listen to what you have to share. He doesn't have to believe it but he needs to respect it because he needs to respect you. When one partner feels disgusted about some aspect of the other partner is the number one reason couples don't stay together. It leads to bad feelings and disrespect. Couples don't have to believe the same things but need to believe in the value of the other person enough to accept their belief. Listening to each other, supporting each other, allowing each other to grow are important for the health and survival of a relationship. You probably accept things about your husband that you don't believe in...possibly sports or time with his friends that you don't necessarily like, or his hunting or fishing. or something. You don't belittle him for it except when you are angry, and if this resentment is big enough, it can drive a wedge into your relationship that is hard to mend. I don't think it has as much to do with the topic as it does about listening and respecting one another.

Answer 10

I asked that very same question to my preacher a month ago. He has a fantastic answer. He basically told me that God loves my wife more than I do, and could ever imagine, and that Hehas a plan for her. It could be that we are in each other's life as a part of that plan. All I can do is lead the best Christian life I could and be an example to her. In the end, the choice is still hers. The most that we can do in continue to pray for our spouses.

Answer 11

Don't try to convert him - if you want to express your beliefs for communication/dialog and can't, then the communication thing can be something that's focused on. Those who are positively transformed by their beliefs (REALLY transformed and not like the majority who believe they've been transformed) NEVER try to preach or convert. In fact, their transformation gives them a realization of how harmful this can be. So ... their whole way of being becomes the message -- without them trying to be a message (their experience gets themselves out of the way).