Correct me if I'm wrong. but isn't this every girl's delemna?
2006-07-07 12:45:58 · 44 answers · asked by TCBgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take a risk with someone new.. like the old cliche says, nothing ventured, nothing gained! You never know what's out there, and sure, you could get hurt, but you could also find someone who makes you very happy. I also think it's important to keep in mind that things ended with the first person for a reason- no matter how tempting a second chance might be, familiarity cannot make up for whatever was wrong with the relationship in the first place.
2006-07-07 12:53:00 · answer #1 · answered by jenn c 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it is every girls drama. It has been mine before. You have to decide for yourself. I have tried both in the past. And have had success and failures with both. Going back can be wonderful or can be a repeat of the first time. Going forward can be adventurous, new and fun but you can risk a lot. A lot of people stay safe and where they are comfortable, but if they have not grown and matured and the other person hasn't either it will just be a sequel. Its hard to tell though. A lot of times we don't take risks because we are afraid, but both are a risk if you look at it...all relationships have a degree of risk. You can always get hurt. But nothing good comes easy...as they say. So, if this is your dilemma you just think long and hard about both choices. Think about how you have matured, if the other person has in your opinion. Try to be logical and not emotional. Hope the best for you.
2006-07-07 12:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by missesbean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing: if it's over, it's over. You're no longer with the person you know for reasons you should remind yourself of. Most people only change for the short term, so if seems like he's changed from who he was before don't buy it. You'll only be giving yourself the same grief you went through before.
New people come with new opportunities. Sometimes you walk away knowing a few things you didn't know before, and other times you find someone who intrigues and romances you the way you've always known it could be.
As far as every girl's dilemma, you will learn that you can't change someone into who you want them to be. Find someone who closely resembles your ideal person and tweak them. In the end, you'll find yourself a happy and satisfied individual and your partner will be happy and satisfied as well.
2006-07-07 14:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by David 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Much rather take the risk. Never go back to someone you have already left. There was a reason you left that person in the first place. RISK! RISK! RISK!
2006-07-07 12:49:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion I would rather take the risk because why go back to someone you already know? Apparently you stopped seeing each other for a reason.
2006-07-07 16:14:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's every person's dilemma at some point in life. I guess it depends on what the girl wants. Going back to someone you know means that you know what you are getting into and you know what needs to be worked on with that person. Going with someone new means starting all over in every aspect and you have no idea what you could be getting yourself into.
2006-07-07 12:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the risk. Fear of the unknown,
is much better than a pre-formulated
life, in a can. No dilemma for me,
anymore...
Women are kept behind, all the time.
Take a chance, live.
2006-07-07 18:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by nightflyerkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since I broke up w/ my bf 4x already & it's been 3 wks (June 7th) when we broke up, yes, I'd rather take a risk on someone new. Meeting new guys is kinda risky but it's a part of life. Live & learn.
2006-07-07 12:48:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally, i will say go for someone new, it might be a risk, but it might also be the best thing that happened to you...cuz...if you go for someone new, you are able to start all over again and also correct the mistakes you made with the old person...nobody can tell you what exactly to do...its only you that can say what exactly you want...a new person or an old one...all we can do, is just give you advices....but whatever you do pls...do not choose both of them...
2006-07-08 05:16:57 · answer #9 · answered by forgive and forget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say risk!
I have never gone back to an old boyfriend. I learned from the previous relationship and went on to select an even better guy in my next relationship. I have learned with every relationship and each one has gotten progressively better.
Looking forward to the next one!
2006-07-07 18:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by shoppingontherun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋