Ex and I dated off and on for 2 years. First three times I broke up with her, but this time she broke up with me. She always wanted the relationship to work, but thinks that we have no future due to differences in what we want for the future (e.g. kids). A recent family tragedy has made me see things differently, though, and I want her back. We still talk amost every day, but she is going on dates with someone else. I have made pleas to get her back -- in person I gain some ground (she is younger and can be persuaded sometimes) but on the phone she stands strong. She doesn't believe me when I say I have changed because I have said that before. But this time I mean it. I thought about giving her space, but that is not a good option with this girl. I'll do anything (within the bounds of the law) to get her back.
2006-07-07 14:04:25 · 13 answers · asked by JD 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know she still has feelings for me. When I saw her the other day we kissed.
2006-07-07 14:12:55 · update #1
That on and off thing doesn't work. You need to let her go. Its her mind and her decision. Let her be. I know that's hard and so frustrating, but everything happens for a reason. Let it go, start going out on your own, don't call her, drive by her house, email her...NOTHING. You don't want to be with someone who has to be "persuaded" Sounds like you're older, and she's younger and seeing her test the waters out there makes you worried.
Right now it may not be the right time, if its meant to happen, you'll get together when both of you are on the same page. It happened for a reason, let it go. Its hard and it sucks but its the best way in the long run.
2006-07-07 14:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by ac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've dated on and off for years and broke up several times, I'm going to suggest not going back. Sounds like this relationship wasn't all that stable to begin with. Just be glad that you still talk and are friends. Tis better to have her as a friend than not have her around at all.
2006-07-07 14:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by daredevil_girl013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've decided that you want her, and love her enough that you want her version of your future, you need to tell her that.
Ask her how you can prove it to her.
If you aren't serious, don't waste her time or yours. You both deserve people that want the same things out of life as you do.
It is going to be how much she trusts you whether she comes back to you or not. If she can be persauded that easily, then the other guy is working on her too. It's going to come down to who can make her trust their intentions more. So if you screw up her trust again...it'll be the last time.
Good luck.
2006-07-07 14:16:05 · answer #3 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to move on. She is an ex-girlfriend for a reason. She is with another guy now and it looks like she would like to keep things that way. Obviously she doesnt have much of an interest in you. Just move on and forget about her and find someone else.
2006-07-07 14:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with LeRoy.Grow up and leave her alone.sorry that you can't see thats she's moved on.and that you need to move on ase well.I mean if she dumped you then she must have had a good reason to.It sounds to me that she's tired of getting hurt over and over again.so do us all a favor and move on.
2006-07-07 14:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three times, I think she has had enough. It is hard to believe someone when they keep calling "WOLF". I think she is trying to be nice and hope you get the picture.
2006-07-07 14:12:24 · answer #6 · answered by vhat40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she free for u this is the q u didnt ask
be unselfish & get a new life may be now she is with another guy having fun don't break her heart again
2006-07-07 14:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by ANUBIS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to go on one date with you and if she doesn't want anymore, you'll stop bugging her. This way you both win. You get one chance and she gets her way if she doesn't want to be with you anymore. Good luck!
2006-07-07 14:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by sundragonjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like too little too late. You should've appreciated her before. She ended it which means she's had enough of you toying with her heart.
Let her be.
2006-07-07 14:09:38 · answer #9 · answered by shakia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to lost and found department.
2006-07-07 14:08:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋