some of my boyfriends in the past are such losers. the only one of them them actually "took charge" and he was a complete jerk. why can't i find one thats not needy or to controlling?
2006-07-07 13:56:34 · 21 answers · asked by KB 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You may find them needy or controlling, but I think it is because you are very independent...
Which is a good thing... It's nice to see a change of questions on here....
Keep up the Independence!!
2006-07-07 13:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by kristijay99 3 · 9⤊ 6⤋
Most men are either needy or controlling it is hard to find a happy medium between the two i mean most men that are needy have been hurt a lot by women and most men that are controlling usually hurt the women before they could hurt them i think a lot of it has to do with how they were raised i mean there are some good ones out there yet they are just far and few between all i can say is keep looking you will find the one that is perfect for you.
2006-07-07 14:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by psycholilblondegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some women seem to attract losers like flies.
You have to examine yourself first, how do I come across
maybe those needy guys see you as a easy person to lean on
and/ or the controling guys see you as an easy person to control. Not matter what, you come across as easy. Not in the sleazy way, mind you. You are probably too nice and easy going. Get
some back bone into you, get more assertive. There are courses you can take in your community college. Good Luck
2006-07-07 14:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most guys r needy but there r some hun that arent, its ok u will find one that is not such a mommas boy n not such a loser jerk keep lookin hun i found one passin thru arkansas but he was from iowa so its possible hell iowa is full of em u need any more help u email me personally ok i be here to talk u thru this stuff
2006-07-07 14:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should look at yourself. Maybe the guys are so needy because you are so enabling. Do you try to spoil them, make all the decisions, pamper them? They may think that you like a needy boy instead of a take charge guy. Look hard at the relationship you had with the take charge guy...you didn't like it...ask yourself why. I hope you meet Mr. Perfect someday.
2006-07-07 14:01:38 · answer #5 · answered by Chainsawmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should look at how the person acts on a date. That seemed to work for me. If you notice that he tends to rush the conversation and how the date is going let him go. If he seems to have a lot of "Blonde" moments and is very eager to follow what you are doing let him go too. Look for someone is can carry the conversation but is there also to hear what you have to say. It just takes to time to find that right person for you but he does exist. Don't give up hope.
2006-07-07 14:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by Jai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You attract men that are emotional (like myself) and what you really want are men that are masculine. However with that comes a lot of ego.
More than likely you aren't showing your companion enough emotional love and the lack thereof makes them crave it evenmore. It is sort of like denying a man sex. They crave it even more (until they finally give up on trying). Same thing with emotional needs.
Be less cold and be more loving, then the guys won't be so needy.
2006-07-07 14:01:15 · answer #7 · answered by Payne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just shows that those guys are not real man. They can not control themselves and are giving all power to the woman. Women hate when that happens.
Ideal combination is something in between nice guy and jerk.
2006-07-07 14:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by ilegzdins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are needy because they know you are a giving person. I have been there and done that. Try not to be so giving or atleast dont let them know your so giving, stand firm..
2006-07-07 14:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by itybitycrma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like look for the same type person after each relationship.
Change your attitude or change your hunting ground...or both.
2006-07-07 14:08:06 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with amy.Did you ever stop and think that maybe ur the one whos just as mean as.the guy whom u dated befor that was controlling.and just maybe you should lower ur standers. cause ur never going to get a guy/man if ur to picky.
2006-07-07 14:03:03 · answer #11 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋