The way I see is..if you think I am not good enough to be your wife...Then why would I want to have sex with someone who thinks so lowly of me?????
Is that right??? Souldn't there be respect....Isn't our body the most precious thing we could give and not to be taken lightly??
2006-07-07 12:17:00 · 19 answers · asked by Kraljica Katica 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I totally agree with you. Your body is precious; it is the only one you will ever have. Your life is precious, too. Why would anyone give the most precious gift of sexual expression to someone who hasn't pledged to cherish you? It degrades the woman so much! Nowadays, a lot of people don't respect themselves enough to withhold this gift for the person who truly deserves it. You can only give it once! The consequences of casual sex are horrendous: lowered self-respect, emotional and spiritual problems, heartbreak, most likely a nasty STD, possibly pregnancy, possibly abortion, possibly being consigned to poverty and marginal living for a long time, and so forth. Why anyone would prefer occasional bouts of 15 minutes of pleasure to long-term well-being is a total mystery to me. It's a lousy trade! Especially when you can have it all, including the DEEP meaning of sex denied to those who practice it casually. Sex is for bonding. Who wants to be bonded to a jerk who just wants to use your body? We need to stop tolerating this casual approach to such a wonderful and meaningful gift, because it infects all of us.
It has been shown that casual sex erodes a person's ability to trust her spouse. We have been married for over 40 years, and our trust in each other is complete. That's something I would never trade for a few episodes of 15 minutes of pleasure. Never, ever.
I find the idea that a man who respects me would ever expect sex from me outside of marriage totally incomprehensible. Sorry, but if he will have casual sex with you, he doesn't respect you.
2006-07-08 10:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by Pat G 3 · 9⤊ 1⤋
Are you crazy...
thats not waht respect is girl... respect ids not cheating or bullying,
Not treating you unfairly etc...
Why are you so obessed with marriage... People stay together as like each other, they dont need a fancy party.
If it works out it works out...
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Isn't our body the most precious thing we could give and not to be taken lightly??
no as you aint had sex you have no idea what you are on about...
we would like someoenwho knows what they were doing have done the rookie errors during teen yearts.
And why could not waith to make out when we met up and be fun to be with...
Loose the formality and live life or you will end up in a very unhappy marriage as it will be all rules of behavour , but no love or affection
2006-07-07 21:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the man and what you want out of the relationship. I have dated Arab Muslim men of various nationalities, Egyptian and Moroccan. I'm not Arab or Muslim. There was an Iranian guy in college that had a major crush on me and wanted to date me. Did I have sex with them all, no of course not! One yes and we now have a beautiful 6 year old daughter. We called of our engagement 3 years ago and went our separate ways. The fact that we are not together had nothing to do with sex rather personal differences that go way beyond sex or religion. I wanted out. If you feel that you should wait for marriage to have sex...then wait, that's your choice.
F.Y.I My daughter's father's first wife was a virgin and they waited til marriage...he divorced her and a big part of the reason is because he wasn't satisfied. Sex is an important aspect of the relationship, if you and your husband are both virgins...great!! Because you won't know any better or worst and you'll always be each others best.
2006-07-09 10:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does not want to marry you then he has no right to your body. Your body is precious and not a free for all. Sex should be between a women and her husband. If he only wants your body then he would not be a good husband and certainly not a pious man and is not marriage material in the first place.
2006-07-08 11:48:36 · answer #4 · answered by Umm Ali 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you are 100% right i mean, the whole purpose of a relationship is knowing each other to see if you can go further (marriage), if a person who's into a relationship doesn't at least consider marriage as possibility then that person is not in love. Therefore, why a lady that actually respects herself, at least for dignity would dare to have sex with that person?
I think you can't start a relationship without thinking were are you going... i mean if you don't see yourself with that person in at least the following years then please stop it before you loose your time, and what is more, you hurt the other person who probably is truly in love, and doesn't deserve such a thing.
2006-07-07 19:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many variables - Marriage should be a one time thing, and if you feel that sex is only acceptable in Marriage - then fair enough! However, if you are asking a guy on third date or whatever to agree to marry you, so you can have sex - they will run away screaming "bunny boiler" !
2006-07-07 19:35:01 · answer #6 · answered by Kilo Delta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because a man doesn't want to marry you doesn't mean he doesn't respect you - I have had boyfriends, male friends, female friends, all have been perfectly respectable of me without wanting to marry me. Sure to some sex is precious, but not everyone believes it to be something kept only within marriage, people like myself believe it to be a sharing of something and given as I do not believe in marriage nor plan to have one myself I would have sex with a man who refused to marry me – as long as he respected me.
2006-07-07 19:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by Kasha 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I wasn't intersted in marriage and just using him for sex,yes. If a man is not a good lover,why would I want to marry him in the first place ???
2006-07-07 21:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have sex with any man. I'm not gay.
But, for a man's perspective of it.... some women are always going to sleep with men without being married to them, (no, not just hookers, either). Why? Because human beings, with all of our bells and whistles, are still just animals with animalistic needs... married or not. We're just smarter than the other animals, that's all.
2006-07-07 19:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by Geoff H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had lots of sex. with lots of men and never for a moment did I think about marriage. Just taking care of the dog in me.
2006-07-07 19:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋