2006-07-07 14:25:32 · 17 answers · asked by Butterflied 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am a child care professional. First of all it always depends on the situation. With children you have to be contestant. If the child is kicking and screaming and slamming doors, that seems to be very out of control for a five year old. I am assuming that this happens in the home so what I would do is this... you need to have a "spot" like the child's bed or sitting in a certain area of a room. This is where the child should be if his/her actions are unacceptable. They child should stay there until told otherwise. They should be there for a certain time. It is recommended that how ever old the child is, is the correct amount of time for the child to sit. In your case it should be five minutes since the child is five. If the child gets up when not permitted, the time doesn't start until she child is sitting nicely again. If the child still gets up the time starts over again. This could take a simple five minutes or a half hour, depending on the child's behavior. Just remember if you say you are going to do something then do it. Children are very good at remembering what you tell them and if you back it up or not. Also try positive reinforcement, to try to divert a problem before it starts. Hope I helped !
2006-07-07 14:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by Nic 2 · 17⤊ 2⤋
Consider taking parenting classes...or ECE classes...you'll be amazed at how they help. Also consider visiting a kindergarten classroom and watching the techniques the teachers use to get children to comply.
Meanwhile, children through tantrums because there's an end result they're counting on. For example, if they know that after awhile you'll give in in any way whatsoever, the tantrum is worth it. So, the first rule is that whatever the tantrum is about, you need to hold your ground.
Tantrums aren't acceptable. Children, where ever they are, no matter what's going on, need to know that EVERYTHING on their behalf stops when they throw one. If it's at a party, at the store, or whatever, everything stops. They need to be removed from the situation they're in and isolated...not in their room, not by a TV, etc. Isolated someplace totally nil. They stay there until they're done. Period. If they destroy anything while there, they must pick it up before going on their way.
If you follow these two rules CONSISTENTLY, your problem will stop over time. Children know their teachers follow them, and that's why they comply for them.
2006-07-07 14:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by maynerdswife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmm. I was raised by a Texan and an Okie that came to California during the Dust Bowl days. If i ever had a tantrum like that i would have had the he double hockey sticks beat out of me for a long time. Therefore I suggest duct tape and valium and a dark closet.
2006-07-07 16:28:32 · answer #3 · answered by asbratcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a little kid like yours or maybe worst . During his tantrum you can't do anything and i'm sure that you already know it. you have to wait until its over. Ignore him untill the tantrum ends and then talk to him,and tell him what was wrong and why. You must be firm but not rude. Tell him how much you love him and how you feel when he do that. I know that things are going to be better for both of you.
2006-07-07 14:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by nancy f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get one of those personal defense taser guns. Now, every time your kid goes to throw a tantrum like that, shock him senseless with the taser. It won't hurt him but it will stop his tantrum cold. After a few times, you just have to show him the taser to get him to immediately stop. Shouldn't take more than a month to completely eliminate that behavior.
2006-07-07 14:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make them lay on the floor face down for as long as need be. I did this to my kids and it worked very well. It takes some time but be consistent. What ever you don't let them fall asleep. My husband came up with this verses spanking. If you do need to spank them(its not against the law) just don't do it out of anger or leave any marks. Good luck!!
2006-07-07 15:09:41 · answer #6 · answered by NICOLE D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are doing it for attention. Ignore them if you can or what I used to do with my nephew was laugh at him. I laughed and told him boy you look silly doing that, crying and screaming like a big baby, then I would point and laugh at him. He would stop and look at me and tell me he wasn't a baby. Then I would tell him to stop acting like one, that tantrums and screaming aren't going to get you your way. He usually just gave up.
2006-07-07 14:31:14 · answer #7 · answered by meggiek97 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there old enough 2 be grounded or send them into time out and if that dosent work tske something away like the tv. theres so many things u could do.and if u wana get mor info try wathing Nanny911
2006-07-07 14:30:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know with this new day and age. when i was a kid mom and dad would beat our butts black and blue but i wouldnt suggest that today. the law frowns on that. maybe thats why kids are so whatever you call it. the way they are . yeah, do like the first answer says, call that super nanny goat woman (lmao, check out what new orleans says about mind control.....hahaha thats dumb)
2006-07-07 14:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bust his but, put him in his room. And or take away favorite things until he can learn to behave. But also talk to him/her about why it is wrong to throw fits and also find out why is there an underlying reason?
2006-07-07 14:43:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋