Do you think people who give up children for adoption should be forced to speak to their (given up) children or give up personal information if the child demands it later in life? Or should the person who gave the child up be allowed to remain completely anonymous if they choose?
2006-07-07 11:51:32 · 11 answers · asked by Delicious Pear 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you don't mind - please explain WHY you answered the way you did.
2006-07-07 11:56:47 · update #1
Im a 31 year old adopted man who for as long as i can remember i have yearned to know my true history. mostly ethnic background hereditary diseases and lineage. and yes, i must admit that i have questions i would love to ask my biological parents. but i know in my heart that the decision to give me up to strangers couldn't have been at all easy and moving past it must have taken a long time. so to have the past come back and haunt you must terrifying. and the way it works in wisconsin, you have to go through the state with a request for your files to be opened. with out this they remained sealed. and the only way to obtain access is by informing the biological parents of the petition and asking for their permission. which in essence is opening the door to their lives. i have not done this purely for that reason. i dont want to alter someone elses life just because i am curious. i believe it is alot easier for the parents to contact the children and if they ever choose to,great. but in the meanwhile i would like to see the state regulate a messgae board of sorts where my parents could leave an open ok when and if they choose and vise versa and have better records assistance in the event that parents and child both are searching. but yes to your question, the parents who have choosen a closed adoption should be able to keep their anonimity.
2006-07-07 12:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by David&Meredith B 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It would appear that the rights of the birth parents far outweight the rights of the adoptee. Important medical knowledge may not have surfaced at the time the child was given up for adoption. For those that know where they came from and knowledge of familial medical issues, imagine the questions without answers for so many adoptees. Just a simple physical requires medical history that can NOT be answered. As genealogy advance with more people adding their DNA to the databanks, hopefully, more adoptees will find answers. Also, adoptee's descendants have questions, too. When filling in medical history or a family tree, the information stops at the adoptee. That can be a BIG hole even for the children and grandchildren of the adoptee with regard to family trees. History has meaning. At this point, adoptees and their descendants are denied their genetic heritage. The birth parents "right to privacy" should, if nothing else stop at death, or a time period deemed reasonable life expectancy. An adoptee who is 75 yrs old has a resonable expectation that his/her birth parents are deceased. It is unreasonable to give rights to the deceased over the living.
2016-11-15 04:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on the scenario described it is a "closed" adoption. In this case it would be up to the birth parent to disclose, or not, any personal information requested by the child. It is not easy being an adopted child...it raises all kinds of emotional issues and some adoptees deal with those better than others, but I think the rights of the birth parents should be honored.
2006-07-07 12:01:06 · answer #3 · answered by marlio 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think that a full medical family history should be given with the child to the adoptive parents at the time that the child is adopted. A lot of adoptions are closed adoptions so the birth family is unknown to the adopted family so I guess I don't understand the question. If you want absolutely no contact don't do an open adoption.
2006-07-07 12:06:22 · answer #4 · answered by babygirl_k2001 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that when a child is given up for adoption, a full medical history of the family should be included in case it is ever needed. After that, it should only be upon mutual agreement that the two ever know one more fact about each other.
There are agencies that help adopted children get in touch with their birth parents, but each party has to approach the agency separately. If both have, then the agency makes arrangements for them to make contact.
2006-07-07 11:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it should be by request only through a Judge. If the Judge sees the need, or if the birth people agree then the information should be given. Sometimes it can save lives, such as health matters like cancer, heart problems and such. However, if the birth people do not want the child to know who they are, a judge can handle it so that no one finds out.
2006-07-07 11:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by redhotboxsoxfan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that a child given up for adoption should be allowed to know medical history as well as family heritage.
I was adopted and i always wondered about these two things and when i was reunited and found out it was so exciting.
2006-07-07 12:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by Jade 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
the giver gave away the baby and the rights. If the adoptee wants to find out more they should be alowed to question the giver in private, no strings attached
2006-07-07 11:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by Maryann 74 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Information such as health problems...yes..
2006-07-07 11:55:53 · answer #9 · answered by Jessi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think they should be required to give up medical information, but not personal information.
2006-07-07 11:55:59 · answer #10 · answered by sparkydog_1372 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋