I am 17 and I have been going out with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half. A lot of my friends have already had sex but he and I are virgins. I want to stay a virgin until I am at least 18. A lot of my friends say it is weird but I think that any younger is gross. I can pleasure him in other ways anyways. :) What is your opinion on the right age. Do not tell me stuff like "when the time is right, there is no age limit, etc."
2006-07-07 10:57:14 · 10 answers · asked by clever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give it up to him! Don't torture the poor guy.
2006-07-11 19:46:34 · answer #1 · answered by John Smith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are emotionally and mentally mature to deal with it. Losing your virginity is more a mental than a physical thing. Just pease make sure you are responsible and in control of your sex life. Go to an OB find out about contraception and sexually transmitted diseases, and exams that you will have to spend some time on at least once a year, like a pap smear. Please be an informed person and take charge of your sexual and reproductive health. Your bf (contrary to what they promise) will not give a moment's thought to protecting you from pregnancy, so it's up to you and that means taking control and being responsible. Better yet, both go to the OB and talk about it.
A bad age is when you are pressed to do it when you are not really sure, either by your bf or your peers. Of not having enough wits to say no, and of not having enough information to start with. Having your friends tell you it's weird is only their opinion, they are not you, they do not rule your life. Many times we will find our friends are even less informed than we are.
The fact that he's virgin also poses a problem because usually the man has a head start on that issue, but if not, then read a bit about what is to be expected and the differences between men and women, like women taking longer to climax, what is foreplay, etc. If it just becomes a wham, bam, thank you m'am, thing that would be starting off on the wrong foot. The beautifully choreographed sexual encounters you see in the movies are fake, things do not work out that way, sometimes one of the parties does not climax or you feel uncomfortable with the way your body looks.
You mention that you can pleasure him in other ways, what about him pleasuring you? If he does not know what gives you pleasure before actually having sex for the first time, then you both have your work cut out for you, communication is needed, the only way to know what your partner likes and feels is to ask and to talk about it. There is plenty of material and manuals and advice about the topic, just look for something serious and down to earth, love, respect, passion and admiration will take care of the rest. Like any intimate and personal subject try not to talk about it among your friends, I strongly believe in the right to privacy.
By the way, when either of you guys say no, its no. If you can't respect that, then you are not ready. If your bf starts demanding sex often because you already did it once, then you are not ready for it, that only turns the woman into an object. If you are willing to do anything just so he won't leave you, then you are not ready. If he brags about it to his friends, he is not ready. If either of you are not willing to listen to the other about it, then you are not ready.
Hope it helps
2006-07-07 18:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by Karan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There isn't an age limit but it is good to feel that both people are mature enough to handle a very intimate act. Don't have sex just to say your not a virgin, like you said both of you can be pleased in other ways.
2006-07-07 18:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by sean o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage--because---
The only thing you can offer your future husband (whether it is your current b/f or not) is your virginity. No one else can offer him that. When you lose your virginity before marriage you lose some of your self esteem, your credibility, your reputation for purity, and add guilt and worry.
You should never lose your virginity until you are ready to assume the responsibility of parenthood. Once you have sex (so called protected or not) you have the chance of bringing another human being into the world and you must be able to be responsible psychologically, emotionally, financially, and mature enough to take care of the total needs of a baby.
Think about it.
2006-07-07 18:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say 17 years, 4 months, 13 days, and 2 hours, give or take a couple minutes.
Sorry love. The answer you don't want to hear is the right one. When you're mature enough to weigh the risks and benefits and decide it's right.
2006-07-07 18:00:06 · answer #5 · answered by Phil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sure that your sure he's a virgin and he really loves you from the heart not the pants.
Then marry him at 18 give up the draws and live happily ever after.
We never forget our first love , that's why your relationship has better chance of survival ( first love as in first sex)
Bad age is before marriage
2006-07-07 18:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not really about age. it's all on your views on sex and maturity. age is just a number.
back in the old days, girls got married at 12 years of age and had kids, etc....
it's more controvertial now because of all the std's the casual sex and the unplanned pregnancies.
2006-07-07 18:02:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
17...if your boyfriend is the same age. Make sure that your boyfriend and you are in a serious relationship and that you love eachother, and he won't leave you if you do (not saying you will) get pregnant. Okay?
If thats all set, go for it!
2006-07-07 18:07:43 · answer #8 · answered by Lauren123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u are under 16 dont do it, if u are over 30...red alarm
2006-07-07 18:06:05 · answer #9 · answered by Slim Dogg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHEN EVER YOU FEEL THAT YOUR SPOT NEEDS TO BE LOADED
2006-07-07 18:01:56 · answer #10 · answered by MonirSalum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋