His other four are through a previous relationship and I don't want to have this child and it don't get his attention. It's not the first girl or boy and probably won't be the last. So what will make me feel better to know that my child won't be neglected because of all the others?
2006-07-07 13:57:50 · 17 answers · asked by georgiagirl617 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Well, that is a very valid concern. Make sure you talk this over with your baby's daddy and be sure he is on board with how you are feeling. You need to be sure to let him know that your child needs his/her daddy just as much as the first, second and so on. Hopefully he is an outstanding father to his other children and yours. GOOD LUCK TO YOU Honey
2006-07-07 14:03:58 · answer #1 · answered by blondie77f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off you wanting to have the child and being a loving mother is a big part of them not just being another child. As for the father you can point out what a miricle a child really is and how they didn't do anything wrong and deserve to have two loving parents to guide them. Talk with him about his rold of a parent with his other children and how he should change it. Hopefully he will come around. Regardless of his end you should want your child and be loving to them, if you can't handle that role then seek a family who can give then what they deserve.
2006-07-07 21:04:41 · answer #2 · answered by K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can probably get an idea of how your child will be treated by your BF by looking at his relationship with the four previous ones. In the end, you can't force him to give your child special attention, but you can let your child know that he/she is special no matter what anyone else thinks or does.
2006-07-07 21:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by surlygurl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is do you want to have this child? **** everybody and what they want. It is you. Your choice. Yeah, it might suck to have him neglect you and your baby...but if you want to have it, have it, but I hope you have support from friends or family. Raising a child alone is expensive and difficult, but it is your baby and your decision.
If you don't want it, for whatever reason that is your decision too. Don't let anyone tell you different or guilt you into believing something that you don't. If you want to put it up for adoption, there are plenty of families out there that would love your baby as their own.
The decision is yours and yours alone. Good luck and god bless...
2006-07-07 21:04:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"and probably won't be the last." Your comment shows that you are just one in a string of his conquests. Make every effort with yourself and with grandparents to give the child the attention she/he deserves.
It's doubtful that he will be special to his dad if he is as promiscuous as it sounds like he is.
Before having anymore children, please try to get into a long-term relationship where you and the children can count on the father's love and care.
2006-07-07 21:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by Ginger/Virginia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw him its your baby now deal with it the best way you know how. It should be a joyous moment in your life. You need to take more responsibility for the choices you made BEFORE you got pregnant. You knew his past didn't you, you also knew how babies are made. Your baby will be loved by YOU that is all that matters right now. If he misses out it will be his loss.
2006-07-07 21:09:31 · answer #6 · answered by larechiga26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister is in your position. She stressed about it, but you just gotta get over your fears. You're going to be a mum. It's your fellas loss if he isn't a part of it. The baby would be better off without him if that's the case.
All the best. Ange
2006-07-07 21:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by montanasamra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought about that before you got mixed up with a guy that has so many kids. And you say it won't be his last...its doubtful he has any feelings at all towards his children. You should have taken responsibility before this situation.
2006-07-08 11:52:00 · answer #8 · answered by optimistic_dr3am3r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant control what other people do,you can only control yourself,so make sure you yourself do no neglect your child allways show it love and most important tell them you love them,allways prase up the good things they do then they grow up beliving in themselves,if you do this they will still be ok even if others dont,because if you belive in yourself dose not matter if others dont because they will know its the others persons problem
2006-07-07 21:31:58 · answer #9 · answered by norman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are hangin' with Kevin Federline. Your b/f is way too fertile. I'd say expect any kid he has to be "just another kid". Start NOW to get child support. You'll need it.
mb
2006-07-07 23:52:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋