My 10 yr old son came to live with me about 6 months. His father has taken a path of addiction. Being a recovering addict myself. I know the harm addiction cause for families. However, my son asked to come live with me and of course I said yes. I am happy he has choosen this. He has no contact with his father. The closes contact he has with his father is his grandparents. Now he is asking me to live with his grandparents. I told him no, but he won't let up. I don't want him to go. He seems so sad here in my home. Should I let him go? Would that make me a bad parent?
2006-07-07 14:42:41 · 4 answers · asked by magicbutterfly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
His father has decided not to be around. One day he just stop calling and coming for visits. Sorry, but I don't want my child in a drug house. Therfore, as long as he is using meth, drinking himself to death and living in drug houses our son will not visit him, unless it is supervised.
2006-07-07 15:10:06 · update #1
No, it takes constant unpredictable, toxic behavior and/or abuse and neglect to be a bad parent. Cleaning up your life and agreeing to take your son are signs of healthy choices. Maybe it will help to find out why he wants to go live with his grandparents. It may be something he is searching for and doesn't know how to find. What if he wants to leave his grandparents' home in a few months? One alternative is to allow him to visit for a week or two during the Summer. More than anything he needs stability and consistency. Try to use this time to develop a relationship with him so he knows you love and support him. You are his mother and those responsibilities won't change regardless of where he lives. All the best to all of you.
2006-07-07 14:51:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way that would be bad parenting is if you know that being with his grandparents would put him in harms way. It sounds like he is needing to connect with his father. Yes addiction is a terrible thing, but your son needs to have contact with his father. Regardless of his bad habits. It's never in the best interest of the child to cut off communication with a parent. In fact my sons learned a lot by being around their father who is still an addict. I don't think they will ever go down that road because they have seen first hand what consequences are involved. Let him know his father.
2006-07-07 14:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by curiousgeorgia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go on a trail basis. If you trust the grandparents!!!!! See Let him see how he likes it and keep close tabs on the situation.
2006-07-07 14:48:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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