In detail what is it like? What are the fears, thoughts, feelings that come to you when the one you had intercourse with is pregnant, and when that child is born into the world?
2006-07-07 14:26:56 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
THERE ARE NO words in the world to tell you. it's the greatest fealing combined with all your worst rolled in to one , it's a gift enough said GOOD LUCK, BEST WISHES
2006-07-07 14:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by TO FAST TO FURIOUS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 2 year old daughter, and I can say that the feeling can not be described. As far as what to do, simply give your child as much time as possible. You are now responsible for not only yourself, but also a child, as well as the child's mother, and it doesn't matter if you are or aren't married. You are the man in this family and thus must act as such. If you want more help, check out the books "Wild at Heart" and "The Four Pillars of a Man's Heart". Also, make sure that you cherish your child all the time as he or she is the best gift you will ever receive. It is tough at times, but I can't think of anything better.
2006-07-07 21:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by Brian V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this question said men only but I just had to read it. As a mother of a son who's father isn't around anymore I just want to say that your childrens mothers should feel very lucky to have men like you raising their chilren. Some of the things some of you said almost had me in tears, I guess because my son doesn't have a father who cares for him like that, and partly because of the way it seems that you all feel for your children and their mothers. A child is such a blessing and should be cherished no matter what. If you are having a baby....congrats and good luck. The good definitely out weighs the bad in the end...there is nothing like the person that you helped bring into this world (either on purpose or by accident) and the one you have waited those 9 long months to see, it is the best feeling in the world to be able to have that opportunity. I just wanted to commend you fathers for the wonderful heartfelt things you said about being fathers, kudos and tell your childs mothers they are very lucky to have you. Good luck
2006-07-08 01:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by miranda.woods 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its awesome man. When I first found out my wife was pregnant I was freakin out. But then i got way excited and we started looking at clothes, cribs, all that fun stuff. You kinda worry about how you're gonna be as a parent. I tried to do the opposite of everything my parents did. The best part is right when YOUR son/daughter is born. Nothing can describe it. It just totally overwhelms you and humbles you.
I'm guessing with this question you might possibly be having a baby. If so, congratulations. If not, then i'm an idiot
2006-07-07 21:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it like depends on what kind of person you are.It could be a very big burden on your shoulder if you are an unresponsible person and the child is unwanted,by accident.
But if you are a grateful person,fatherhood personality,it is like a great miracle and a great bless for you.You will,will put every attention ,power and love to your child.You will do everything to protect and take care of you child.It is your entertainment,something that can make you smile when you are in sorrow.
But,either you are the first person or the other,you have to get ready to loose some of your freedom.You can't enjoy your life like you used to before.You will not enjoy sex like you used to be before,and don't expect to be selfish anymore.
Besides it is still good,and will feel better when you finally know that you succecced in growing your child into something useful.
2006-07-07 21:41:18 · answer #5 · answered by Eldha'sfather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my wife told me we were pregnant, we both sat on the couch and were more somber than elated. The first thing we thought of were finances. Then after the realization of it all sank in, was actually excited. I went to every appt. It was great hearing the heartbeat. My fear of the birthing process was losing my wife. Ended up after 20 hrs of labor, we had an emergency C-section. That scared me. My wife got very sick after the delivery and our daughter didn't get to go home with us the same day my wife was discharged. I spent a lot of time just making sure my wife and my daughter were fine. It is a great sense of responsibility. I just love being a dad.
2006-07-07 23:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by Steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and i were Trying not to have children. I had lost a son
at 3 years of age with my 1st wife and my wife and I lost a child
at 8 1/2 months, So we didn't what any children. 5 years into our marriage we found out that she was preg. not only that but it was twins. I was never so happy. They are now almost 8 and they are the sun ,moon and world to me. It's scary being a parent but all you have to do is remember your childhood if it was good do the same as your parents. If it was bad do the things you wish for as a child.
2006-07-07 21:34:41 · answer #7 · answered by Bugman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really exciting when your ready, terrifying before, 29 was good for me. It's a roller coaster, you learn to really sacrifice and accept whatever you have to do. You learn a lot about the family you came from, good and bad. You get an entirely new perspective that you could not have previously. You begin to see your former self as shallow and pure ego. Play your cards right and you get the ultimate joy and the experiences that make everything else in life pale into insignificance. Hopefully you get similar again when you become a Grandparent.
2006-07-07 21:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of "ups" and "downs"! Some days ya wanna shoot yourself and other days you wanna just hold them forever! All in all it's something you'll NEVER experience UNLESS they are your OWN kids!! Though there is NOTHING more peaceful than seeing your little ones curled up and sleeping in the bed and comfort that YOU provide. Also, when they smile at you it's like no other feeling in the world. Let's just say you learn to be very un-selfish in a lot of ways. Good luck!
2006-07-07 23:37:16 · answer #9 · answered by BReal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy...that's for damn sure. Forget having time, privacy, money, sex or sanity for a few years. Lose the sense of smell or you'll lose your lunch. Give up on logic for the next 10 years or so.
Don't get me wrong, kids are good...too many or too much of them isn't good though. You need to be able to give them the attention they need and you still need to try to have some time to yourself.
2006-07-07 21:33:29 · answer #10 · answered by oldmoose2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋