its been one day since i have lost my child and im really emotionally dependent. over the course of some time now i have been experienceing severe heart ache from my lover family and so called friends and when i need something i have to give soemthing in return.
i wanted some attention today and he wouldnt touch me and he was very cold hearted about it. i couldnt help but break down and cry becuse of all of this and he asked me when was i going to get off of him crying! and he walked away mad at me so he wouldnt take me to dinner becuase i made him made when i was crying and he didnt like the way i was acting. he said he didnt want me talking to him? becuase i get on his nerves.
why is he doin this to me... he gets mad becuase i like tocut myself and no one knows about it but if i do it he will hurt me emotionally and leave me at home. but hes always talking down to me and wont listen, but he says i hold things from him
what to do
2006-07-07 13:47:34 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah it seems like when he know i cut he gets mad! and says its stupid and im with him and he must care so stop. he wont hold me or touch me unless he wants to! he says eveyone does it.
2006-07-07 14:00:03 · update #1
Hello there Sweetie,
I am very sorry to hear your misfortune..Really..My heart goes for you...
Well, I think you deserve a lot of loving right now and also someone who really cares for you...That is not the way to be treated!! Can you see yourself leaving the guy? He is not treating you right!!!
2006-07-07 13:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by Buggy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It looks like life has really gotten you down. You should really take a deep breath, relax, and go take some time to get therapy. Cutting yourself and being dependent on others is not the way to go. Loss is a very hard thing to handle, but don't lose yourself as well. Go seek professional help. Learn to be happy and independent again for your own sake. Remember now, there is only so much people can take be it family, friends, or lovers. At some point in time, you have to stand on your own. Hope things get better for you and good luck!!
2006-07-07 20:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by Mxdpl8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I cannot imagine what you must be going through right now and your man is the biggest jerk ever for treating you like he is. His behavior is absolutely despicable. First of all, you really need to seek counseling for your loss and for the cutting. Second, you really should distance yourself from this man. If he is not being supportive to you right now he never will be. How could you love someone who treats you so awful? Do you love him or are you co-dependent? Sweety, he is no good for you. You need a man who is gonna be supportive of you and stand beside you when you are hurting. You deserve more than what he is giving. In fact, it sounds like he is intentionally being a stupid jerk. How could he be treating you like this when he is supposed to love you? He doesn't have a clue what love is, obviously. I wish you the very best and I hope you cope with your loss in a healthy way. Talk to someone, though. Don't keep your feeling bottled up inside. Think about starting a new life without this man when you are emotionally stable enough to think about life. You would be better off alone than with this jerk. God bless you and I hope you get through this. You will but you must be strong.
2006-07-07 21:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by whatshername 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you as confused as your story is? Please, stop , take a deep breath and start all over. Your post sounds as if you are overwrought ...about what exactly, I am not sure. If you are as emotionally unbalanced as you say, you need to see a doctor. There is too much missing from your story for anyone here to help you. Pick up the telephone and call your physician. You need help...why are you cutting yourself? STOP...call someone that you can trust and tell them what is happening in your life. You really need to let someone know (that can really help you) that you are cutting yourself. There are seven stages in grief but none of them say anything about mutilation. Get help, please.
Maybe if you start talking about what you feel inside and stop holding it all in, you will be able to release some of the pressure you are feeling, instead of releasing your life's blood. Don't give up...look up. Find God and let Him into your life. I will say a prayer for you. God bless...
2006-07-07 21:01:36 · answer #4 · answered by gmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, file for sepparation or divorce. This guy is being an @ss and needs 2 wake up. it is extremely difficult to loose a child and I'm sorry for you. You need to pack up and move out. stay with ur mother, ur friends, ur enemies, b/c this will be temporary just get out of that emotionally abusing relationship. Once you are back on your feet, sessions with a psychologist will help you become emotionally stable.
2006-07-07 20:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by Cynnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the cutting prob, I think (no offense meant in this whatsoever) that you should tell your parents! I'm very very very sorry about your child, and I hope that one of your friends will help you get through this difficult time! If your lover is hurting you emotionally, won't help you to get over this hard time, AND won't help you get over cutting yourself, I PERSONALLY would get a DIFFERENT LOVER! He obviously doesn't care about you like he should, and you should dump him for someone that cares about YOU and puts YOU first!!
2006-07-07 20:54:13 · answer #6 · answered by dna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear of your loss. Perhaps the lover is cold because he's sad and unsure how to go about expressing his feelings. If he always treats you poorly .even now. maybe you should find someone who can love and respect you the way you should be. As far as the cutting thing goes...be carefull maybe get some help???
2006-07-07 20:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off cutting yourself you have to stop that there is no relief in seeing yourself bleed or in pain so please stop that maybe he's upset b/c you lost the baby and he just doesn't know how to express hisself the only way he can is by being mean to you men dont know how to handle a situation like that so they tend to act out in other ways sorry he's being mean to you but you have to know for yourself that you deserve to be loved and treated like a queen at all times and if nobody wants to help you without you giving something in return you have to learn to do things on your own without the help of others you think about it when you do things yourself it gets done the right way
2006-07-07 20:57:05 · answer #8 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you lost your child but to answer your question, you need to dump him. He's being very insensitive about the situation. He should be there consoling you but instead he's making things worst for you. I say, dump him and about you cutting yourself, you should seek a doctor or something because you shouldn't have to hurt yourself to relieve yourself. What you need right now is love.
2006-07-07 21:08:28 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Ms. Heart♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek professional help immediately. It's difficult for others to love you and want to be around you if you don't love yourself. You should be the most important person in your life. Learn to move past hard times and let go of the people in your life that are not trying to help you get better. And Please stop cutting yourself!
2006-07-07 20:57:08 · answer #10 · answered by Cyndi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋