HOW do i get over the closest friend i have ever had that just died a few days ago?

Answer 1

oh my god. Im sure you will not find the answer here, but within your heart and your self. If you feel like crying, do so... it will help, but try to remember the person as she/he were alive and happy.
Just remember that god doesnt close a door for you before opening another one. You will find another friend, and after that one, more will come... it just takes time and effort.

Answer 2

You don't get over this kind of loss, but you do go on. Wouldn't that be what your friend would want? Allow yourself the time to grieve. Some days, you'll feel like you're doing okay, then something will happen and you'll think, "Oh I'll have to tell my friend about that", then you'll realize they're gone and the tears will come into your eyes again. But, you know what, tell them anyway. (Do it when you're alone, so other people won't think you're crazy.) I think it helps to envision that your friend is still around, even if on a different plane. And don't be hesitant to talk about your friend, to bring up funny stories or fond memories. Your friend will always be a part of you.

Answer 3

If I knew the answer to that I would be a happy man!
God will help you through it!
Talking to your friends and family always helps. Remember the good times.
And try not to kick yourself because sometimes there just isn't anything we can do.
I KNOW how you FEEL!
I have lost many of my family and friends!
My mother died in 2001 from cancer. She was my best friend and I miss her really bad! Then my Grandmother (her mom) gave up after my mother died and she died later that year...
Then I lost my brother to cancer just a couple of years ago, man it doesn't seem that long ago...
A girl that I knew was killed in a car wreck at the end of my road where I live.
I was very close to her and her family. So, I know how you feel!

As time goes on and you get into your own life things get better.
It doesn't go away, you just get stronger! The things that you did with your friend will always stay with you.
Your memories will NEVER DIE!
So, with all of my best thoughts to you...
Keep on keeping on! Seek our Lord Jesus to heal your heart... And God Bless...

Answer 4

You don't "get over" the loss of someone you've loved, you get through it. We lost our daughter six years ago to leukemia. We will never be "over" her. She'll always be a part of us. I'll bet the same is true of your friend and you.

I think what you're asking about is the intense pain. It will slowly dim within you. Sometimes, down the road, you'll hear a song, smell a food you once enjoyed sharing with your friend, see someone who reminds you of him/her, and the pain will swell up again for a little while. It's natural and OK.

If you hadn't loved your friend so much you wouldn't hurt so much. Take time and take care of yourself. Move slowly back on your own life journey knowing that you're going to hurt for a while but that things will get better eventually.

Above all, don't try to forget/stifle the friendship/love you had and still have for your friend. Your friend was a gift to you and that relationship will continue to bless/benefit you long after s/he has died.

My best to you.

Bill... father of Rachel who continues to bless us

Answer 5

Don't get over your friend... remember him/her. Remember the good times you shared and the time this person was there for you and vice versa. Have a good cry, look at old pictures, tell stories and anectdotes, remember this person with other friends and then maybe do something to honor your friend... something lasting. Make a contribution to a charity your friend was involved with or to some foundation your friend would have liked and make the donation in your friend's name. You could plant a tree or a rose bush outside your bedroom window so that you remember your friend every time you look at it. Did you know you can even have a star named after your friend? I don't know for sure how to do that but I'm sure you could find out online. Remember the good times and the pain will ease off as time passes. I promise.

Answer 6

You will probably never get over the loss of your friend completely, but you can heal and come to accept it. Some communities have groups for people who are grieving. Community Hospice has some of these groups free of charge for most participants. A therapist can also help. Churches often offer counseling for those who are grieving. Other than these options, remember to celebrate the life of your friend. Do something special in her honor, remember the good times you had with her, keep her in your heart.

Answer 7

I also lost a friend. I miss her practically every day. She was always there for me. When I could not sleep at night, she would listen to me until I was ready to go to sleep. Remember the good times you had with her. Memories are something that will not die. Try and reach out to someone else. You never know when a really good friend is just around the corner.

Answer 8

You will not get over it. You should not get over it. If you two were close, it will take time, a long time. Not much you can do but live your life and remember all the good things. How lucky are you that you two got to spend some time together? How boring would your life have been if you had never met? Live the life that they would have wanted you to live. Do the things your friend never got the chance to do.

Answer 9

Sorry for your loss...

First, you don't 'get over' your friend...you try and remember all the good memories that you shared with this person..and for the person above that said try not to think of them, PLEASE don't take their advice..you need to go thru the grieving process....so cry when you are sad, laugh when you are happy....Sometimes laughing is harder than crying because the living feel bad for being happy when their loved one is gone, but unfortunately DEATH is a part of LIFE...

So, talk about it when you need to....you will never get over it...it will, however, get easier with time...and each day that goes by you will be able to focus more on your friends life than their death

Again..I am sorry about your loss...
Keep your head up!

Answer 10

You have to celebrate their life, not mourn over the death of your friend. I had a good friend die in an accident and Everyone ended up having a party instead of a time of mourning after the funeral. Sure you can be sad. You are only human, but you need to be happy that they are in a better place now. Good Luck!

Answer 11

First, let me say that I am very sorry about your friend.

I don't know if you will ever "get over" the death of your friend, but you could approach the situation several ways.

1) think of the good times you had. The times you laughed together, did fun stuff together.

2) try not to think of your friend's death when you are most emotional.

3) accept the fact that your friend's death is serious, but he/she wouldn't want you to be sad over his/her passing.

4) Know that your friend was very important to you, and talk about him/her when you are asked "how you are doing"

Remember funny times together, remember how much you both had in common. But, if this only makes you more sad, you may try to find your own methods.