My boyfriend tells me it is nothing and that he is only playing around, but it grosses me out. I do not take it as playing because I am sure that if I went along with it the father would like it. Is this normal, because it seems very whitetrash.
2006-07-07 14:16:42 · 25 answers · asked by Meow 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Put it this way, if your Boyfriend's brother or best friend was hitting on you, would he be just as cool. Or more likely if it was a stranger who hit on you at a bar, how would he react. Your boyfriend might not be so understanding because it is his father. But if he cares for you he should respect you enough to understand that its not cool, no matter who's hitting on you, especially his father.
I don't know how old u are, but irregardless, a father should never disrespect you by flirting with you. There's no way that's ever right.
2006-07-07 14:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by ymmartin 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is your boyfriend's mother around? If so, tell her...that will be a fast way to get the father to stop. Also tell your boyfriend that you do not feel comfortable with the way his father is acting. Don't accept his claim of it being harmless. If your boyfriend really likes you he'll tell his dad to stop.
Btw, no, that's not normal at all. Don't get yourself in a situation where you may be alone in the room with his father. You never know if he's a sexual predator or not.
2006-07-07 21:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by laetusatheos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it makes you uncomfortable, then it is NOT "nothing" as your boyfriend says.Your boyfriend needs to develop some respect for your feelings. Do you really want to be in a relationship with a guy who has no respect for your feelings? Why is he allowing his father to disrespect you and do/say things that make you uncomfortable? Have you tried talking to your boyfriend's father and letting him know how you feel? Is your boyfriend's father married? If so, tell your boyfriend's father that if he doesn't knock it off, you will tell his wife. Or, if all else fails, tell your boyfriend that if his dad doesn't knock it off, you don't want to see him (your boyfriend) anymore. Then see if your boyfriend still thinks that his dad's behavior is "nothing" and that he is just "playing around"!
2006-07-07 21:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by BRIAN W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be onto something. I think, you're in the right. No matter what your bf and his father tell you, there will always be those lingering questions- what if ______ wasn't present? Is it really playing around? And other questions. If _____ wont take you seriously, maybe you need to move on to a new bf.
2006-07-07 21:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriends father is an idiot and if your boyfriend thinks it's ok flirting with you, then he's an idiot too.
The old guy is a sick puppy, Stay away from the two of them.
They spell trouble,
2006-07-07 21:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT'S NOT NORMAL AND IT'S NOT RIGHT. AND THE PERSON YOU SHOULD REALLY BE PISSED WITH IS YOUR IDIOT BF FOR SAYING IT'S NOTHING! HELLO MORON IT'S SOMETHING IF IT OFFENDS AND GROSSES HER OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! UGH!
ONE'S TO ASSUME THEIRE WHITE DUE TO THE WHITE TRASH! WELL IT IS TRASHY I'LL TELL YOU THAT. HAVE A GOOD TALK WITH YOUR BF AND STRAIGHTEN HIM OUT. TELL HIM YOU NEED A REAL MAN WHO ISN'T GONNA ALLOW SH*T LIKE THAT WITH HIS GIRL.
AND IF YOU STAY WITH HIM THEN DON'T GO OVER OR BE AROUND HIS NASTY FATHER ANYMORE. JUST STAY AWAY FROM THE PROBLEM GIRL.
GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND TAKE CARE.
2006-07-07 21:24:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not normal. Just try to avoid or ignore him. He'll probably eventually get the message. If the situation continues, tell your boyfriend to talk to his dad about his behavior and how you feel about it. If he won't, then maybe it's time to pack up.
2006-07-07 21:23:24 · answer #7 · answered by el-el 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right, it is white trash. Your boyfriends dad has overstepped a boundary. Let him know in uncertain terms he is being totally not appropriate.
If he is married, I am sure his wife would be so totally embarrased and put him back in his place. He is too old to be acting like that. Dirty old man!
2006-07-07 21:21:23 · answer #8 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your boyfriend again. or when you all are in the same room. or w/ his father (for some weird reason) then tell him to stop. and if worse comes to worse...you might have to tell your bf that you can't see him if his dad doesn't stop acting like that. or at least (preferably) not go to his house anymore. that's just freaky.
2006-07-07 21:22:07 · answer #9 · answered by TeddyGram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey gurl the way your b/fs father is playing with you should only come from your man and if you feel uncomfortable tell you man if he ignores it tell him if it doesn't stop its over cause then he wouldn't care what his father does if he doesnt believe you gurl you need help i would help if i new you but sorry good luck
2006-07-07 21:21:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋