A little advice from the 30 and above crowd?

Question

I'm not doing so great with the idea of not being in my 20's anymore. How did you come to terms with this and what did you do to celebrate your 30th birthday. No one will let me stay 29 and holding haha
Seriously though, this has been a real problem for me and I just keep getting more and more depressed. I guess that I saw myself in a different place in life by the time I was 30 and now its 5 days away and I am so not in that place.

When I say I'm not where I saw myself at 30...I didn't neccesarily mean that it's a horrible thing. It's tough to accept that I will be the parent of a teen at the end of the month, I thought that I would be remarried, own my own home, instead just last year I started life all over moving 3000 miles from my hometown and leaving almost all my material posessions behind (which didn't really bother me) I just didn't think I would be "starting over"

Answer 1

Look at it like this, with age comes more grace, beauty, intellect, and maturity. You also have a better respect and understanding of things that those younger than us do not. But what's more important is that you have a better idea of what you want from life and how to go about getting it, and lets not forget the fact that now you can be far more devious than other and know how to get away with things that they can. Adding the years to us can not be helped. If you look at it with a positive outlook, and another period of your life for a new adventure and fun. Then you are on your way to even better things. Enjoy the new time of your life, 30 is only the beginning of better and more fun times. Have a great birthday, do something devious for fun and have some one else take the blame. Best wishes to you.

Answer 2

I had a really hard time turning 25. Turning 30 didn't phase me much, it wasn't till I turned 31 and 32 (and holding on) and noticed some grays,I didn't like that much. On my 30th my husband and friends had a party for me and my sister (we are twins) I had a great time. There were things in my life I thought I would have or accomplished by 30 but then I thought about how old my mother was and thought I have possibly 40 years left to live and do whatever it is I want. 30's are great and i think it will keep getting better.
I use to think I had to have things a certain way at a certain age but it isn't true. Things happen when they happen and when your ready for them to enter your life. I hope you learn to love your 30's, there great!

Answer 3

Turning 30 wasn't a big deal for me. I woke up on my birthday & got out of bed & did the same things & do every other day. Turning 31 however, seemed like the end of the world for me! I cried for 3 days. Now that the stupidity of that is over, I'm fine. If I'm jumping on the trampoline or swimming in a bikini or chasing my silly children around the house or outside at 2am some ask why don't I act my age. To that I reply, "I've never been this age before so how do I know how to "act my age?"

Answer 4

i thought 30 would bother me but it didn't affect anymore than turning 29. it did help to hear that the 30's are the new 20's and that the 40's are the new 30's. i guess it has something to do with people being more career oriented and putting off having families until they are more established in life. don't let it get you down. after all, age is just a state of mind.

Answer 5

Look at it as just another day.. When you go to bed 29 and you wake up 30, your not instantly going to be a different person with a cane and walker.. Your the same person you were when you went to sleep, only a few hours has passed..

As far as life and not being where you wanted to be, well, life is like that.. when I was 18, I thought I was going to go to college, join the navy and fly jets.. well, i went to college, but turned out I was too short to fly.. so, you adjust your life accordingly.. each day you wake up is another opportunity to make your life what you want.. and at 30, you still have many years ahead of ya to do just that.. rather than set long term goals, set yourself some short term ones.. by next week, you want to have x amount of dollars saved, for example.. little goals add up, and they are easier to achieve then huge long term goals.. make your lil goals work towards the long term goal, and eventually that goal will be a short term goal as well.

Happy Birthday.. hope its a good one.

Answer 6

There are some birthdays that are much more difficult. I remember telling an older man that came into the office where I was working on my twenty birthday that I was not a teenager and not an adult (21). He told me to enjoy whatever age I was and then he gave me a twenty dollar bill. I will always remember that.
Thirty was also difficult because I was single again and had no children. I think forty was the most difficult because I knew that more than half of my life was over. Happy Birthday. Enjoy whatever age you are...

Answer 7

Relax. Enjoy the moment. I forgot what it was to be 30 and I really don't care to go back. I did what I had to do in life and went on. Accept that you cannot change and you will be a lot better. It is okay to feel depressed. Find 30's something crowds and you will feel a lot better.

I could add more but this is it in a nutshell.

Answer 8

It sounds like you've gotten attached to some kind of unnecessary idea about age that is not good for you. Many people grow to be happier in middle age, or even old age, than when they were young. Unless one is struck by serious illness or tragedy (things that can come at any age), there is no reason to be unhappy. I'm 51 and I've never been happier. My advice is: be creative, find out what you love to do and do it, do what you can to make the world around you a better place, take good care of your health, and don't worry about your age. Good luck! I wish you happiness.

Answer 9

Age is really just a number, if you don't feel old, you aren't old. Think of all the people you know who are in their 60's and 70's and older and are young at heart.
As they say, being 30 is also better than the alternative!
Enjoy your birthday and celebrate being alive instead of worrying about how many candles are on the cake.

Answer 10

I know exactly how you are feeling and did the same thing when i was about to turn 30 2 years ago. Let me tell you, 30 is much better than the 20s ever tried to be!!!