I am 20yrs old and I have yet to find a MAN to give my virginity to, and as time passes I've begun to lose to hope. Did you feel this way around the time you lost your viriginity? Did you just give it up out of fear of never meeting THE ONE, or out of TRUE love for your partner?
2006-07-07 12:07:32 · 20 answers · asked by Unwritten 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was 18. It was my first relationship. wish I would've waited to be sure he was truly THE ONE.
Becoming intimate w/ someone is a very personal thing.
It's not like a sweater or t-shirt that you can get back.
Some spiritual people may ssay that you can be born again & revirginize, that's only partially true. Once you've shared something so intimate w/ someone, there's a part of you that is a part of them(& no longer yours) forever.....
Just be certain that THE ONE you decide to give yourself to will appreciate (& not in a self gratifying kinda way) the gift.
2006-07-07 12:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by 1derous1 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I lost it at 18 after waiting.. or what I thought was waiting.. I felt pressured by my beau at the time and back then I thought that is what I had to do to keep him.. (not that dumb now!- I'm 27) But I also started to feel like.. what is the point.. why wait.. does it really matter... will I ever really find anyone anyways.. ? yadda yadda yadda.. but then I made the wrong decision.. and really have always regreted it. It's one of those things you can never take back. So I guess my suggestion is.. if you give up on waiting.. make sure you do it for yourself and with someone you feel safe and care for. If you continue to wait.. you never know you may regret that also. Lack of experience.. and never knowing.. what's what.. turn ons, turn offs, get offs, all that. But at the same time .. diseases... yikes.. and then ... I know I sound confused myself.. but I would suggest waiting.. you made it this far.. you will probably fall in love well before you know it.. and will have no question of what to do.. whether it be wait or not.
2006-07-07 12:34:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 16 when I lost it to the love of my life. We waited a year and a half before, though, which made us strong as a couple. We each knew who the other was, what we wanted out of life, etc. We made sure we loved each other for who we were before taking that next step. Now, we are engaged and are to be married next summer.
Never give up on 'the one'. There is someone out there who is your match, you can count on that. In the meantime, enjoy your freedom as a single woman. You are young still and have much to look forward to in your life. When you meet 'the one', you will know. And to be sure he is 'the one', put off sex until you absolutely can't resist. That way, you will know exactly who he is. Chemistry isn't just in the bedroom. You have to balance each other in life too. It may not be perfect the first few times, and it may test your relationship, but you will be stronger for working through the complications it proposes. Don't throw it away. Wait until you find someone who is REALLY worth it.
2006-07-09 19:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 13 years old when i lost mine and i did believe it was out of true love....I don't regret it but I do believe its the reason why I don't think of sex as an emotional feeling, but physical....its probably sad, but I don't regret anything Ive ever done.......To me sex is something that I feel I need sometimes and don't want to wait to find love to get it, but rather can just share a wonderful sexual experience with someone else who feels the same way.
2006-07-07 12:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by 1981 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was only 14, and I think I should have wated a little longer. But thats what happens when teens are not informed about sex. They just want to experience because they dont know about it. Im 18 now, and I dont regret it, cause I cant go back, but I could've wated a little more
2006-07-07 12:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by katherinep20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have something so wonderful, I truly hope you don't give it away out of fear. I lost my virginity at the age of 18 and it was all for the wrong reason. I didn't enjoy it and regret it to this day. I would strongly advise you to save your special gift for that right one, he is out there....BE PATIENT!!!
2006-07-07 12:13:30 · answer #6 · answered by Dana D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my virginity at 15, it was to the man that I was later married to for 15 years. No regrets.
2006-07-07 12:10:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie, you are young. I regret growing up as quick as I did. I say good for you for waiting for someone special. Most women give it up too quick and that ends in heartbreak. Mr Right will come along. Remember, women mature faster than men- give them some time to catch up with you girl!
Also, I made my current bf wait for a long time. He said it was so much better to wait and get to know each other. We are together now 9 months.
2006-07-07 12:10:02 · answer #8 · answered by Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was 20 (three months shy of 21). I regret not giving it to someone else whom I was dating a couple of years earlier.
2006-07-07 12:41:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I lose it to the man I was going to married at the age of 22
2006-07-07 12:08:46 · answer #10 · answered by Linda 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋