My sister is getting married and we seem to get in a fight about everything. Her best friend is the maid of honor and she is a total idiot and I can't stand her. She isn't realistic and is giving my sister completely wrong advice. I have never gone through a wedding bfore, but I don at least have some common sense. The wedding is about 5 or less weeks away and we still don't have shoes or decorations. She hasn't even gone to the florist yet. The bridal shower is on a wednesday evening at 6:30...how pointless. The invitations didn't go out until less than 2 weeks before the actual date and people are supposed to RSVP by tomorrow...only 1 person has so far. My sister is still very young and is really thinking irrationally. I don't know what to do because every time I try to tell her something she get really mad and won't talk to me for 2+ weeks. I can't stand what this is doing to us, we used to be so close. What should I do?
2006-07-07 14:08:12 · 15 answers · asked by theprincess451 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I can't talk to her because 1. she won't answer her phone and 2. if she does, she gets mad about EVERYHTING I say, even if it is I'm sorry. She is irrational and very tempramental.
2006-07-07 14:13:24 · update #1
You only learn from your mistakes. It's her wedding, even if you know she is screwing it up...is it worth it to you to lose your sister?
Leave her a message, tell her you're sorry, and that if she needs anything you are more than willing to help however you can.
Let her know that you love her, and want her to be happy.
The next step is hers. Just support her however you can, she's your sister, it's her wedding and her decisions.
And afterwards...if it all falls in around her, be there for her to cry on, lean on...not to say 'I told you so'.
2006-07-07 14:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you say, she won't listen and is irrational.
You've tried to tell her and give advice and she just won't listen. I'd just sit back and let your sister do it all her way. Turn up on the day like you are suppose to and if it is a flop well then it is all her fault, nothing mre you can do about it except let her learn from her mistakes. You can still let her know that if she needs anything that you will be there. It might be a good idea to take down some numbers of places for flowers/decorating just in case you are asked at the last minute.
2006-07-07 14:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since I don't know her age, it's hard to tell. But I think she has pre-marriage jitters, all you can do it stand by her and keep your thoughts to yourself. First: It's her big day and not yours!
Second even if you don't like the matron, suck it up. If you don't want to lose her, talk to her quietly and tell her you support her in everything, maybe that'll help getting things between you in order, ask her if she needs help and go with her to the florist, etc.
But if she says no, stay out of it, your relationship will be the better for it.
Good Luck on the wedding.
2006-07-07 14:30:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, there isnt much you can do except be honest, which it sounds like you have been. All there is left to say is there are a lot of decisions you've made that i dont see as being best for you, so from now on, i'd like to be left out of your decision making. I hope your wedding works out for the best, if you need my help you can still ask me. Wipe your hands clean and just be supportive. This is definately not something to let come between you and your sister.
2006-07-07 14:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by glowchild7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO FOR YOUR SISTER IS LET HER FALL ON HER FACE. THEN WHEN SHE FALLS, OFFER HER A HAND. SHE'LL MOST LIKELY BE WILLING TO ACCEPT IT. STOP TRYING TO MAKE THINGS RIGHT OR BETTER FOR HER. LET HER DO IT HER WAY EVEN IF IT'S THE WRONG WAY.
SHE'S OBVIOUSLY NOT GONNA LISTEN ANYWAY. WITH PEOPLE LIKE THAT YOU JUST NEED TO LET THEM SCREW UP AND FALL DOWN. IT'S THE ONLY WAY THEY LEARN. YOU CAN TELL THEM UNTIL THEY'RE BLUE IN THE FACE, JUST AS YOU'VE DONE WITH YOUR SISTER AND SHE'S NOT GONNA LISTEN TO YOU.
LIKE I SAID NO MORE ADVICE, AND STOP WORRYING ABOUT ALL THIS CRAP. IT'S HER WEDDING, NOT YOURS. IF SHE WANTS TO GET NEON FEATHERS AND PUT THEM IN HER HAIR. YOU LET HER!!!!! YOU TELL HER WHAT A FINE CHOICE SHE'S MADE! LEAVE HER ALONE! LET HER BE HAPPY! EVEN IF SHE'S WRONG. LET HER ENJOY THIS MOMENT.
NOW SHOULD SHE EVER COMPLAIN AND SAY WHY THE HELL DIDN'T YOU TELL ME SOMETHING!!!!!!!!!! THEN YOU CALMLY TELL HER, YOU DID ATTEMPT TO STRAIGHTEN HER OUT ON MANY OCCASSIONS, BUT SHE WAS SO CLOSED MINDED AND TEMPERMENTAL, THAT SHE WOULDN'T LISTEN TO REASON. NOW YOU'VE PUT HER IN HER PLACE AND THAT'S THAT.
NOW STOP STRESSING, SIT BACK, KICK UP YOUR FEET AND ENJOY THE SHOW. IT SOUNDS LIKE IT'S GONNA BE INTERESTING TO SAY THE LEAST. AND DON'T WORRY ABOUT HER STUPID BRIDES MAID. IF SHE'S DITZY SHE'LL SCREW THINGS UP AND SHE WON'T BE TOO HAPPY WITH HER.
SO GOOD LUCK, TAKE CARE AND NO MORE STRESSING.
2006-07-07 14:32:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are dealing with a new species called bridezilla. Save yourself some grief and just agree with everything she says, it's her wedding and it there aren't any flowers and nobody shows at the shower, it's not your fault. It's hers and her idiot best friends. Hopefully she'll come to her senses after the wedding and you'll be close again.
2006-07-08 21:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, this is a very stressful moment right now for your sister. Have you seen "bridezilla"? If you have suggested something and she will not listen leave her alone. It's her day and you will be glad later on, you know why? She can't blame you for a single thing that went wrong. I know it's your sister and you mean well. you want to see her happy and have things done right but step back and let her do her thing. You'll be happy you did. Good luck!
2006-07-07 14:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want a good realtionship with your sister or do you want her to have a good wedding. Make a choice and then stick by it. The reality is you can't have both. Just the way it is. Choose.
2006-07-07 14:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by Payne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her be. She is your sister and will come back to YOU once she realizes what ******* everyone else is...and bite your tongue, it may be after the wedding. Let her make her own mistakes!
2006-07-07 15:10:34 · answer #9 · answered by dooders90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her be the idiot she is, everything will crash and her wedding will have nothing, if she doesn't want your advice and wants to be stupid than let her.
2006-07-07 14:14:21 · answer #10 · answered by thehereyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋