my husbands aunt died this morning and hes going but i have to return to work, should i call work and say im not going. i've never missed a day of work, im undecided
2006-07-07 13:31:58 · 46 answers · asked by mama 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the best person to answer this is your husband. Was he close to his aunt? Does he need your support? Did you know her?
2006-07-07 13:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most companies will let you off for a funeral for immediate family. I am not sure an aunt qualifies however what I would do is contact your boss and ask. Can't hurt but if he says no you have your decision.
Your husbands feelings about it are the most important. If he really would like you there call in sick. One day will not hurt your record.
Check it out, you may be surprised.
2006-07-07 13:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My paternal aunt passed back in February, I was studying for a mid term exam and decided not to go. I am still catching flack from the family for not attending, even though it would have required me to make a thousand mile round trip. I now wish I had attended just to satisfy the family's need for my presence. I worked through many of my family's outtings, birthdays, and special events as Ihad not missed any time off in many years. I still got downsized after 27 years on the job and the folks that missed work for family were retained.
But they are still working and I received a full and early retirement six years before I was eligible.
2006-07-07 13:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are entitled to time off for these things. Life and sanity is more important than work. Also your husband may be glad of your support and this lady certainly deserves some respect and a good send off. You wont get the opportunity to change your mind on something like this. I always say best to regret something you've done rather than something you didn't do. So go...
2006-07-07 13:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my condolences :(
obviously attending this funeral is not important enough for you to miss a day's work that's why you're even thinking twice about it...
i think you should go considering that this will be a family affair and you ARE a part of that family... and if the aunt is close to your husband, then your attendance will speak volumes in your husbands eyes... just imagine him there mournful without you to console him and everyone asking him where you're at... and then put yourself in his shoes, you'd want him to be by you right?
i believe people in your office will understand especially with your record of not missing any day in work...
2006-07-07 13:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by peanut butter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A funeral is meant to honor someones memory. If she was close to you, go. If your husband needs your support in mourning her death, go. If you just want a day off work, go to work and schedule an actual vacation. Sorry for the loss.
2006-07-07 13:36:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never missed a day? It's not like you get an attendance grade. Go to the funeral.
2006-07-07 13:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be entitled to berevment leave even if its only for the funeral phone work and see what your entitled to usually if its a aunt its 1 day closer family is 3 days plus you got to show respect and go
2006-07-11 04:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by bojomarriott 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ask your husband he'll say go to work but i'm guessing deep down he'll be dissapointed you arent there for him. Kinda depends on how close they were.. if they barely talked then no biggie, just go to work but if she meant a lot to him.. be there for him like you would want him to be here for you. Would you want to go to a funeral alone?
2006-07-07 13:35:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide whether it's more important to work or support your husband. I'd go to the funeral.
2006-07-07 13:36:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋