My parents are verry distance in the last time, and my father, in some days is not talking with my mother at all! He ignors her! I see her crying in a room, and when i ask her why is my dad acting like that, she says to me to stay out of their busines! Please help me, cause i don't know what to do! U all are my last chance!
2006-07-07 10:30:43 · 28 answers · asked by Sandra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi Sweetie.
I guess some of the best ways to help your parents right now would be to do your best in school, keep your room clean and help around the house when you can.
You could help your parents by praying for them. God can do wonderful things.
I want you to know that I will be praying for you and that this weight will be lifted off of your heart.
2006-07-07 10:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by Patti 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, first off you should know that no matter what your parents are going through it is not your fault. Secondly there is not much you can do. But if you feel that you must do something, even after your mom has told you to stay out of their business; you could write a separate letter to each one of them. Tell them how you feel about the situation and ask that they talk to you and not act as though you can't see what is going on and not to act like it shouldn't concern you. Although your mother may not be to perceptive to the idea, knowing that it is bothering you may force them to work together on the problems they are having. Just pray on it, it will get better.
2006-07-07 17:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by icandyshaun69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your dad, you know dads are closer to their daughters..that is what i have discovered because i have that relationship with my dad..go out with him on a trip or something like that..and talk to him..that is the best time because you will definetly know what the problem is and share your feelings with him. Tell him about what mum has been doing in the room and the affect his actions is causing her and you. You must tell him that so that he is aware of the pain he is causing. I am sure when you express your feelings as a daughter, what you feel and what you are observing, he will improve and maybe change his attitude towards mum. all the best..dear!!
2006-07-07 17:47:49 · answer #3 · answered by Concerned advisor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't resolve the situation for them; that will be an exercise in futility. I understand that you must feel very concerned for them, but it's your parents' business and obviously there is a lot they're not telling you, which is unfair because they clearly don't see that it affects you. Parents can be pretty clueless. You need to not try to solve their problems for them, but instead tell each of them that their conflict makes you feel "______" and if they could explain the problem to you in a way that doesn't make them feel that exposed, that it would allay some of your fears. Parents must learn that their conflicts affect their children whether they realize it or not, and in not explaining what they are feeling and what their plan for resolution is, they are depriving you of an important life lesson. They are being selfish. Temporarily blinded perhaps, but selfish nonetheless. You have to be the mature one here, and tell them how you feel, and ask them to clue you in. If they don't, don't bother worrying about it. It will resolve itself over time, and you will have other things to worry about, like where to learn these life lessons if you can't get them from your parents.
2006-07-07 17:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by ohpeatmoss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not really your place to do anything. You are not the cause of your parents problems, so you have no need to be the solution. I'm sure it's very hard to see your dad hurting your mom this way, but there is really nothing you can or should do. Just remember that your parents might not love each other anymore, but they still love you.
2006-07-07 17:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sandra...I feel for you. That's a tough situation to be caught in the middle of for sure. It's obvious that there is some sort of marital discord happening within your home. I know there has to be a million things and concerns running through your mind right now. You yourself need someone to talk to about how this is making you feel. So you need to be thinking about that as well.
As far as your parents are concerned you might, at the appropriate time, try individually communicating with each of them. Sit down and tell them what you have observed and how it makes you feel. Truly tell them your deep heart-felt concerns and fears. If your worried that this could lead to potential breakup of your family...please make that known to them. Believe me it will make an impact on them. They may never fully disclose what's all involved, however, they may at least lend some credence to your concerns and love for them and for the family.
Do what your heart tells you...it will rarely lead you astray :)
You and your family are in my prayers. Best of luck :)
-Danny
2006-07-07 18:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by Danny M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing their problem there is not much you can do. Show them both how much you care about them. Make time to be with them and try not to "side" with one or the other. Spend equal time with each.
Don't question their problems while you're with them. They may need to get some relief from the stress of their problem. Try to get them to smile.
You could be a common bond that brings them together. But if it doesn't happen don't blame yourself. You will always be their child and I hope they don't use you against each other.
Best wishes.
2006-07-07 17:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by Gregory B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend the next few days acting like you are a puppy. Only communicate with them in barks and yelps. Sooner or later, one will have to ask the other what is wrong with you.
When they start talking, tell them in human English that you need your rabies shot.
They'll never not talk again!
2006-07-07 17:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by El Guapo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough spot. On the one hand it IS there business. Kids don't always have to know what's going on between parents. But on the other hand, their outward displays of hostility are not fair to the kids and may even affect the kids emotional state.
You should probably try to approach your mom or dad with they're not crying or angry (yeah, I know that may be NEVER) and try to ask them calmly what's going on. Let them know that you are worried about them, about you, about the family. I don't know your age or if you have siblings, but if you do have brothers and/or sisters, you might think about enlisting them. If all of you "demand" answers as to whats going on, you just might get them. Tell you parents you don't need to know all the sordid details, just that you want to know if this is something that is going to affect all of you. Parents often don't realize that their fighting, yelling and such affects the kids deeply, so much so that it may last their whole life. Ask them separately, ask them together, but ASK them: what's going on? Let them know you care and need to know.
2006-07-07 17:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can't....sorry but this is only gonig to make it worse if u try to help and whatever happens know its not ur fault.sorry to say but dear u can't help at all u can talk to ur mom and say im sorry u feel bad but don't ask questions about it cause ur mom is tryign to deal with her own probelms and tho u r trying to help but ur mom doesn't want u to know whats happening and she doesn't want to do this and u to see her cry in front of u,and shes mad,sad,and frustated and she can't talk so its best to just sit next to her and not say anything ,give her a hug and a kiss and tell her that u love u and leave.
2006-07-07 17:42:46 · answer #10 · answered by soccer_chick4333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋